I'veseenbetterlol Posted July 14, 2018 Posted July 14, 2018 In my opinion, one date isn't generally isn't enough time to develop any kind of connection with a person. If the date went well and you enjoyed yourself, I don't see any reason not to go out with the guy again. Give a few dates and see what happens. And, be weary of the "first date spark" thought process as it can be extremely deceiving. Some people are experienced daters, are solid conversationalists and just know how to make a date enjoyable and that will feel like a "spark". I have been out with a few women like this and ended up disappointed when some serious red flags popped up on later dates. Hell, I walked out of one first date practically head-over-heels only to find out later on that she had just left her husband a few weeks prior.. Bad, bad news.. And, the opposite is true as well: some folks struggle are reserved and/or shy and it takes them a few dates to warm-up and that's when things start to roll. I had a horrendous first date with a woman once as she was painfully shy and the evening was exceptionally awkward. But, she texted me the next day and asked for a mulligan as it was the first date she'd been out on in awhile. The second date was much more enjoyable and the third one was a blast as she had come out of her shell a bit. Things didn't work out between us for various reasons but we had a good time together. Yes 1st impressions can be deceiving. I had one guy really charm me and I felt the "spark". I later found he lied to me about deleting a social media account (he blocked me) and that he was a total player.
carhill Posted July 14, 2018 Posted July 14, 2018 Oh, yeah, from the other side the feminine wiles can be daunting; however, when I'm referring to initial 'spark', I'm referring to 'on first sight', before any interaction occurs, before I glimpse a smile, before I really gauge appearance, before all of that. Basically, aura and pheromones and that's it. I hear ya though, had plenty of women, especially married ones, snow me. Regular blizzard
Author Midnightfvkgirl Posted July 14, 2018 Author Posted July 14, 2018 Oh, yeah, from the other side the feminine wiles can be daunting; however, when I'm referring to initial 'spark', I'm referring to 'on first sight', before any interaction occurs, before I glimpse a smile, before I really gauge appearance, before all of that. Basically, aura and pheromones and that's it. I hear ya though, had plenty of women, especially married ones, snow me. Regular blizzard Yeah the last guy, as soon as I met him, I was like "oh he's cute" and that was it.. head long into it straight away.. Have talked with the latest guy and he reeled the flirty talk in cos he wasn't getting any type of vibe from me (I had barriers up due to previous guy, that I wasn't aware I was doing). So we will go out again for a second time and see what happens.
greymatter Posted July 14, 2018 Posted July 14, 2018 For me, spark equates to a combination of physical and intellectual attraction and some added feelings like conversations are effortless, time together flies by and we leave each other wanting more time together. Sometimes it happens on a first date. Other times, not until a 3rd or 4th or later date. Sometimes it's obvious there is nothing there and one meeting is enough to know that. Spark probably means something different to everyone and it's a little hard to put into words, but when it's there, it's very recognizable.
preraph Posted July 15, 2018 Posted July 15, 2018 Definition-wise, to me, horny can be just physical, where a spark is horny+increasingly interested in them as a person and you just start clicking with the personality.
preraph Posted July 16, 2018 Posted July 16, 2018 Just saw a funny tweet. Article: "What makes you click with someone?" Reply: "Lying."
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