ktmiller222 Posted July 4, 2018 Posted July 4, 2018 So I've been dating a guy for 3 months. I usually see him once a week (sometimes twice). We will usually spend the night with each other. I sometimes get confuse to where he stands. We never talk about "us". Sometimes he'll say "we arent just there yet" when we talk in general. I was going to talk to him last week but he had a death in the family so I wanted to just give him space and just be our usual selves. I wanted to give just 3 months and see if we would become exclusive and if not, I was just going to just move on and find someone else. The last guy I dated ended up leading me on for months so I don't want that happening again. I know men operate differently. I'm not the type to date several people at once. I really like him and want to be with him. He is different than the other guys I have dated (in a good way). Out of nowhere, he asked me to go away to a resort for a relaxing weekend. I was surprised but happy. Does this mean it's going to be a step closer being exclusive?
Lotsgoingon Posted July 4, 2018 Posted July 4, 2018 Sorry to say ... the only prediction that someone wants to be exclusive is that they say explicitly that they want to be exclusive. Trips, vacations, sex, passionate sex, meeting the parents ... only clues ... and for some people delaying actions ... Great thinking to have a three-month deadline in your head ... I really think 1x a month ... isn't a great sign ... Don't be afraid to say what exactly you want ... because if he wants the same thing, you will not be scaring him ... Just be ready to move on if the answer isn't what you want.
basil67 Posted July 4, 2018 Posted July 4, 2018 No, going to a resort doesn't mean that he is getting closer to exclusivity. It simply means he wants to go to a resort with you. Three months in and you're only at this stage? I suspect he's not looking for the same thing as you. Time waster alert. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 7, 2018 Posted July 7, 2018 Close only counts in horseshoes & hand grenades. If you want exclusivity, you have to talk about it. If after 3 months you having discussed it, you need to assume he's with other people especially if you only see him once per week.
I'veseenbetterlol Posted July 8, 2018 Posted July 8, 2018 So I've been dating a guy for 3 months. I usually see him once a week (sometimes twice). We will usually spend the night with each other. I sometimes get confuse to where he stands. We never talk about "us". Sometimes he'll say "we arent just there yet" when we talk in general. I was going to talk to him last week but he had a death in the family so I wanted to just give him space and just be our usual selves. I wanted to give just 3 months and see if we would become exclusive and if not, I was just going to just move on and find someone else. The last guy I dated ended up leading me on for months so I don't want that happening again. I know men operate differently. I'm not the type to date several people at once. I really like him and want to be with him. He is different than the other guys I have dated (in a good way). Out of nowhere, he asked me to go away to a resort for a relaxing weekend. I was surprised but happy. Does this mean it's going to be a step closer being exclusive? I've said that before, but it was only a week or so after we had met. 3 months is a long time and I can guarantee you that he will never commit to you. He is getting what he wants from you and doesn't have strings attached. Usually you become exclusive before you go on a trip, at least in my experience...
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