Ab455 Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 My girlfriend wanted a break and i respected it. but she gets upset when i don't reply to her texts and tells me she wish i would just have a conversation with her or will double or triple text me if ignore them. When i do try to talk to her she ignores my messages and texts and i mean like 4-7 hours at a time and when i ask why she will say she needs space and needed a break. But today i was on campus and when i was walking back to my car i happened to see her sitting at a table with a guy ( thought nothing of it) and she was texting and when i approached her to say hi since he had been a few weeks since i had seen her, she told me to please go and when i opened my mouth to talk she said please leave me alone and go. I felt it was pretty hurtful and harsh and when i texted her right after about it she told me not to take it personally and that she's sorry okay? and that she will see me sometime. But i just feel like even if she wanted space i felt like it was pretty hurtful and kinda mean and that i should just cut communication entirely after it.
kendahke Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 (edited) when i approached her to say hi since he had been a few weeks since i had seen her, she told me to please go and when i opened my mouth to talk she said please leave me alone and go. You need to do as she says, go away and leave her alone and go NC/block her. Clearly, she wants to chat with other guys and you are in her way of doing that. BTW--there's no such thing as being on a break---you're either together working out your issues or you've split up. Anything not maintained will die and that goes for relationships. She doesn't want to be in a relationship with you anymore; she's telling you she wants a break because there is someone else she wants to pursue without cheating on you---until he greenlights her, she's going to straddle the fence and try to use her 'girlfriend perks' with you--someone she wants a break from. You don't give ex's girlfriend perks. Ex's are cut off and right now, she's your ex. Act accordingly. Edited July 5, 2018 by kendahke 1
Zahara Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 Why do you allow someone to walk all over you? Do you not have any ability to stand up for yourself? She discards and picks you up whenever she likes and you're always there like a loyal puppy. Grow a backbone. Women like your girlfriend relish men like you because you're at her disposal. She wants you around when she is lacking attention and shoves you away when she has someone giving it to her. She's a user and she's manipulative. If she wants a break -- give it to her. Breaks are break-ups. Usually for two reasons 1) they put you on hold while they dabble with someone else 2) too much of a coward to end it. Walk away. Stop allowing her to step all over you. It is highly unattractive. 2
Lotsgoingon Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 What is the question here? She was worth staying away from--no RUNNING as fast and as far as you can from--just based on the first part of your story. Then we get to the gratuitous public diss. Wow, I cannot think of worse treatment. An apology means nothing here. Nothing. She's nasty. Leave her alone ... yesterday! Dude, you're fortunate. Many of us don't get such overwhelmingly clear indications of a person's character ... and hence, so many dilemmas presented on LS. This is no dilemma. Maybe your issue is that you always ask for an explanation and then when you get one, you take it seriously. Forget explanations. Focus on the behavior. Toxic people rarely come out and say, "Yes, I'm bad for you. You ought to leave me alone." We have to make that judgment. The evidence is overwhelming here. Mutter F-you privately ... and stay the heck away from her. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 Well, she didn't want the new guy she's test-driving to meet you and realize she's not exactly as single as she claims. You nearly blew her cover there, so she shooed you away. It's over, OP. I would preserve your well-being and dignity and just walk away from all of this. 1
smackie9 Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 She's horrible.....cut all contact and move on. I hope that guy got turned off by the way she behaved...I know I would. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 4 hours isn't that big of a deal But she clearly didn't want this guy to know about you. She's trying out new guys. You are the puppet she has dangling on a string. If that upsets you, cut the cord. I tell people this all the time. There is no such thing as taking a break from a relationship. There are no time outs. You are either together or you are apart. She is either too wishy washy or too manipulative to flat out break things off. Either way she's not being nice to you. 2
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