Antoineo Posted July 19, 2018 Posted July 19, 2018 I'm 18 years old and never had a girlfriend nor ever have I gone on a date. There's this one girl I like, we go to French language course and she kind of gave me mixed signals, one day she seemed like really into me but the second day she just acted normal and this has been going on for a week. I have a problem like deciding is she into me or not and this really annoys me. I'm collecting courage to ask her out but the main problem would be if she rejected me then I would have to sit with her in the same room for 2 hours for 5 days a week. Even If she accepted I would have no idea where to take her or what to chat with her.
basil67 Posted July 19, 2018 Posted July 19, 2018 Start at the beginning: have you ever had a conversation with her?
Lotsgoingon Posted July 19, 2018 Posted July 19, 2018 One step at a time. Can you converse with her after class? Does she get to class early? ... Can you talk there? Walk out with her, and talk about the class ... what you liked, what you didn't like, homework, totally topical. Ask her about the class ... how she's doing in general. Start there and see how she responds. See how you feel.
Author Antoineo Posted July 19, 2018 Author Posted July 19, 2018 Start at the beginning: have you ever had a conversation with her? Yes, one day when we finished we had about 2-3 minute chat and that was it. We say good day to each other but that's about it.
Author Antoineo Posted July 19, 2018 Author Posted July 19, 2018 (edited) One step at a time. Can you converse with her after class? Does she get to class early? ... Can you talk there? Walk out with her, and talk about the class ... what you liked, what you didn't like, homework, totally topical. Ask her about the class ... how she's doing in general. Start there and see how she responds. See how you feel. Not really I usually come first because my house is located far away so I go 2 hours before the class and she rarely comes early but when she comes there's usually other people around. When we finish we go our separate ways and I just think about her the whole time while I travel home. Edited July 19, 2018 by Antoineo
OatsAndHall Posted July 19, 2018 Posted July 19, 2018 This may seem shady to some people but I got quite a few dates in college by asking girls from my classes if they wanted to get together and study. We would actually go over the material from the class but we'd also make small talk as well. One study session led to another which finally led to a study "date" (i.e. meet, study for a half hour, go to dinner) and then an actual date. But, I'd only do this after having a few conversations with them before or after class.
Lotsgoingon Posted July 19, 2018 Posted July 19, 2018 Time your exit so that you walk out when she walks out. I get it she's surrounded by people ... Here's something you can do in the meantime. Practice talking to other women in the class as you leave. Practice talking to anyone else who arrives early like you, guy or woman. You need to practice on anyone ... and then you can carry that over into talking to a woman you want to ask out.
Author Antoineo Posted July 19, 2018 Author Posted July 19, 2018 We don't actually study at home nor do we have homework its hands-on approach where we constantly talk to each other in French or at least try to and it's very effective.
Author Antoineo Posted July 19, 2018 Author Posted July 19, 2018 (edited) Time your exit so that you walk out when she walks out. I get it she's surrounded by people ... Here's something you can do in the meantime. Practice talking to other women in the class as you leave. Practice talking to anyone else who arrives early like you, guy or woman. You need to practice on anyone ... and then you can carry that over into talking to a woman you want to ask out. I'm an honest guy I will say what I think and to me, the problem is not talking to her but more of what to talk about like theme? I could go on the usual stuff school, family, life... When it comes to approaching her its more of an judgment should I? The signs are not clear. And I constantly think of the consequence of she rejecting me. Yeah, I will be depressed and stuff but the level of awkwardness when we have classes would be so over the top. Edited July 19, 2018 by Antoineo
Ami1uwant Posted July 20, 2018 Posted July 20, 2018 You need to start talking to her and get to know her.
d0nnivain Posted July 20, 2018 Posted July 20, 2018 We don't actually study at home nor do we have homework its hands-on approach where we constantly talk to each other in French or at least try to and it's very effective. You are young so the first ask has to be sort of neutral. In French ask her if she would like to go get a an aperitif or croissant (seriously pick a French consumable) with you because you want to continue parlez vous francis (I'm pretty sure I butchered that but was trying to say continue speaking French) If she says yes, go & flirt in French, of course. If she says no, it's no harm no foul because you only asked her to study / practice, not weird at all.
Doost Posted July 20, 2018 Posted July 20, 2018 Ask her out in French. Then if she says no play it off like you were obviously just practicing your french and it’s hilarious she thinks you like her like that. She has a good chance of saying yes if you don’t overthink this or chicken out. Don’t worry about worst case scenarios that won’t happen.
Author Antoineo Posted July 20, 2018 Author Posted July 20, 2018 You are young so the first ask has to be sort of neutral. In French ask her if she would like to go get a an aperitif or croissant (seriously pick a French consumable) with you because you want to continue parlez vous francis (I'm pretty sure I butchered that but was trying to say continue speaking French) If she says yes, go & flirt in French, of course. If she says no, it's no harm no foul because you only asked her to study / practice, not weird at all. I'm not sure would she fully understand me. I guess I could ask her "Wanna go on a rendez-vous mademoiselle"? hahahhhahahahahha
Author Antoineo Posted July 20, 2018 Author Posted July 20, 2018 You need to start talking to her and get to know her. Thats why I want to ask her out in order to meet her.
Author Antoineo Posted July 20, 2018 Author Posted July 20, 2018 Ask her out in French. Then if she says no play it off like you were obviously just practicing your french and it’s hilarious she thinks you like her like that. She has a good chance of saying yes if you don’t overthink this or chicken out. Don’t worry about worst case scenarios that won’t happen. Thanks for the courage.
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