Hojashojas Posted June 30, 2018 Posted June 30, 2018 I met a girl 1 year ago. We dated for 4 months. From the start she told me she was going back to her country. 3 weeks before going back we went skiing and when we got back she broke up with me. The funny thing is that she had said she was falling for me the night before. Anyway, we remained friends on social media and she liked every of my posts and talked fairly often. 3 months later I was on holidays in her city and she asked me to meet her. We met three times and had a great time. She said she was in love with me and we should spend more time together on a holiday to sort our future. Two weeks later I said to her it wasn't working and we should remain friends. She went nuts. I said to her we could try one more time. However, a week later she said to me we were too far and we forget each other. I cut off all contact for 5 months. Last week I was looking at old photos on my phone and sent her one. She responded with a laugh and asked me how I was. Also she said she was in town. I told her I was travelling for work and that she should have told me so we could have met. She suggested we could meet when I get back home. She will stay only 10 more days. I'm not sure if should meet her. I really like her but she broke it off twice! What do you think?
ExpatInItaly Posted June 30, 2018 Posted June 30, 2018 She might have broken it off twice, but in between that, you also told her it wasn't working. What was that about? 3
kendahke Posted June 30, 2018 Posted June 30, 2018 I think you need to stick with the trajectory of your life, which is without her in it, and find someone local where neither of you are trying to beat the other to breaking it off.
d0nnivain Posted June 30, 2018 Posted June 30, 2018 What's the end game here? Will she ever move back to where you are? Do want to move to her country? You can meet & catch up like old friends, even FWBs, but unless there is a meaningful plan to close the gap, what's the point of this LDR again?
I'veseenbetterlol Posted July 1, 2018 Posted July 1, 2018 You aren't being proud, you put yourself out there TWICE and got burned by her. Best thing to do is forget her especially since she doesn't respect you enough not to screw w/your feelings. Do not meet w/her unless you want her to bow out again.
Lotsgoingon Posted July 1, 2018 Posted July 1, 2018 Do you really want to meet her? Gotta answer that question ... Of course, sometimes we will ignore some feelings ... But do you want to see here? Given how she has behaved, why would you want to see her? She sounds really flakey to me ... like she changes her mind suddenly and without warning ... I myself would feel burned out of that ...
smackie9 Posted July 1, 2018 Posted July 1, 2018 Gosh that really sucks you two can't make a go of it....it's pretty obvious she misses you, and loves you still. She isn't flaky, she's having a tug-o-war with her heart. Her heart says to be with you, and her head keeps telling her it's not going to work, don't get hurt. Plus you are the one that sent her the photo...that's an open invitation, and that's on you my friend, not her.
Author Hojashojas Posted July 2, 2018 Author Posted July 2, 2018 Thanks for all the replies. @smackie9 what is an open invitation? The photo I sent was an open invitation? I am pretty sure I won't meet her. I have been low the last day just thinking about this. It is not worth the pain. 1
smackie9 Posted July 2, 2018 Posted July 2, 2018 (edited) Sending a photo or liking something on their page is a form of reaching out...an open invitation to communicate, you are thinking about them. If you want nothing to do with them, simply block/delete their number,and social media don't forward anything to them. Move the f on!!! There is nothing to gain from it. Edited July 2, 2018 by smackie9
Author Hojashojas Posted July 2, 2018 Author Posted July 2, 2018 After giving it a thought, I have decided I am NOT meeting this girl. She is now liking every of my posts on social media but is not reaching out. I am not chasing her. I just don't care anymore. I feel better with myself by doing this. I don't care if I am missing out. Thanks all.
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