laracode Posted June 30, 2018 Posted June 30, 2018 Guys, I already posted a topic if I should break-up with her, she is 17, I am 19, and we had a 3 years relationship, we respected each other, I can say we loved each other but I always was doubting my feelings and the whole relationship... Finally I decided there is nothing left to save in this relationship and I somehow ended it, really tough decision, I said she shouldn't regret anything she's done and no one is responsible for this, it just had to happen, told her that she's one of my most valuable people in my life. I can't explain how that hurt... 20 days since the break-up.. I stil don't know if this is the best decision or not, maybe because now I forget about the hard times together, we didn't have communication, I didn't feel I can take her with my friends, have fun together, or talk about life and our future together... I haven't seen her since the break-up and I do not know... If i do not know what will happen if i see her, I do not want to see her... will make a mess inside me... But i feel like i need to get some experience meet other girls, etc, etc... but I am not ready for a relationship yet So do you think that if I do not see her for 4-5 months feelings will dissappear? I do not want to get her back but If I see her with new guy it'll hurt as hell, however she deserves better... But in the end we do what we have to...that's life. We hurt the people that we love, she'll find someone better for her, hopefully I will do so. Thank you for being with me in these tough times, I just share this with you it makes me feel a bit better...
jjb117 Posted July 1, 2018 Posted July 1, 2018 Who knows what will happen, no one in this thread can answer that for you. You definitely will be hurt for the first few months though. There's no escaping that. It will sting, you will miss her, you will want to talk to her but you need to leave her alone. Though you are hurting, you changed the terms of the relationship. It was you who ended it, so you must take responsibility for your actions. You are at the point where you're starting to get use to life without her. You are now living on your own, and though that's scary, it's good for your development. I say date others if you want, but only if you truly want to. I started to date A LOT after my breakup. I probably set up a date or two every weekend. It was fun, but I was only ever excited about a couple. So in essence I wasted my time, and the one's that didn't go well had me comparing my ex to them. Sometimes I'd mention my ex to them as well, which was really awkward. But back to you - you will be fine in due time. You need to embrace the hurt. Cry if you must, talk to people about it. Do whatever you can to let it out of your system. But by doing so, it only leads you closer to healing. So goodluck.
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