MountainGirl111 Posted August 16, 2018 Posted August 16, 2018 Sweetie: Welcome to the mating dance. We see it in the animal kingdom. Is it really so different for us humans? It's just that in this present day/time there are even more avenues to do the mating dance with. Social media; instagram, texting, smart phones, on line dating. I think part of your "struggle" is you were sheltered and raised very strict...that's not a bad thing....but it's likely you were given many many messages that sex is "bad". Well, honey, sex can be "bad" in a good way. This is why girls are drawn to bad boys sometimes. For some reason they find it sexy. You're still learning all about the mating dance that goes on between people. If I were you, I would try not to read too much into other peoples' style of texting. Get to know yourSELF better and find out what it is you really want from a relationship. Do you just want to get a little sexual experience? Maybe. But you may also feel conflicted about that....so right NOW in your life you are still finding out what it's all about. Don't get down on yourself. Learn to love yourself and your self confidence will grow and you'll be fighting the boys off with a stick.
MaleIntuition Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 Are you interested in dating this guy or not? This sounds like a classic friend-zone (that is; you regarded him as a friend but he was interested in a romantic relationship). My guess is that he liked you a lot back then, and at one point tried to “break out of the friendzone” (a kiss/make out while drunk perhaps)? After his attempt you started acting cold towards him. In other words; rejecting him. He realised that his feeling weren’t mutual and pulled back. Now you’ve spent a couple of month sending mixed signals. He will not escalate because he doesn’t want to be rejected again. So again; where do you want things to go. If I’m correct, going back to being friends only would be a very bad idea for him.
Author Unrequitedlover Posted August 17, 2018 Author Posted August 17, 2018 Are you interested in dating this guy or not? This sounds like a classic friend-zone (that is; you regarded him as a friend but he was interested in a romantic relationship). My guess is that he liked you a lot back then, and at one point tried to “break out of the friendzone” (a kiss/make out while drunk perhaps)? After his attempt you started acting cold towards him. In other words; rejecting him. He realised that his feeling weren’t mutual and pulled back. Now you’ve spent a couple of month sending mixed signals. He will not escalate because he doesn’t want to be rejected again. So again; where do you want things to go. If I’m correct, going back to being friends only would be a very bad idea for him. Yes, but not if I'm the one making all the moves. I'm more comfortable with the guy moving things forward (like he did in the beginning). True, but he seems fine with whatever I decided what direction our friendship should go in. If I'm very friendly he does the same, but if I switch it up to a bit more flirty he does it too. Whatever I do, he does the same.
MaleIntuition Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 Yes, but not if I'm the one making all the moves. I'm more comfortable with the guy moving things forward (like he did in the beginning). True, but he seems fine with whatever I decided what direction our friendship should go in. If I'm very friendly he does the same, but if I switch it up to a bit more flirty he does it too. Whatever I do, he does the same. He acts like he is fine with it; but neither of you are mind readers. His behaviour makes perfect sense to me. You’ve rejected him once, I don’t think it’s likley he will “make whatever move you wish him to make” again.
Author Unrequitedlover Posted August 18, 2018 Author Posted August 18, 2018 My friend and I got a bit bold after talking about him and I sent him a very upfront text if I could come over to him at night and he ligthly rejected me. Told me he is trying to make it official with another girl. I guess we are even now Time to move onnnn 1
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