Mysterio Posted July 7, 2018 Posted July 7, 2018 How do you feel your life has shaped up so far in terms of Romance/Family/Friends/Finances and Health? Are you where you want to be in terms of what you want to acheive and do you see any changes. What do you think will change in your life.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 7, 2018 Posted July 7, 2018 All areas perfect except for romance area. Tried repeatedly and couldn't even meet anyone I really liked. At this point, no more trying, I accepted it's not meant to be for me and am enjoying other areas that are going well 1
Author Mysterio Posted July 7, 2018 Author Posted July 7, 2018 ES. You will most likely will meet someone, when you are not trying. I am the same way. I just for some reason when I try. Nothing great happens. Only when I don't care. Thats when the magic happens.
Chilli Posted July 7, 2018 Posted July 7, 2018 (edited) Starting over after divorce. financially and in every other way. Romantically well , always been lucky in love but have messed up to hence divorce. Then gf in a huge way but sadly that's not gonna be able to work out so the future from here , no clue. It's a little bit soon but l have met an incredible new girl , but l'm really not sure if l should lay low a bit longer. life wise well , l dunno. l've done every dream and then some but many ups and downs to so dreams or not nah , life hasn't worked out the way l thought but, l'm working on it the future. PS , great question Mysterio Edited July 7, 2018 by Chilli
Happy Lemming Posted July 7, 2018 Posted July 7, 2018 My life has shaped up "PERFECT"!! I've done exactly what I wanted to do and nothing major has derailed my plans. As far as "Romance/Family/Friends/Finances and Health"; everything is precisely what I desired, including good health. "If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail" - Benjamin Franklin So far, I've achieved everything I wanted to achieve. Now, I want to work on my "bucket list". I want to start it early, while I am still young and healthy. The only thing I may change is I may move, again. Initially I was going to stay in my present home through my entire retirement. I may opt for a more rural or cabin style retirement home. We'll see, though. And I'd like to agree with "Chili"... GREAT QUESTION!!
Els Posted July 7, 2018 Posted July 7, 2018 Good thread. Yes, I'd say so. It took a bit of a roundabout route getting there, but I truly believe I'm where I'm meant to be in all areas of life that matter to me now. Of course, there is always room for improvement, but that's a good thing. Humans need something to strive for, IMO.
Sunlight72 Posted July 7, 2018 Posted July 7, 2018 (edited) How do you feel your life has shaped up so far in terms of Romance/Family/Friends/Finances and Health?Mostly a wreck in Romance/Family/Finances until 5 or 6 years ago. Friends/Health OK to good most of my life fortunately.Are you where you want to be in terms of what you want to acheive and do you see any changes.My life is a thousand miles from any of the pictures I had for myself when I was younger. Now I realize contentment and enjoying the present is really valuable, and I used to think it was a waste of time. I used to think I should be constantly 'working' toward some goal. I now realize that is a poor use of my energy. I missed many good opportunities during a lot of my life as I was too focused on my 'plan'. So, things are going much better now, but I wouldn't say there's a lot I still want to 'achieve'. Lots to do, but being more aware of possibilities that present themselves, and allowing time and space in my life to nurture those new possibilities, instead of making a strict plan ahead of time is working better for me.What do you think will change in your life.Romance changes a lot of my life. I'm entering a new relationship now, so I'm seeing a lot of change coming (moving to a city though I've always lived in small towns, maybe getting married, maybe having child(ren) which I haven't done or considered seriously before, possibly changing careers from producing visual artist to investor to develop passive income). Life is a river, and the more I swim downstream with the current - where the current is flowing and not too much against it or across it - the more enjoyable surprises I find, and the more able I am to savor them. Edited July 7, 2018 by Sunlight72 2
snowboy91 Posted July 8, 2018 Posted July 8, 2018 How do you feel your life has shaped up so far in terms of Romance/Family/Friends/Finances and Health? Are you where you want to be in terms of what you want to acheive and do you see any changes. I'm in my mid 20s, in most ways I'm not there yet. Romance - I'm taking the right steps now, I left a relationship which wasn't right for me, healing quickly and I'm ready to start looking for something better for me when the time is right. Friendship wise - it's pretty much perfect at this point. But friends come and go, and I feel fortunate enough to have learned to be able to make new friends easily. It won't be always perfect, but it will be mostly good. Finances/career - nowhere near it, and probably won't be for a long time. I'm finishing a PhD this year but even once I get a full time job, I'll be saving a very long time before I can consider myself secure. The problem is I'm only just starting to work out what I want/need from a career, much later than I needed to. I only have a limited amount of time to work out what my next steps are, whereas I would like to have that decided already so I can talk to the right people in the right places. I also would have liked to have travelled a lot more by this point. What do you think will change in your life. Make more time to see the world and adventure, while I'm still young and have the freedom to do so. Work out what career options there are for me that allow me to apply my skills in the way I want to. Be a lot more particular about who I choose as a romantic partner. But also have some fun in the meantime.
Author Mysterio Posted July 9, 2018 Author Posted July 9, 2018 Snowboy. The trick for you is to make sure your not locked down to kids/Marriage before you have the financial freedom to travel. So for you. A goal you can set is, don't settle down before age 35 is or so. If you want to do all those thing you want to, after paying off school debit and getting a solid job.
