Gaeta Posted July 13, 2018 Posted July 13, 2018 I will opt for option 2. I’ve realised now that telling my girlfriend will cause unwanted issues. My brother knows that she likes me. She told me that she told him a few weeks back. I really don’t want my GF to feel uncomfortable. You mean option 1 right? keep quiet about it. 1
GoreSP Posted July 13, 2018 Posted July 13, 2018 Is there any chance your brother's ex would say anything to your girlfriend?
kendahke Posted July 13, 2018 Posted July 13, 2018 (edited) No, you don't tell your girlfriend. What you do is to hold fast to your claim that you're into your girlfriend when out in social settings where your brother's ex is. What I mean is you make it plain as the nose on your face to her that you and your girlfriend are a unit and no one may interfere in that. If it means you get rude with your brother's ex in public, then get rude in order to protect your relationship boundaries and your girlfriend's feelings. She can go find others to hang out with ---or stay at home by herself until she learns to open a can of "act right". Words are cheap--it's how you conduct yourself when they try to test your boundaries. How easily led by this chick are you, really? Would it be really easy for her to get you to forget who you're in a relationship with? Edited July 13, 2018 by kendahke 1
preraph Posted July 13, 2018 Posted July 13, 2018 Why is it a mess? It doesn't need to be. You shut her down. Keep your boundaries firm and don't engage with her personally. This doesn't need to be complicated. Are you flattered by her crush or something? I'm wondering if that's really the issue here. That's exactly it. There won't be an issue in the future with your brother OR your gf if you shut this woman down NOW firmly. Even if your brother brings it up in front of your gf, then you can look them both in the eye and tell them, Oh, I made it clear I wasn't interested and she's avoiding me now. 1
mortensorchid Posted July 13, 2018 Posted July 13, 2018 Don't repeat this to anyone, just keep calm and carry on.
bathtub-row Posted July 13, 2018 Posted July 13, 2018 What’s there to tell? So what if she’s interested in you? It’s only a mess if you make it a mess. Just ignore your bother’s ex. I don’t think it matters if you tell your gf or not. I mean, if you’re just telling her so that she shares this knowledge with you, then I don’t see what’s wrong with that.
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