What do I do with my girlfriend?

[crazyguy123]

So I my girlfriend and I started going out about last month. Sadly, she was in a sad and upsetting relationship that had gone on for 10 years. She's been wanting a break up for some time but the guy was manipulative. Anyways, the guy found out she was having an affair.

 

He was speaking to me very respectfully, especially with the entire situation. He said he doesn't want his kids getting hurt and stuff and that I should never live with her. Just sleep with her and find someone good for myself because she isn't good for me. Especially with the things that have happen and stuff.

 

In addition to our little talk, he has kinda like threatened me and my career as well. I didn't tell my girlfriend what our conversation was like. As this was like the absolute minimal thing I feel that I can do to respect him especially after I have been disrespecting him. Just to add to that, he is significantly older than she is. Nearly 2 decades.

 

What should I do? What would you do if you were in my shoes?

[d0nnivain]

Stop talking to him.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

 

What should I do? What would you do if you were in my shoes?

 

Stop banging someone else's wife for starters.

[Lotsgoingon]

Lemme make sure I got this:

 

So you're dating a married woman ... who has been for ten years with an manipulative husband. And this manipulative husband stepped to you with dating advice for how to prudently date his wife ... and then he threatened you and threatened your career?

 

Brother, do you have a heartbeat? You know how you see a bear, your body reacts with stress hormones, fight or flight ... brother it's way past flight time.

 

You're in luck because you don't even need a ticket to catch this flight. Get them legs in motion and run! ... don't look back ... throw away phone ... tell the phone company to destroy all contacts.

 

Run!

[dude360]

Put a ring on it, bro. She sounds like wife material.

[Lobouspo]

Sounds like a complete and utter cluster---- to me. The married woman who justifies an affair because of the mean, manipulative husband who has her trapped in a bad marriage is the oldest trick in the book. Dude, quit messing around with married women. Anything bad that happens you kinda brought on yourself

[Highndry]

Run. Fast and far.

[act00]

You're dating a married woman who's husband found out about it, there are children involved, he's telling you to sleep with her, while also threatening you and threatening your career.

 

Dude, it's time to run. Remove yourself from this situation. Don't talk to him and don't talk to her.

[kendahke]

So I my girlfriend and I started going out about last month. Sadly, she was in a sad and upsetting relationship that had gone on for 10 years. She's been wanting a break up for some time but the guy was manipulative. Anyways, the guy found out she was having an affair.

 

He was speaking to me very respectfully, especially with the entire situation. He said he doesn't want his kids getting hurt and stuff and that I should never live with her. Just sleep with her and find someone good for myself because she isn't good for me. Especially with the things that have happen and stuff.

 

In addition to our little talk, he has kinda like threatened me and my career as well. I didn't tell my girlfriend what our conversation was like. As this was like the absolute minimal thing I feel that I can do to respect him especially after I have been disrespecting him. Just to add to that, he is significantly older than she is. Nearly 2 decades.

 

What should I do? What would you do if you were in my shoes?

 

Back off. He could make things really ugly for you. Learn when you've been bested.

 

She's not in a good enough place, emotionally, to be taking you on. You're just a rebound she's using to make her not-quite-ex jealous.

 

I agree with him--the kids should not be hurt by the selfishness of any of the adults in this situation

[Doost]

Steer clear of drama if it’s not worth it to you.

[Rockdad]

Crazyguy did not say she was married he said relationship. What ever that might be is unclear without assuming.

[Gaeta]

Crazyguy did not say she was married he said relationship. What ever that might be is unclear without assuming.

 

 

I don't see the difference. They were together 10 years and have children together. That's as good as being married.

 

 

 

OP, don't get killed over a woman you started dating 1 month ago. Move on.

[DKT3]

If I'm being honest, it sounds like some kind of game to them. Now I get how a betrayed spouse could be all over the place but for him to say do as you please with her, then threaten you is very odd unless you aren't being clear and the threats were concerning you being around his kids.

[BaileyB]

Stop banging someone else's wife for starters.

 

Indeed.

 

Is there nobody else for you to date... why do you want this drama in your life? They have kids together, this guy will be in your life creating drama for years to come... get out now, before it gets even more complicated.

 

And next time, find a nice SINGLE girl to date.