MaleIntuition Posted July 31, 2018 Posted July 31, 2018 *Cringe* When I wear these rose tinted glasses I just see what I wanna see and romanticise everything! You guys were right, he's probably lukewarm. Blowing hot and cold which is dissappointing.. I am willing to give one last chance, the timeline is until next Wednesday... but truth is I'm 90% turned off and even if he steps up I don't know if I want to continue. Plus there is someone new in the picture who *gasp* is pursuing... I feel that I start to prefer this man now but I'm careful not to overlap, don't like the idea of seeing two people at the same time. Out of curiosity; do you know what turned you off?
ThreeRainbows Posted July 31, 2018 Posted July 31, 2018 (edited) It is so healthy and wonderful not to have the fear of asking out guys, making a move, etc. Shier girls have to learn to face those fears, or being too feminine can backfire, too. You're one step ahead. You can make the conscious choice - do I want to continue being assertive with men, or do I want to tailor it back a little? You can decide based on what kind of men you like. Edited July 31, 2018 by ThreeRainbows 1
LoverOfDance Posted July 31, 2018 Posted July 31, 2018 I read your thread from the beginning and before you gave your recent update, I knew he was lukewarm. I didn't want to say anything though because even if he is, you never really know with these kind of situations. I'm not sure there's a particularly right way to handle these situations. I'v dealt with similar guys in the past. But I liked them so much that I ignored the fact that they weren't really trying. They were receptive and made a little effort. I liked them so much that I was ok with what they gave and kept chasing. I made excuses for them and didn't want to accept the fact that they gave little because they didn't really like me that much. They are receptive to your advances because they think you're hot but they would be perfectly fine if you decided to disappear tomorrow. Just out of curiosity, what made the infatuation start to wear off? What did he do to make you see things differently?
Author gone_girl Posted July 31, 2018 Author Posted July 31, 2018 Out of curiosity; do you know what turned you off? I read your thread from the beginning and before you gave your recent update, I knew he was lukewarm. I didn't want to say anything though because even if he is, you never really know with these kind of situations. I'm not sure there's a particularly right way to handle these situations. I'v dealt with similar guys in the past. But I liked them so much that I ignored the fact that they weren't really trying. They were receptive and made a little effort. I liked them so much that I was ok with what they gave and kept chasing. I made excuses for them and didn't want to accept the fact that they gave little because they didn't really like me that much. They are receptive to your advances because they think you're hot but they would be perfectly fine if you decided to disappear tomorrow. Just out of curiosity, what made the infatuation start to wear off? What did he do to make you see things differently? What did he do? Nothing much... This is it probably. I'm getting kind of bored! It is so healthy and wonderful not to have the fear of asking out guys, making a move, etc. Shier girls have to learn to face those fears, or being too feminine can backfire, too. You're one step ahead. You can make the conscious choice - do I want to continue being assertive with men, or do I want to tailor it back a little? You can decide based on what kind of men you like. Thanks. It's best to meet half way. And for the flow to be natural, without games! Being available and interested today doesn't mean it will be the same after a week anyways...
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