mejustme Posted June 27, 2018 Posted June 27, 2018 So BF and I have been on again off again for some time now. We broke up for good back in September2017. Tired of picking and choosing between him and my child’s love of a sport. He told me that he wasn’t going to spend every Friday on a football field. Fine by me, but things that were said were too hurtful and I felt as if I didn’t choose him then he was walking I said goodbye. I met another guy, dated him for a while, dated others as well, but the first guy that I started dating after breakup, I became intimate with. He and I dated for a while. Ex BF and I decided to give it a try one more time back in December. I’ve been seeing him since, but i have not ended the relationship with second guy. My feelings for my ex have drastically changed. I love him but i dont know if i am still in love with him. He has been wonderful and very supportive with my children and their needs. Says he messed up and doesn’t want to loose me again. I don’t know how to end things with either of them. I enjoy both of them. But at this point it’s an affair. How did you end it with your “other one”?
AlwaysGrowing Posted June 27, 2018 Posted June 27, 2018 Which one is the “other”? You might want to sit each of them down individually and tell them that you are involved with the other. That way everyone involved gets to have their own agency in the direction of their life. No one likes to be strung along or be used as a back up plan. Treat others how you yourself would like to be treated.
Adotta Posted June 27, 2018 Posted June 27, 2018 Step back. Create distance. You're too deep into this to see clearly. I would recommend telling both if them. They will be mad, but you're not so far gone that this is an unfixable situation. Tell them both that you're having a hard time understanding what you want. Tell your 1st guy his actions led to you finding guy number two and it's hard deciding to drop him. Tell guy number two you have issues that need to be worked out before your ready for a real relationship. Honesty will set you free and give you the space to make a decision. Continuing on as you are is no good. 1
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