mortensorchid Posted June 30, 2018 Posted June 30, 2018 I went out tonight, it was the first time I had been out in a while. Back in my mid twenties I used to go out and see live music all the time - like all do when they're that age. And I went to one of my old haunts to see a band. I saw a lot of people I still know, we were having one of those reminiscing nights of "remember when we used to do this?" and how we were so crazy back then. Which I'm sure most people do when they are in their early / mid twenties (I'm 43 now). But I digress ... I was standing by the vending machine and some guy comes up and chats with me about the strange aray of candy and things in it. We started chatting, I was happy to say it was one of those moments when you have a bit of a crush on someone. That spark of "I like you", and I felt it from him as well. He offered to buy me a drink, I said yes. Then the band was starting, I was standing against the wall in the back with some other friends. And he said he was going to go up front and be in the mosh pit. He asked "Will you be back here at this spot?" I said yes. He said he would come back and see me later then ... Once the band was done ... I didn't see him. I purposefully lingered there so that he would come back. I looked around for him hoping he would find me, but ... I didn't see him. I even asked him earlier if he was on Facebook, he said he is no longer. Disappointed. But this isn't the first time this has happened, either to me or anyone else. It left me a bit happy, just a bit, thinking I can still attract a man when I thought I was incapable of doing so because I felt like I was too old. 1
Happy Lemming Posted June 30, 2018 Posted June 30, 2018 That is odd behavior on his part... I don't understand. I mean I like music and seeing a band as much as the next guy, but if I meet someone, buy them a drink and am talking to them; I wouldn't leave to go up to the mosh pit. I'd stay with them and try to talk to them. I may try to ask them to go someplace quieter so we could continue the conversation without having to talk over the band. I mean he had an "in", you said "yes" to a drink. Personally, I'm not going to offer to buy a woman a drink if I don't intend on trying to get to know her more. Maybe you dodged a bullet on this one, mortensorchid.
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 30, 2018 Posted June 30, 2018 Do you think you will ever give up on looking for men to date? I am slightly younger than you and probably had less negative experiences but I have had enough and given up about 8 months ago. Life has been wonderful since I admire your persistence though.
warp123 Posted June 30, 2018 Posted June 30, 2018 This is just a random guy you've met for just a little while, dont think about it. Keep going out and have fun, opportunities will keep coming, you are a girl so probably you will get chances like this almost every night.
act00 Posted June 30, 2018 Posted June 30, 2018 It is a fun feeling. It's too bad he didn't come back, but have fun with the moment just the same. You still got it.
kendahke Posted June 30, 2018 Posted June 30, 2018 Something else came up between when he said that to you and the night was over... That spark of "I like you", and I felt it from him as well. Perhaps he wasn't feeling what you were feeling after all... best not to project. It helps in keeping expectations low with strangers. 1
Romantic_Antics Posted June 30, 2018 Posted June 30, 2018 He was interested enough to buy you a drink so he either met someone else in or around the mosh pit, he was giving you a cue to follow him and you misinterpreted it so he assumed you weren't interested and left, or he simply wasn't that interested to begin with and that was his tactful, albeit misleading, way of excusing himself from further interaction. I would personally have never abandoned a woman I felt a spark with for something as ridiculous as a mosh pit, even when I was a teenager, so I'm leaning towards the possibility that he was merely feigning interest that he lost somewhere between buying you a drink and wanting to go bump bodies with other men and that was just his way of excusing himself from the conversation. It's a big sea with lots of fish in it so don't lose hope that you'll get a catch. 1
Garlend Posted June 30, 2018 Posted June 30, 2018 It is a fun feeling. It's too bad he didn't come back, but have fun with the moment just the same. You still got it. No, she isn't. No one is "too old" to seek, and hopefully find romantic love.
coolheadal Posted June 30, 2018 Posted June 30, 2018 I went out tonight, it was the first time I had been out in a while. Back in my mid twenties I used to go out and see live music all the time - like all do when they're that age. And I went to one of my old haunts to see a band. I saw a lot of people I still know, we were having one of those reminiscing nights of "remember when we used to do this?" and how we were so crazy back then. Which I'm sure most people do when they are in their early / mid twenties (I'm 43 now). But I digress ... I was standing by the vending machine and some guy comes up and chats with me about the strange aray of candy and things in it. We started chatting, I was happy to say it was one of those moments when you have a bit of a crush on someone. That spark of "I like you", and I felt it from him as well. He offered to buy me a drink, I said yes. Then the band was starting, I was standing against the wall in the back with some other friends. And he said he was going to go up front and be in the mosh pit. He asked "Will you be back here at this spot?" I said yes. He said he would come back and see me later then ... Once the band was done ... I didn't see him. I purposefully lingered there so that he would come back. I looked around for him hoping he would find me, but ... I didn't see him. I even asked him earlier if he was on Facebook, he said he is no longer. Disappointed. But this isn't the first time this has happened, either to me or anyone else. It left me a bit happy, just a bit, thinking I can still attract a man when I thought I was incapable of doing so because I felt like I was too old. Aw your still young there... He's just playing around, that's why he didn't come back. You stayed and waited.. I guess I would have done the same thing but others break the hope and joy when they don't show up as they said they were... Cheer-up there other out there that tell the truth!
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