justarandom Posted July 7, 2018 Posted July 7, 2018 Hi everyone, I hope you're all having a wonderful day! So, I met this girl, precisely a week ago. We had been constantly exchanging likes on social media and I got interested in getting to know her so I sent her a text and we have been talking ever since. Now when I say we've been talking ever since, I mean it literally, we've talked everyday for a week and we talk all throughout the day. We text each other good morning and then talk through the day, even in the afternoon when we are both busy with work she texts me When ever she has a break and I do the same. Then we usually talk late into the night until 2 or 3 AM. Our conversations range from stupid jokes we tell each other to really deep conversations about various topics. She's told me that she really enjoys talking to me (obviously lol) and I've only sent her a few pictures of me (i can't take good pictures of myself) but whenever I do she always says I look beautiful and handsome and all that along with a bunch of heart emojis. As for her, she sends me pictures all the time, sometimes of the things she's doing or where she's at and other times they're selfies and she's even sent me videos of her like smiling for the camera and blowing kisses. The other day I asked her how her day went and she said she had some troubles at work and I asked her about it and instead of texting me it she actually made a video talking to the camera to tell me about it. Now if this was the whole story I think it would be safe to say she's interested but there's one thing that makes it trickier... She's been recently broken up with. She told me the whole story the other day and I can tell she's still very shaken up about it. She doesn't talk about him too much but there's still moments when I can tell she's sad because of it. It was only a 2 month relationship tho so I guess it shouldn't take her too long to get over it lol. I've been broken up with recently too from a 3 year relationship and despite the first couple weeks being hell, I'm doing pretty well almost 2 months later. So what's your take on this situation? She seems into me but she is still very caught up on her ex and I have no doubt that if he wanted to come back she'd take him in a heartbeat. Altough I'm pretty sure that's not happening considering how they broke up. That's why I am very unsure on what to do and I've been taking it easy on the flirting despite finding her absolutly gorgeous. I'd really like to ask her out just to meet face to face but I don't know what she'll say or if it's inappropriate and I'll scare her away.
Lotsgoingon Posted July 7, 2018 Posted July 7, 2018 (edited) So your alarms are going off that she is hurt still from previous relationship. More important, you sense that she'd quickly return to her ex if she had the chance. I see those as signs she's not available for dating. She's still thinking of the other guy ... even if she was interested in you, she's still attached to the other guy and he would always come first. You want someone who is ready to date. If there is one point that emerges crystal clear on LS ... is that lots of social media exchanges ... don't mean much at all. People communicate intensely for days at a time ... and then disappear without warning or notice. She may be spilling to you ... because you are a stranger and she simply needs to talk to someone. Now, if you like her as a friend and want that ... then fine ... say you wanna hang out sometime. But if you're interested in more, no ... you don't want someone who is still emotionally attached to the ex. Edited July 7, 2018 by Lotsgoingon
Author justarandom Posted July 7, 2018 Author Posted July 7, 2018 I guess what you said makes sense, just wanted to get someone else's insight on this that's why I posted here it's been nice talking to her also cuz she's the first girl I've met since my relationship ended so it's been an ego boost if anything. I'm not too concerned though, I'm sort of in a zen situation right now, if she wants to get closer to me then I'm not gonna pass that up but if she has no intention of doing that then it's all the same to me. This post-breakup zen has been great actually
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