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Navybluegal Established Member

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If this is what I can expect from this man, I'd rather not even waste my time on Tuesday - there are so many other ways I can occupy my time rather than spend it with someone whom I am not compatible with...

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If this is what I can expect from this man, I'd rather not even waste my time on Tuesday - there are so many other ways I can occupy my time rather than spend it with someone whom I am not compatible with...

 

 

Then contact him today and tell him you're no longer interested and wish him well.

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He seems like low interest.

 

If he gets back to you eventually, you can say you're not interested anymore.

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I started seeing a guy whom I like so far. We’ve been on two dates and he’s been really nice and interesting. I would definitely like to continue seeing him.

 

After we last saw each other, he texted that he was going out of town to another state and suggested to meet next Saturday. I replied to him that I would love to meet and suggested to meet Sunday as it would work better due to my work schedule.

 

So far he hasn’t gotten back to me. As we are not committed and I am talking to other people and being asked out, I am trying to decide if I should go ahead and make other plans since I haven’t heard back from him. Or should I keep my Sunday open?

 

I doubt he is the kind of person to play games. Not sure why he’s hasn’t responded though. Either he’s not that into me ( which doesn’t make sense as he offered to meet up again ), or is not in a cell phone range which is hard to believe .

 

Thoughts?

 

 

I would go ahead and make plans for Sunday as he hasn't responded to your text. It takes no time to return a text message so I wouldn't hold my breath.

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basil67 Established Member

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Part of me agrees that as you sent the last text message, the ball is in his court and he's appearing uninterested.

 

The other part of me knows how often text messages get lost in cyberspace or are accidentally missed. So there's a chance that he didn't get your message at all.

 

Personally, I would have called (then I know the message is received) and see if he's wanting to catch up on the weekend. If he didn't hear the call, then I'd at least know that he's see a 'missed call' on his phone and leave it at that.

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Don't reach out again, wait for him, ball's in his court. But yes, do keep Tuesday open (this time).

 

If he handles this the same as before then you know it's just his way and you probably need to just let him go.

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An interested guy nails down a specific date and time, because he DOES want to see you. Anything lukewarm, kick to the curb because he is weighing his options with someone else.

 

100% yes! When I 1st started dating my bf, every date had a day/time and place. Plus we were always in contact anyways. Whenever a guy made tentative plans w/me (not counting stuff w/my bf), he would always flake, I was just an option and he found something better for that day.

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You can see how this plays out. Obviously communication style is very different, but I can't say this is a reason to end things just yet. You could ask for a little more communication. I'm not hopeful, however. Men who are interested will reach out more often and make sure to solidify a time.

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Navybluegal Established Member

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So, new twist to the story.

In the last tex exchange, he said he should have messaged me earlier and told me to pick another day that works for me to meet. I picked Monday. No response from him until today. He texted me this morning and in a very nice text message told me that he didn't sleep well and wouldn't be able to meet today. Said that he does want to get to know me more and wants to be at his best.

I am confused because on one hand he is saying he is interested but action-wise (little communication, canceling via a text) I'm seeing the opposite...

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So, new twist to the story.

In the last tex exchange, he said he should have messaged me earlier and told me to pick another day that works for me to meet. I picked Monday. No response from him until today. He texted me this morning and in a very nice text message told me that he didn't sleep well and wouldn't be able to meet today. Said that he does want to get to know me more and wants to be at his best.

I am confused because on one hand he is saying he is interested but action-wise (little communication, canceling via a text) I'm seeing the opposite...

 

I predicted he'd be a time waster and here you have it.

 

Can you imagine yourself in a relationship with someone behaving like this? Nah! not worth it. It feels so good to date someone that's motivated and wants to spend time with us, don't deny yourself this pleasure.

 

I vote you block him.

 

 

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ExpatInItaly Established Member

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I'd forget about this guy, OP.

stillafool Established Member

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OP, the way this guy has blown you off I hope you aren't still planning to see him, are you?

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Navybluegal Established Member

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OP, the way this guy has blown you off I hope you aren't still planning to see him, are you?

 

Thank you, I needed to hear that.

 

I just can't figure out, if someone's not interested why say that they do want to "get to know you'? Why not just say that they're not that interested?

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Thank you, I needed to hear that.

 

I just can't figure out, if someone's not interested why say that they do want to "get to know you'? Why not just say that they're not that interested?

 

 

Because he knows that's the type of things women likes to hear. He just says that to keep you on the back burner for rainy days. I bet you he'll be out on a date with someone else tonight.

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Thank you, I needed to hear that.

 

I just can't figure out, if someone's not interested why say that they do want to "get to know you'? Why not just say that they're not that interested?

 

Because it's a numbers game. The more women they line up to communicate with the higher chance for sex. Then they prioritize and eliminate.

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So, new twist to the story.

In the last tex exchange, he said he should have messaged me earlier and told me to pick another day that works for me to meet. I picked Monday. No response from him until today. He texted me this morning and in a very nice text message told me that he didn't sleep well and wouldn't be able to meet today. Said that he does want to get to know me more and wants to be at his best.

I am confused because on one hand he is saying he is interested but action-wise (little communication, canceling via a text) I'm seeing the opposite...

 

Nope. He's just making sure the hook is in your cheek.

 

Take it out, throw him back and move on. He's had more than enough time. The fact that he waited until this morning to get back with you is really tell-tale.

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Good points everyone.

 

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