BigHarold Posted July 7, 2018 Posted July 7, 2018 My new Girlfriend wants to go on a trip together. We only had one date. Is this the norm today? My last girlfriend criticized me for not going on two or three cruises a year. I am new to this and would like to know if this is normal.
d0nnivain Posted July 7, 2018 Posted July 7, 2018 I can't speak to normal but it isn't right. After only one date there should be no concrete talk of joint travel. People pushing for this have no idea how to build a foundation for a relationship. They seek instant intimacy too quickly. Some people love to travel & 2-3 expensive trips per year are the norm for them. Not everybody has the luxury of that kind of money or time off. So your last GF was wrong for insisting. 1
Lotsgoingon Posted July 7, 2018 Posted July 7, 2018 (edited) Sounds way too fast. We don't know people well enough after one date to spend multiple days with them out of town. You're all in each other's face when you're around each other all day for multiple days ... You want to ease into going out of town. Is she desperate? Did she win a trip somewhere and you're around and so you wants you to come with her? Strange, strange offer. Are you sure she's a girlfriend? One date? We don't know people well enough after one day to be official bf/gf. You gotta hang long enough to make sure she's not a serial killer or another variety of destructive person ... and she especially should wanna do the same. Edited July 7, 2018 by Lotsgoingon
No_Go Posted July 7, 2018 Posted July 7, 2018 No it's so wrong. These days I'm smart enough to NEVER consider going on a trip with someone I've known for that short. You don't know her. What if she has some kind of mental illness and attacks you? For the 2-3 cruises per year, I'm laughing. The last time I was on 'luxury' trip was... 10 years ago maybe? Not planning another one in the coming years and I'm not short on money. Just not my thing, and I believe lots of people will be the same way.
act00 Posted July 7, 2018 Posted July 7, 2018 Is she trying to plan something in the next week or two or month, or is she just saying she'd like to take a trip sometime in the future when you know each other more, since you both express an interest in this place or event or activity? You refer to her as your girlfriend after only one date. Have you known her long, prior to having a romantic relationship? If you've known her awhile, a trip might not be too off the wall of an idea, but given a new shift in the relationship, yes, it could be a little too much too soon; I guess that's up to you, but if you're not comfortable with it, say so. Of course this is assuming you've known her awhile. It's way too soon if you only met this person a couple times. That's way too much time and money for someone who don't know at all. A relationship has to build up to a lengthy trip. Three cruises a year?? Whatever the travel, most people don't have the luxury of spending that kind of money or the ability to take that kind of time off of work or away from their responsibilities, but hey, if if it works for her, great. It's a bit unrealistic to expect others to do the same or have the same priorities. No, this is not normal. I have known people who love to get out of town on the weekends, usually 2-day trips, but it's not the norm.
coolheadal Posted July 7, 2018 Posted July 7, 2018 My new Girlfriend wants to go on a trip together. We only had one date. Is this the norm today? My last girlfriend criticized me for not going on two or three cruises a year. I am new to this and would like to know if this is normal. It that what you do for a living? Odd for her to want to go one right now. Don't you think that's strange. After 3 or 4 dates you should know if your going to invest more time with her and see. Don't spend your money on a woman you hardly know. One date is just the first leg. Your in the early like stage. Not even in the love mode or later on if it does happen In love process. When you get to the in love process then take her on a cruise. Don't flash your money on women who are only interested in you taking them out and spending all your money on them. What the heck do you get out of this nothing.. To early to even think about this sort of expense. I wouldn't even do it and most men wont' either.
snowboy91 Posted July 8, 2018 Posted July 8, 2018 Cruises? Ew. And certainly not multiple times a year. She is by far an exception - very few people have the time or money for doing that regularly. You say you're describing her as your "new GF" after one date, but you then say you're "new to this". It's way too early to be describing her as a new GF unless you've known each other for some time and decided to try dating each other. I wouldn't say deciding to go on trips together after one date is "the norm", but every relationship is unique and you can't really define a "normal" progression of a relationship easily. Ultimately you have to work out if you are comfortable going away with someone for the length of your trip that you barely know. That's based on your own comfort levels, and not on some pre-existing "norm". Personally I wouldn't go on a trip with someone unless I know them well enough to not get on their nerves (or let them get on mine). If you're really keen, do a day trip as a test run.
I'veseenbetterlol Posted July 8, 2018 Posted July 8, 2018 Way too soon. On the 1st couple of dates, I never let a guy drive me anywhere, pick me up and he doesn't know my home address. She is moving too fast and I would tell her to slow it down.
Logo Posted July 8, 2018 Posted July 8, 2018 BigHarold, Can you clarify how you came by the label "girlfriend" after one date? I'm at a loss. Normal is irrelevant. If you do go on a trip with this new girl, what's the worst that could happen? You guys might end up hating one another and have to come home early right? Then again, you may also have the time of your life. If you do not go, I can tell you what will happen; absolutely nothing. If I really liked a new girl, and I was feelin things with her, I would go on the trip. Take a chance. Fortune favors the bold, my friend. I agree so long as: 1. He doesn't have to cover her expenses for the trip and that includes fare, dinners and drinks, etc. 2. He manages his expectations. Even if the trip does go well, she could be looking for a trip buddy and then once they're back, she'll wave goodbye. 3. As with any trip, he's going to be investing money. If things don't go well with her, can he get a partial refund if he chooses to go home early? I think a light conversation is in order, just to get a sense for what her plans are and what she's looking for. It could turn out to be a great time or he could end up going home miserable. It's a risk he'll have to factor into his decision. I'm leery of anyone who wants to go on a costly, lengthy trip after the first date, but do what you feel is right for you.
5x5 Posted July 8, 2018 Posted July 8, 2018 My new Girlfriend wants to go on a trip together. We only had one date. Is this the norm today? My last girlfriend criticized me for not going on two or three cruises a year. I am new to this and would like to know if this is normal. Just one date and you are now boyfriend and girlfriend and she wants you to go on a trip! I think it's a bit premature. That said how long have you known this woman and have you had sex with her yet?
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