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What does he want - friends with benefits or potential relationship


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i moved into a new place about a month ago and one of my neighbors and i instantly hit it off. we would hang out a lot and ive been spending the night at his place half the nights of the week. however, none of our other close neighbors know about us having a romantic relationship (and all of our close neighbors are friends and we hang out pretty frequently, like the show, Friends).

 

i know that his last relationship was about 4 -5 months ago where he found out that his gf at the time cheated on him, which i think really messed him up in terms of insecurity. he's told me that he likes me but doesn't want to be hurt...i think ive made it clear enough that i like him back and want something more than sex. he told me one night (late at night) that he was worried that he wasn't good enough and i told him that he was more than good enough and he's being silly.

 

he called me drunk the other night b/c he was talking about me with one of his friends at a party and he wanted to talk to me and have his friend talk to me too.

 

he's very sweet and remarkably remembers almost everything i say and he's affectionate when we're alone. but when we're with other people, it becomes awkward b/c no one knows yet.

 

what should i do? it's become very frustrating lately. i dont know how to interpret his actions. i know he's extremely busy with grad school and barely gets enough sleep...so there's been a couple of times where we dont talk or see each...and he rarely calls...i usually do the calling...but when we're hanging out and i suggest that im going to get going, he asks me to stay or do something else with him that will me near him. argh, frustrating...any input would be appreciated, thanks

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well i am having he same situation happen to me and all i can tell you is that its alot harder than you think...especially when you really like him and there is nothing you can do to make him want to be with you in a relationship....maybe he is just no ready for a serious relationship yet considering he just got out of a long realtionship that didnt end they way he probably wanted it to....just give it time and you will see the way he really feels maybe he wants to take things slow or maybe he jjust wants a booty call yo never know until you ask but try not to be too pushy.....sorry i could help more

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