curls Posted July 19, 2018 Posted July 19, 2018 I have a little problem, a little stupid problem .. This is the birthday today of my ex, the one who left me 2 months ago on the day of my birthday and by texting at 00:05 am (so I spend a very great day Lol) .. I have a little moral dilemma today, do I want to wish him a " happy birthday " (I'm too nice, a little too much ..) But on the other hand he was a ****** to do that to me that day ..So what to do? Especially that he wanted to keep in touch with me, what he did (just hello, how are you doing, what's up ? but it stops there, it's a little embarrassing lol ) It's itching since this morning and I'm very afraid to make a big mistake in both cases! If I do not wish him I'll feel like I'm getting on his level and if I wish him it'll probably give the impression of the girl being desperate to have it again which is wrong ! Too much disgusted by him with that and he is already hunting on tinder since the day of my birthday.. and even before, maybe.. I do not know how do men move on so quickly I must confess that i still slightly like him, it's only 2 months after almost 2 years, so it's really a big dileme .. I'm not bad like him and even too nice .. I'm really scared to blame myself in both cases!
CantTakeMySmile Posted July 19, 2018 Posted July 19, 2018 (edited) I have a little problem, a little stupid problem .. This is the birthday today of my ex, the one who left me 2 months ago on the day of my birthday and by texting at 00:05 am (so I spend a very great day Lol) .. <snip> No, do not text. Edited July 19, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Truncate quote 1
d0nnivain Posted July 19, 2018 Posted July 19, 2018 This person dumped you in a particularly callous way . . . by text on your birthday. You should have nothing but contempt for him. Why on earth would you go out of your way . . .even the little bit to send a text . . . to offer him good wishes on his birthday? He will not appreciate your kindness. He will be annoyed that you haven't taken the hint & gotten out of his life. You don't have to hate him or wish ill upon him but have enough self respect to not chase & make yourself look like a desperate clingy doormat. 1
Author curls Posted July 19, 2018 Author Posted July 19, 2018 This person dumped you in a particularly callous way . . . by text on your birthday. You should have nothing but contempt for him. Why on earth would you go out of your way . . .even the little bit to send a text . . . to offer him good wishes on his birthday? He will not appreciate your kindness. He will be annoyed that you haven't taken the hint & gotten out of his life. You don't have to hate him or wish ill upon him but have enough self respect to not chase & make yourself look like a desperate clingy doormat. I just wanted to wish him a happy birthday, show that I'm not mean and that I do not forget that, me at least .. I'm far from wanting to go back with him, very far after what he did.. It's just kindness .. My issue is I think I will feel bad to not wish him HB and also feel bad to wish him too.. I just do not know which will hurt me the most! He will not appreciate that ?
d0nnivain Posted July 19, 2018 Posted July 19, 2018 IMy issue is I think I will feel bad to not wish him HB and also feel bad to wish him too.. I just do not know which will hurt me the most! He will not appreciate that ? No he will not appreciate anything you do. You are his EX & he flat out doesn't give a flying fig. As for what you do, you need to figure out which will hurt you less & do that. Nobody on the internet can answer that for you.
ThreeRainbows Posted July 19, 2018 Posted July 19, 2018 Why on EARTH would you feel bad about not wishing him a happy birthday, when on your birthday, he wished you a happy broken heart? OMG. Girl, where's your pride? Go You Tube "Text Message Break Up" music video. It's funny, and you might like it. It's not for minors. 1
overcome Posted July 20, 2018 Posted July 20, 2018 Please don't text this guy. If I read your post correctly, he broke up with via text, on your birthday? Why on earth would you text him happy birthday? And then there's this "Too much disgusted by him with that and he is already hunting on tinder since the day of my birthday.. and even before, maybe.. I do not know how do men move on so quickly " You're not friends. You're not a couple. You are perfect strangers. Move on and stop prolonging this pain. There is no point. 1
Gretchen12 Posted July 20, 2018 Posted July 20, 2018 Do you wish every one of your Exs happy birthday out of kindness? Do you intend to continue wishing this guy happy birthday (out of kindness) for years to come while he has a girlfriend, wife, children, and so do you? You still like him, you haven't moved on completely. In this state of mind, you cannot do the HB wish. Just wish it in your heart. 1
Happy Lemming Posted July 20, 2018 Posted July 20, 2018 The only text I want from an ex-girlfriend would be a "booty call" text, otherwise I neither want nor need your "Happy Birthday" text nor any other communication. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 20, 2018 Posted July 20, 2018 I really hope you didn't text him, OP. It's not about kindness; it's about having self-respect when someone treats you like crap.
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