ExpatInItaly Posted July 4, 2018 Posted July 4, 2018 It's not that, she's just not that into you. That's what I think, too. She likes OP well enough but she's definitely not that invested, as I read it.
Lotsgoingon Posted July 4, 2018 Posted July 4, 2018 Dude, 98 percent of the issues due to her overthinking? ... That's a delusion that is so wildly out of touch with reality that if you were to share that with an admissions officer of a psychiatric hospital ... you would be admitted immediately for treatment. People get burned by delusions like this every day ... and I don't want to see you so burned. People over-think when they're not passionately and convincingly interested. That's when people overthink--because they're not feeling the relationship is right ... and they have to have these talks with themselves ... to convince themselves to keep going. If people feel a relationship ... feel great about it ... the thinking brain gets put to sleep ... like it does when we're watching a great movie ... and we ignore that these are actors working on sets with rehearsed lines ... written by professional writers ... with directors asking them to reshoot certain scenes ... and so on.
coolheadal Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 (edited) You have open relationship with her don't you. Kinky my yeah right. So you know what you doing why do you think she's withdrawn. I not seeing it and your sex acts with her, like it's lame. She ask for sex you do it and nothing fun about it. Just ordinary sex. Edited July 6, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author lakerman34 Posted July 5, 2018 Author Posted July 5, 2018 (edited) Dude, 98 percent of the issues due to her overthinking? ... That's a delusion that is so wildly out of touch with reality that if you were to share that with an admissions officer of a psychiatric hospital ... you would be admitted immediately for treatment. People get burned by delusions like this every day ... and I don't want to see you so burned. People over-think when they're not passionately and convincingly interested. That's when people overthink--because they're not feeling the relationship is right ... and they have to have these talks with themselves ... to convince themselves to keep going. If people feel a relationship ... feel great about it ... the thinking brain gets put to sleep ... like it does when we're watching a great movie ... and we ignore that these are actors working on sets with rehearsed lines ... written by professional writers ... with directors asking them to reshoot certain scenes ... and so on. Don't paint all relationships with a broad brush (my biggest issue with LS -- a lot of people think that there are, like, 5 kinds of relationships when all are unique). I went to the lake with her yesterday. It was wonderful. She told me, "hey, so, I think I've just been a little crazy and stressed with work, and I did some thinking and don't think I have a healthy relationship with my work and setting boundaries with my bosses. I just want you to know that it's not you, and I absolutely love that you're here with me today." Ummm...... case and point. EDIT: And also generalizing and painting people in general with a broad brush. But who am I kidding, everyone is a psychologist nowadays. Edited July 5, 2018 by lakerman34
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