Aalia Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 hiya every1 im new here so i thought id post sumthing n i kno dis thread must hav been so many times but im muslim n so in our culture marriages r usualy arranged da thing is da guy i was in love with is being told by his parents 2 get his engaged n there is no way that we would eva b together the thing is i totaly love him, we didnt go out 4 dat long bout 6 months but he was alwayz there 4 me we neva really had any arugemnts or anything it would be easy 2 get ova him if there were faults etc but i cant really think of anything n even when he left he was so nice so i dnt kno how 2 get ova him coz most ppl say think of da faults but wat can i do wen there arent any
RainyDayWoman Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 i can't reply because i don't understand your...language? dialect? i don't know, whatever that mess was. sorry.
Author Aalia Posted September 2, 2005 Author Posted September 2, 2005 sorry bout that it was kinda hard to type as i was on the phone at the same time so i kinda relize a lot of it dont make sense
bluechocolate Posted September 2, 2005 Posted September 2, 2005 Aalia, texting works on phones but not very well here. If you want to get more responses you're gonna have to try something else. btw - how old are you?
Mai Tai Posted September 3, 2005 Posted September 3, 2005 Hi I understood your language ok! I think I understand how you feel, you're trying to get over a relationship that was a good relationship and had no real reason to be ended. Most of the questions and advice here is about where there's been problems and a bad relationship, but yours and mine ain't like that. Here's my story...I met a fab guy, my soulmate, he was 20 and i was 27, long distance thing. We really clickd and saw each other ev 2-3 weeks for bout 3 years and then he said he's being unfair on me he doesn't feel ready for a future with anyone. Even although we love each other so much,he broke it up. That 6 months ago. Then he was the one that couldn't let go. I honestly tryied to move on but once he got in touch that was me hangin on in hope. So he came up last week and we had a lovely time but when time to go he said he still can't sort out his head. Last week I felt suicidal having fallen out with my mum at the same time, and felt like my future wasn't worth looking forward to so i say to him no more contact its goodbye. Now he is still texting me and I am having to ignore them although its killing me. What happened with your ex is he now getting married to another muslim girl? Hope you're ok
RainyDayWoman Posted September 3, 2005 Posted September 3, 2005 Hi Most of the questions and advice here is about where there's been problems and a bad relationship, but yours and mine ain't like that. it's not that no one really understood what she was getting at, (although it was confusing) but "ova", "dis", "da" ,and "dat" are not real words. neither is "foreva." people are hesitant to answer those posts because it's frustrating to read and leads the reader to believe that this person is perhaps 11 years old. in other words, if you can't use basic language skills, you might not understand what people are saying to you anyway.
Mai Tai Posted September 3, 2005 Posted September 3, 2005 if you dont understand the language dont go telling other people off is all I would say. Disappointed to see these forums like many others unfortunately seem to be filled with opinionated people that : think they own the territory think they're always right like to make others feel small (usually the person asking for advice) are basically looking for an argument, meantime getting everyone else sidetracked from the situation someone is asking for help for :bunny:
RainyDayWoman Posted September 4, 2005 Posted September 4, 2005 if you dont understand the language dont go telling other people off is all I would say. Disappointed to see these forums like many others unfortunately seem to be filled with opinionated people that : think they own the territory think they're always right like to make others feel small (usually the person asking for advice) are basically looking for an argument, meantime getting everyone else sidetracked from the situation someone is asking for help for :bunny: I didn't tell her off. I just said it would help to use at least even basic language skills if she would like a real answer. in other words, it's hard to take someone or their problem very seriously seeing things like "ova" and "dis." maybe that makes a snob, but i'd rather be a snob who speaks correctly than whatever this poor excuse for language is supposed to be. and i hate to tell you, but if you don't like opinionted people, don't cruise forums. it's all based on opinion.
Art_Critic Posted September 4, 2005 Posted September 4, 2005 if you dont understand the language dont go telling other people off is all I would say. From the Community Guidelines MAI TAI Language and decency As a global community, it is important to recognize that not all participants are native speakers of English, nor are they all acquainted with colloquialisms popular in your particular area of the world. We expect that our community participants use language that not only reflects proper terminology, but that is in no way vulgar, profane, obscene, pornographic, demeaning, or pejorative to the subject being described or those contributing to the discussion. This is especially important to remember when dealing with sexual health issues.
RainyDayWoman Posted September 4, 2005 Posted September 4, 2005 From the Community Guidelines MAI TAI We expect that our community participants use language that reflects proper terminology thank you.
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