travelgirl3 Posted July 17, 2018 Posted July 17, 2018 I’ve been in a long distance relationship for a year. My boyfriend has been having some male problems for about 2 years and he recently saw a doctor who prescribed an antibiotic. Ever since he’s been on the antibiotic, his symptoms have cleared up. He thought it was a strain or something but I told him tonight that it could possibly be an STD. He then said that he has always used condoms. I do know that it could have came through oral contact if that is what it is. Also, I asked him when he was last with someone before me and he answered 1 month prior to being with me. He lied to me because when we first met he explained to me that it had been three years due to getting his heart broken. He even went as far as saying he was out of practice and not to laugh if he finished quickly the first time that we were together. I confronted him about this and he told me that he lied because the girl betrayed him and he blocked it out of his memory (they dated for 2 months). This girl actually picked him up from the airport when he left my city a couple of weeks ago. I guess his dad set this up because she lives close to the airport and they had a soccer game later that night (they play on the same soccer team). I feel like if he can lie to me about this then who knows what else he has lied about. We’re supposed to move in together in September and I feel confused. I thought I finally found someone who I could trust...
I'veseenbetterlol Posted July 17, 2018 Posted July 17, 2018 Sounds like he has something going on and happened to catch an std from her. I would seriously think about the relationship and I would prob not move w/him until you figure out what is going on.
d0nnivain Posted July 17, 2018 Posted July 17, 2018 The fact that somebody he'd slept with but lied to you about is still in his life, on his soccer team, interacting with his father & picking him up from the airport while you are far away would be enough for me to end this. He had the "male problem" cleared up by antibiotics for 2 years because he was most likely routinely getting re-infected. I'd get yourself tested immediately. 2
kendahke Posted July 17, 2018 Posted July 17, 2018 I’ve been in a long distance relationship for a year. My boyfriend has been having some male problems for about 2 years and he recently saw a doctor who prescribed an antibiotic. Ever since he’s been on the antibiotic, his symptoms have cleared up. He thought it was a strain or something but I told him tonight that it could possibly be an STD. He then said that he has always used condoms. I do know that it could have came through oral contact if that is what it is. Also, I asked him when he was last with someone before me and he answered 1 month prior to being with me. He lied to me because when we first met he explained to me that it had been three years due to getting his heart broken. He even went as far as saying he was out of practice and not to laugh if he finished quickly the first time that we were together. I confronted him about this and he told me that he lied because the girl betrayed him and he blocked it out of his memory (they dated for 2 months). This girl actually picked him up from the airport when he left my city a couple of weeks ago. I guess his dad set this up because she lives close to the airport and they had a soccer game later that night (they play on the same soccer team). I feel like if he can lie to me about this then who knows what else he has lied about. We’re supposed to move in together in September and I feel confused. I thought I finally found someone who I could trust... Well, he's a liar. His reasons aren't even good--he had sex with the chick more recently than he led you to believe and she is still involved in his life--doesn't matter how little, she's there giving him rides to the airport---the same chick he's trying to say gave him a dose. Do not move in with him. You cannot ever trust a liar.
O'Malley Posted July 17, 2018 Posted July 17, 2018 Lies to you about an ex and his interactions with her for a year? Reconsider your plans with him. His statements sound like classic gaslighting, and the first explanation usually is not the full truth.
mortensorchid Posted July 19, 2018 Posted July 19, 2018 Yikes ... STDs happen, and they happen because of the reason they all happen - he was with someone who had something. And that something doesn't sound like it came from you. Whatever the case may be, remember he's probably doing things he's not telling you about. You can do that when you are in a LDR, and the other person is never the wiser. Speaking of Oprah (ha ha ha) I have been in two LDRs in my lifetime. Without going into details about it (and I am a woman, btw) I was not faithful to either of them in other states. Different situations, different people. But ... Hey, we all make mistakes. You get lonely, you drift since you're not seeing / talking to each other as much and ... Someone comes along. And you have an encounter or two, then you walk away and go back to your routine and that's that. The STD is the getting caught with your hand in the cookie jar unfortunately. Facts.
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