Gaeta Posted July 9, 2018 Posted July 9, 2018 I am 52 years old and happy in all aspect of my life. I made it to where I wanted to be and I still have a few goals and dreams to work on like traveling, being my boss, having a nice retirement. That being said the road to here was very hard. If I could start again I would NOT marry at 20. I would chose to grow up first, concentrate on a career, travel, and become a real adult with some good common sense before marrying and becoming a parent. I lost everything twice and rebuilt myself twice. Sometimes I wonder if I had offer myself a good start in life how far I'd be today, but I am still happy I made it to here. If I had not gone through all I have maybe I would not appreciate my life as much as I do today. 1
Rockdad Posted July 9, 2018 Posted July 9, 2018 My wife recently painted a sign and hung it in our living room (she is an artist) that sums it up for the both of us, "I once prayed for the things I have now" 2
Aslanbek Posted July 11, 2018 Posted July 11, 2018 Failure. 100 percent. If I didn't have children I'd probably have killed myself by now.
carhill Posted July 11, 2018 Posted July 11, 2018 How do you feel your life has shaped up so far in terms of Romance/Family/Friends/Finances and Health? Loved many, been loved by a few, family is dead, have some good friends, eating a homemade pizza right now so I guess food and finance is OK and been healthy knock on wood for about six decades. Are you where you want to be in terms of what you want to achieve and do you see any changes. Very fortunate life. Still stuff to do. New challenges every day. Freedom. I expect life to change. Part of growing older, IMO. What do you think will change in your life. I don't know about 'expect' but one marked change would be meeting and enjoying someone who loved me the way I've loved others over decades. That would be pretty cool. Not expecting it though. Some of us have a different path in life. I'm good with that.
DrReplyInRhymes Posted July 11, 2018 Posted July 11, 2018 Sub-par in every aspect you can judge compared to the potential that I had. That's alright though, the world needs to have losers too. I mean, without losers to judge, how would anyone know what a winner looks like?
Chilli Posted July 12, 2018 Posted July 12, 2018 (edited) Yeah and such a good point. Potential is a whole nother matter. l'm so far below mine now and will be rest of working life, but l don't really care and very content in that department. l did touch on mine though for about 10yrs or so but that was enough. Did what l knew l could and the next step was fame but l didn't want that. l'm happy with as far as l went all things considered and quite happy bowing out before it ruins things l hold dear like privacy and anonymity. So l can say l did reach it , if even only for awhile, but that's cool . Edited July 12, 2018 by Chilli
basil67 Posted July 12, 2018 Posted July 12, 2018 Sub-par in every aspect you can judge compared to the potential that I had. That's alright though, the world needs to have losers too. I mean, without losers to judge, how would anyone know what a winner looks like? Very few of us ever meet our potential. At school, I was really smart but lazy. School reports read: Basil could achieve much more if she applied herself. It's the story of my life. Yes, I could have made great achievements if I was not the lazy so and so that I am, but I am a lazy so and so and I'm happy with what I've got. The second half of your post...would you say that to someone else who felt like a loser? If not, don't say it to yourself.
basil67 Posted July 12, 2018 Posted July 12, 2018 I'm perfectly happy. No, life did not turn out like I expected it to, but I've learned to roll with the punches and find joy where it is to be found. 1
Miss Spider Posted July 12, 2018 Posted July 12, 2018 (edited) I'd say it's done really well on all fronts - no thanks to me - I just happen to be happy with things. I'm recently free out of a relationship and never felt better, my finances afford me a lifestyle that's good enough for me, I'm healthy, great relationship with family, many hobbies I enjoy and looking forward to taking on new ones. No complaints. I had depression earlier in my life. It's seems weird to me now. I empathize with those feeling bad, but I'm incredibly happy and can't recognize myself in that state or understand why I was ever there. My life has been really fortunate. I guess sometimes with age you learn to appreciate the things you have. Edited July 12, 2018 by Cookiesandough 2
Andy_K Posted July 12, 2018 Posted July 12, 2018 Pretty awesome generally. I'm in great health, through blind luck have the sort of job many people would give their right arm for, great family and friends, decent amount of time for my hobbies, etc. To be honest I've never really been through any major hardship either. Not compared to what I see others experience. Only downside is my dating/romantic life, which is currently lacking to nonexistent, despite a lot of hard work over the years. All my bad luck got funneled into that area. But you can't have everything
No_Go Posted July 12, 2018 Posted July 12, 2018 It's very interesting how different my life is compared to what I thought it will be - but the good news is the reality is so much better than what I planned Romance - my plan was not to have any Then I had a good 5-6 years of totally cr*ppy relationships + another few of unreciprocated crushes before then. Just as I gave up all expectations, I got together with an amazing person. Family - complete disaster in my past besides one person I really loved but she died young But I'm on the road to build much much better family for myself and I believe bad experiences helped me to an extent. Friends - I've always had quirky ones, usually coming and going on waves. I plan to keep it that way because that's what makes me happy. Finances - I can't believe where I started from... and now I have achieved most that I was dreaming for in material sense. Health - pretty good. Except one time birth control tried to kill me with blood clots, no health issues so far. I feel like the lack of vices finally starts to pay off - party types from my youth are now experiencing health issues. The more I think about it, I enjoy my current life more than any other stage of my life. Everything is surprisingly good, and I plan to make it even better How do you feel your life has shaped up so far in terms of Romance/Family/Friends/Finances and Health? Are you where you want to be in terms of what you want to acheive and do you see any changes. What do you think will change in your life. 1
