Guest49854 Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 I have been seeing a girl for just over a year now. From the start she knew I have a child (5 years old), and how rocky things were with my ex wife with going through court etc etc. She has always had a problem of sorts, thinking if she can deal with my son forever. We love each other very much, but there are times that she think if she can deal with it. When we are alone together, everything is great. I only see my son 5 or 6 times a month, and when he is at our place, she becomes distant and not her usual self. It really gets me down, because I am torn from being there for my child, and having a lovely wonderful relationship with my girl.
midori Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 Have you discussed this with your girlfriend? If so, and if she can't get herself to a place where she's able to be comfortable around your child, I'm afraid that -- wonderful though she may be -- she's not right for you. That is, if you are someone who wants to have a relationship with his child. Children are very perceptive about people who don't like them. Do you think it's okay to ask your five year old to endure your girlfriend's discomfort/dislike just because you want to have a romance with her? Part of being an adult, and a responsible parent, is recognizing and accepting that sometimes things just won't turn out the way we'd like, and acting accordingly. You should talk to your girlfriend, find out from her what the problem is, fix it if possible, but if not ...
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