jhurtinct Posted September 2, 2005 Posted September 2, 2005 Ok try to make this short- My son's father and I (my bf/exbf) were together for 6 1/2 yrs, we've had alot of ups and downs, we've lived together for most of that time and have a 3 1/2 yr old son. I moved out alittle over a month ago. Things were just not good we spent more time argueing and apart than together not good for our child, so I left but mutual dicision. We started spending alot of time together 2 weeks ago, we both still love eachother and want so badly to have to work I just don't know if it ever will. he is very much like his father= dinner on the table, house spotless, bills paid, he owns his own buisness so messages and everything else. I start to feel sort of like a slave and get really down and depressed, I became a serious pot smoker (have sense been clean for over a month) and stopped caring about doing anything for him, the more I did that the more cruel he would be the more distant I became. I stopped caring about myself, my house, and being with him, just about the only things I still took care of was my son and my animals. We had no sex life at all it was horrible and of coarse thats like no.1 to him so that made him even meaner. I think I did all these things and stopped caring because of how he treated me and he says he treated me this way because of how I was. We are great together now I am so confindent with myself I've (we've never had better sex) therefore he's treating me like gold, but then again we really aren't together. So question is this I need an outsiders point of view because of coarse my family and friends all say it;s him they take myside, he says its me and how much I'm so different now. could it have been my smoking habits kill my sex drive and my relationship don't know too much about that, or was it him because he was so mean just need feed back pls.......
kscholze Posted September 8, 2005 Posted September 8, 2005 men are always happy when sex is frequent, and I know my ex ex girlfriend had the same thing. SHe smoked alot of pot and her sex drive got less and less. When she quit we had very wild and just great sex. I also think great sex is only with someone that you truely love.
Author jhurtinct Posted September 8, 2005 Author Posted September 8, 2005 thanks for the response it is much better now thats why i am blaming myself thank god I finally quit:)
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