SmartDude Posted July 3, 2018 Posted July 3, 2018 Now that summer is here, I noticed myself being bolder with women. I have developed a dislike of normal dating.There are a few social spots that I go to, and lately I have tried asking women what they are doing for the rest of the day. Have actually had some success with these "instant dates" so far. These women were total strangers and they actually said yes when asked if they would like to go out and have dinner/ have a drink. Any one else do this? I was actually suprised that it worked so well. Maybe people are just really lonely in general? 1
Grey40 Posted July 3, 2018 Posted July 3, 2018 Now that summer is here, I noticed myself being bolder with women. I have developed a dislike of normal dating.There are a few social spots that I go to, and lately I have tried asking women what they are doing for the rest of the day. Have actually had some success with these "instant dates" so far. These women were total strangers and they actually said yes when asked if they would like to go out and have dinner/ have a drink. Any one else do this? I was actually suprised that it worked so well. Maybe people are just really lonely in general? I have to say I haven’t tried asking a woman out the same day we met, though I will try it for sure. I think it can work just because a) it displays confidence and b) probably less than 1% of guys talking and approaching these women do that so it stands out
Logo Posted July 3, 2018 Posted July 3, 2018 Wait, what about the stereotype that men who ask women out on the same day are only looking for sex? Shouldn't there be a 3 day cooling off period, if we're playing by the non-existent dating book? Aren't you making yourself too available? You got to play some mind games otherwise there's something wrong with you. [sarcasm off] 1
central Posted July 3, 2018 Posted July 3, 2018 Yes, people are often lonely and bored. The opportunity to connect with someone - esp. if they are reasonably attractive and "normal" in behavior - is often welcome. And if someone is on vacation, the usual reserve can be lessened. 1
ElKay Posted July 3, 2018 Posted July 3, 2018 My friends and I wouldn't trust someone asking us out on the same day so it definitely shows that those women are ready for some action fast. xD So if that's what you want, more power to you!
DrReplyInRhymes Posted July 3, 2018 Posted July 3, 2018 Now that summer is here, I noticed myself being bolder with women. I have developed a dislike of normal dating.There are a few social spots that I go to, and lately I have tried asking women what they are doing for the rest of the day. Have actually had some success with these "instant dates" so far. These women were total strangers and they actually said yes when asked if they would like to go out and have dinner/ have a drink. Any one else do this? I was actually suprised that it worked so well. Maybe people are just really lonely in general? Yes, I've done this many, many, many times. Back in my 20s, I had many successes with it. Within the past few years, when not in a relationship, I have yet to get a date that way. Just doesn't seem to work out for me anymore.
Happy Lemming Posted July 3, 2018 Posted July 3, 2018 ... and lately I have tried asking women what they are doing for the rest of the day. Have actually had some success with these "instant dates" so far. This is how I "normally" date... I've met women in local pubs/bar, then taken them out to dinner, etc. This is what people did before the internet. In my opinion, its a lot easier. I'm been reading on Loveshack about all this texting and messaging and social media posting, etc. and they haven't even met in person. This new OLD, Tinder, etc. seems overly tedious and verbose, in my opinion. Just cut to the chase. Great job "SmartDude", I applaud you.
mortensorchid Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 I have often times wondered what our lives would be like if the internet never happened, as it applies to all aspects not just the dating life. But now that it's here, we can't avoid it or not try it. With that being said, when you meet someone in "real life" it can seem kind of odd to us. But I think it's not uncommon to do this. Remember before the internet people did this. I often times wonder how some people get together without the internet. All the advice is the same (parties, involved in organizations, play sports, bars, etc.), but we can't seem to relate to one another anymore without the aid of electronics. I am happy for you that you did this. I do think that people's attitudes in general are different during the summer months - more sunshine, people want to get out of the house and do things more. And they are more opt to be friendlier with others.
coolheadal Posted July 5, 2018 Posted July 5, 2018 I have often times wondered what our lives would be like if the internet never happened, as it applies to all aspects not just the dating life. But now that it's here, we can't avoid it or not try it. With that being said, when you meet someone in "real life" it can seem kind of odd to us. But I think it's not uncommon to do this. Remember before the internet people did this. I often times wonder how some people get together without the internet. All the advice is the same (parties, involved in organizations, play sports, bars, etc.), but we can't seem to relate to one another anymore without the aid of electronics. I am happy for you that you did this. I do think that people's attitudes in general are different during the summer months - more sunshine, people want to get out of the house and do things more. And they are more opt to be friendlier with others. For me I am in a new job and I am in training class we also do group activities. So since I gave all my advise here on LS. I've started to have open mind. I wanted to see in a class of 20 where there is only 8 of us men in the rest are women. There is one women in there smiling at me. So I've done again but this time slowly. Yep she likes me remembers my name sends smiles back and forth. One day I was walking to my SUV and she calling out my name in the parking lot. We take out lunch breaks this way. I walking over to her and starting talking to her. I see she's like me in many ways. I've added her to my FB VG Food Group too right there on her cell phone. I did ask her what she was doing on July 4th and see if she was interested into going to the Firework show. But then again it turned out to be a raining day. I've learn a lot about her in a short time. But right now I playing slow. But in all you can ask anyone out if you just take the time to look around and see who has keen eye on you?
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