my_manda Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 The guy I have been dating for about six weeks now stayed with me Sunday evening (he is in limbo between the house he just sold and the new house he is moving into). The Sunday evening he stayed with me, I gave him a key to lock my house in the morning and told him he could either A. slip the key through the mail slot in the door once he locked the house, or B. he could give it back to me when we saw each other again. I did this because I had to be at work really early and could not give him my key since I would have then been locked out when I got home from work that evening. I intentionally threw out returning the key so he would know that my intent was not to make him a "boyfriend" but let him sleep in till he had to go to work without leaving my house unlocked all day. Well, Monday evening he calls me and says that he is going to his brother's house and he will stay on his couch if it gets too late, or he will come on over. He said he would call me either way. Well, I never heard from him that evening. Tuesday, I dropped him an email and said that I hoped he and his brother got everything built (they were assembling a desk and entertainment center his brother had just purchased) and asked if he knew when he would get to start moving his things into his new place. He never responded to the email. Tuesday, I went on a business trip and returned yesterday. My keys were in my checked luggage, which was lost. I had to get the one remaining spare key from my parents so I could get in my home. I called him last evening after this fiasco and left him a voicemail saying I needed my key back could he please call me. Guess what....no returned call. I am at a loss here. 1. Is this guy no longer interested and he is too chicken sh**t to say so? 2. How the heck do I get my key back. He has the one other key from the Master lock and the one my parent's have is a DO NOT DUPLICATE key, meaning that if something happens to that key, there is no way for me to get into my home since it cannot be duplicated.
Cecelius Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 1) Take a metal file and file off the "Do Not Duplicate" legend and get it copied. 2) Give him a call and explain what happened and that you need the key back; can he drop it off, mail it to your office, etc. 3) Wait a couple then call him again and tell him you need the key back now, no excuses.
noname Posted September 2, 2005 Posted September 2, 2005 are you kidding me? i try to do my best to not judge people. but what the h*ll were you thinking about? with all the psychos in this world, it is extremely bad judgement to give anybody you have known for such a short period of time your keys. sleep in my *ss. you get up and leave when i leave. if he does not reply today, call a locksmith and change your locks. you have to pay for it, but it is worth it for safety's sake. you don't want to come home to find out you have been robbed or worse... find him waiting un your living room with a hockey mask. may sound a little extreme, but there are a lot of nuts out there, and sometimes you can't tell who they are...
Author my_manda Posted September 2, 2005 Author Posted September 2, 2005 Let me clarify here.....I have known the guy for twelve years. I knew him from High School, ran into him occasionally during college, lost touch with him for a few years out of college when I moved away and he was married for a time, and then re-connected with him about six-seven weeks ago when we started to date again. We know mutual people, etc. I never dated him until now at all, but I know him, his father, and the company I work for is closely intertwined with the company he owns with his father now. In short, do I trust him with my heart 100% yet...no. With my personal property....yes. He is not a stalker/psycho and due to the various connections we have, I would be a bad victim choice if that were the case. So, in terms of my judgement, I was not worried about him being there without me there. I do appreciate you addressing this though because if I did not know him outside of the last six-seven weeks, then I would need someone to put me in check if I left him there without me and with a key and if people read this I hope they will think about that too.
Art_Critic Posted September 2, 2005 Posted September 2, 2005 You never mentioned how you are going to handle the Di*k that doesn't give you the respect of at least a phone call let alone your keys back Even after knowing him 12 years.. That just makes what he did even worse. To think how he must treat people that are not his friends is kinda frightening
sundrop Posted September 2, 2005 Posted September 2, 2005 I would have my locks changed. I know it maybe a pain in the butt, but I would have it done, because you don't know if he has made copies of your keys or not.
clandestinidad Posted September 2, 2005 Posted September 2, 2005 i wonder why he's not talking or writing to you. Thats awfully rude! And its kinda funny if it turns out to be all b/c of sleeping over and getting a key. jeeez, some people really read into things!!! The funny part is that he was probably weirded out by it, and then when you keep saying you want it back he probably got his feelings hurt!! what a paradox how long ago did his marriage end? and yes, I have to ask: did you have sex with him?
RecordProducer Posted September 3, 2005 Posted September 3, 2005 Whether he is interested or not you will find out from him - if he calls you and wants to see you. He did act irresponsible for not answering your email and it also seems like he is not too interested in a relationship with you... but you said you wanted to let him know that he's not your BF. What changed? If you don't trust him, change the lock.
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