Can this work out.

[tomtheman1234]

Oops just realised this post should be in the long distance relationship section of the website and not this section. I have mild Aspergers and so I find it hard to find a girlfriend in the UK and find it hard to make new friends and find a job. I have had a few girlfriends in the past. I spend most of my life living the UK and also recently spent a bit of time living in New Zealand and Australia and Phuket. I rent out my place in the UK and so living off the rent money. I am thinking it would be great to spend the first 5 months of the year in the sunshine escaping the UK winter or moving full time to a country that has year round summer weather. But at the moment I like the idea of just going to spend 5 months living in another country then back to the UK. So far I have narrowed it down to Australia or Phuket.

I have given up drinking alcohol and I donÂ’t like big crazy loud busy big places anymore. I have been to Phuket for the last few years and found a great chilled out laidback beach village time place with very small nightlife and so maybe friends with a few expats.

I went to Manila in Philippines last year and got this on again off again girlfriend. Who I really love but she has got 2 teenage boys and a good job in a bank in Manila and needs the job as she sends the kids to the best schools in Manila. So she is stuck there and I hate Manila as itÂ’s not very nice and I have been 3 times to the Philippines and each time I been ill. Second time I went to Philippines I ended up in hospital and last time I came home and was ill for 6 weeks. I thought she was the one. We have tried to plan to move to Australia or Phuket but nothing really happened with the plans. But if I hate big cities and she canÂ’t move at the moment maybe I need to move on and find someone new.

So I just wonder if there is any hope for us or should I just move

on. Yes it will be sad for a bit. But I am sure I wonÂ’t be sad for long.

Any advice would be great.

Edited July 10, 2018 by tomtheman1234

[guest569]

How does she feel about the idea? Are the plans solid and realistic or is it just talk? It's going to be a big decision and a big move for both of you as you'll be uprooted as well as her children.

[d0nnivain]

You need to move where you want to go for yourself. Get settled & then figure out how somebody else fit in there. Perhaps in time she may want to relocate. Perhaps you can continue carrying on an LDR. But you have to get yourself sorted first.