lovely81 Posted July 12, 2018 Posted July 12, 2018 Romance--Almost feels like my romantic life took place in a topsy-turvy world where up was down and right was wrong. In this case, outward stability coexisted with inward instability, "love" seemed closer to "fear." Like a lot of people, I found the less I care, the more it works. So, it's not at all what I wanted but feels good. (Right now 37, single, dating people I respect and like--took me awhile to get here.) Family--I don't have one of my own, but have a large extended family and am very happy with my relationships with them. I'm actually an only child, with one parent deceased, so feel very lucky that I have close relationships with my cousins, aunts, uncles, etc. Friends--Great. I am glad I learned to treat them better, used to be a source of more drama. Though I have many friends, I have to say that I also feel very lucky and impressed by the few who have been role models and maybe more like mentor types. There are just some people in this world who demonstrate how to be a good person through action, and I have a couple of these--calm and generous. They have helped me see possibilities. Finances--These really need improvement, but I have enough to feel secure. My job is fine. Health--Fine, I try not to take it for granted but usually do. All in all, it's pretty good--sometimes I do think the only real change I've had was a perspective change. My life has been much the same for awhile but I would not have felt so happy about it four years ago, just because I had a more Eeyore outlook. 1
Casper. Posted July 12, 2018 Posted July 12, 2018 Romance - Up till a year a go I was very easy come easy go, but now, i'm committed, i'm head over heels and more in love than I ever imagine I would be. Family - pfft. Not seen my dad since he got locked up when I was a kid. Barely see my mother. But I have a twin sister and little nephew and they're like.. everything to me. So I know some people might feel bad for my family situation, but i think im pretty lucky, cause not everyone has a sibling they can call their best friend. Friends - Im a social guy, i've always made friends easy, not necisarily close friends though.. I was a nightmare in my teens for not letting that wall down an inch. I think this is an area ive made changes in as ive grown up, im more myself with people now, i have some closer friends as a result Finances - Urm not great, but i make a living and im pretty proud of that considering that we grew up in near poverty. I joined the army at 16 to bring a wage that could support my sister who was pregnant and i was able to do just that and that makes me proud! I live with my gf now, in the house she inherited which is just made to me.. they have a driveway and pool and a stables, its mad. But money doesnt mean tons to me, i dont judge people or myself on it. However, I work, honest good work, I so the best i can and i earn enough to support myself and my loved ones and I do take pride in that! Health - I certainly cant complain. I got shot while serving and my shoulder would never recover enough that i can serve anymore but i walked away with nothing compared to what some guys do, not to mention the guys that dont come home at all! And if i hadnt left the army i would never of ended up where i am now so i guess everything happens for a reason Did i meet my potential? Thats the kicker.. who can say really!? Everyone that knew him always used to tell me how like my dad i am, they were right i guess.. If you got a photo of him at my age and put a beard and some tattoos on it I dont think you could tell the difference between us! But they used to tell me how like him i was as well, personality, mannerisms, the works ...and i used to hate it!! I used to hate that association! I so didn't want to be him! I didn't want to let people down! For sure there was a time when my life could have slipped down that same slope but I pulled it back because, its out choices that define us, not out genetics and I choose a better life!! So I might not have been set a great example growing up but I've watched my family fall apart and i've watched all those mistakes that i refuse to make in my own life! I wont make those mistakes with my gf, and one day if i'm blessed with kids of my own then i wont repeat these mistakes, i choose to do better! Some people get stuck letting their past define them.. but you have to choose to see to see it as an opportunity, or even as a warning, so that you can have stronger, more positive relationships in your own life! ....For sure I know there was people that thought I was destined to end up either drunk like my mum or in jail like my dad (and there was a time i believed that too) but... boys all grown up - and I didn't! I might not be Bill Gates or David Beckham, but I have a loving girlfriend, a great relationship with my sister and my nephew, and some pretty awesome friends..and you know, I don't know if i met my potential, i never will, but I'm pretty proud of where i am in my life, i think i have everyhting that really matters
anduina Posted July 12, 2018 Posted July 12, 2018 How do you feel your life has shaped up so far in terms of Romance/Family/Friends/Finances and Health? Romance is great, recently got engaged again. Family is family, my autistic brother matters and I don't. I've finally connected with a group of academics that understand and are easy to relate with. Finances would be better if I went a different direction in my career but I love academia too much. Money isn't important to me. Are you where you want to be in terms of what you want to acheive and do you see any changes. Not yet since I want to be a tenured prof. This will take a long time. What do you think will change in your life. Marriage. We're not sure we want kids and likely won't. We might adopt some pets.
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