beev97_adam Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 Well i really dont know were to start to help you guys understand this more. My ex and i were together for about 2 1/2 yrs and i loved her very much well she left me the day after fathers day (at least i got fathers day as a family i guess) I had called her around 8 am to ask her were olivia's sweater was and she was fine said she loved me and she would see me later we told eachother love ya. About a hour later i received a call from work talking about me and her dating (we not supposed to because we work together) So I got of the phone with them and i called her and she went of on me, telling me she didnt want to see me anymore and that it was done and just being really meann and stuff i didnt understand i asked her what i did wrong she said nothing i said so you just dont love me and she well I...I...I...I have feelings i guess you could say i still loveyou. So i asked her what i had to do to make her happy, she said if youwannt to make me happy leave me the F&*$ alone. I was like damn so i left her alone as much as it hurt and i tried to bekeive it in my mind that this is what she wants so i should be happy for her but i cant believe that because she will purposly try to see me at work she will go places at work that she knows i will be at, and she will just look at me no expretion on her face then she would drive by my house when i am home and smile at me. Then she started to tell mutual friends how much she missed and how she cried this went on for about two weeks. then she said no and that was the end but she still looked at me at worrk and went out of her way to see me Then she drove by again. I just dont get it i know she has already dated two differeent guys so i dont know if she is dating them as a crutch and she still loves me but is scared for her job since she has a little girl. I mean i live on the other side of town its way out of her way please help its been 3 months i dont know if i should just walk or if i should ride the storm out i cant date because i feel guilty but i dint want to waist a year of my life for somrthing thatwill never happen, i dont know if i would be mad about that because i love her enough that she is worth the wait. HELP !!!!!!! James Adam Sorry about the spelling
jhurtinct Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 A couple questions first: how long have you both worked together? Is it a very good job? What did work say when they called you? Does she need to drive past your house to get to work, store, or home? These answers might make it easier to understand some. thanks
Author beev97_adam Posted September 1, 2005 Author Posted September 1, 2005 We have worked togather in the navy for 4 yrs and dated for almost 3, no she lives way on the other side of town and i dont see any reason for her to need to drive bye, i would say she lives 20-30 mi away, yes its a good job worked just asked me if we dating again because they caught us once before and said to never speak to eachother again . so when they heard we were dating again they talked to me about it. James Adam I really am thank for people having the heart to help me understand this. THANK YOU
jhurtinct Posted September 2, 2005 Posted September 2, 2005 sorry it took so long to respond i know that is really hard after such a long relationship. by the sounds of things its probably her fearing for her job and if she is driving by and purposely seeing you its because she cares. I don't know how much trouble you two would get into with your jobs if they never to speak again but that would dampen any situation I would think. Is it in a handbook or in the guidelins spelled out somewhere that you can not get involved with a co worker? can you look into tranfering to another area or something? as far as her saying leave me the f alone it sounds more like shes avoiding the pain she's in I'm sorry good luck and hang in there
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