Beachgrl486 Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 I just need a little encouragment right now. I am really upset. My ex and I have been broken up almost a year now. It has been the hardest thing trying to move on. He is seeing someone and I guess he is happy. I heard from a friend tonight they were in to dinner at this restaraunt and how they looked happy together and everything. It just kills me. It hurts so bad, he is out and I think about how I miss him. I saw him about a month ago and we talked for about an hour or so and we flirted and everything..held hands and I knew it wasnt going anywhere and that is was just fun. What can I do? Why does it feel he always comes out on top? Any advice? I hate this soo much.
JS17 Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 I wish I had advice but all I can offer is empathy. I'm in the same boat, minus seeing the ex recently. Today has been a "bad" day for me. I was just talking to my sister about how long it is taking me to get over this and how frustrating, upsetting, and hurtful it is. All I can say is that you're not alone, whatever comfort that brings you.
Author Beachgrl486 Posted September 1, 2005 Author Posted September 1, 2005 I know. I mean how long must all this go on. It has been almost a year for me. I mean ofcourse it is better but not healed. I want it all to just go away. it really hurts. It seems like he moved on so much easier and I know he felt just as strong for me as I did him.
JS17 Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 Well I guess our situation is a little different. I was in love with mine but he wasn't in love with me. I don't think he really cared about me. He's also been with his girlfriend since we broke up if not before then. But it was almost 8 months ago and I feel the same way. How long must this last and yes it's better than it was before but it's still sooo painful sometimes that I just don't know what to do with myself. Sometimes I need to have my one woman pity parties still, tonight is one of them, but most of the time I just try to distract myself and have fun, enjoy life. Not tonight. Tonight I cry like I have too many times before. It really does suck
JS17 Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 OH SHOOT! You were looking for encouragement We're soooo much better than them! We're way cooler and hotter and we will find guys a million times more awesome than them. Patience? Good things come to those who wait :bunny:
Author Beachgrl486 Posted September 1, 2005 Author Posted September 1, 2005 yep! It is true. I also believe what goes around comes around. Screw them. but we can still have our pitty parties...hehe
FataMorgana Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 hey, sorry to hear you are both having tough day today. Yes, they do come around as hard as you try to avoid them, I had one on Tuesday as well, but a large glass of Harvey Wallbanger with extra votca and watching some tennis before bed helped me fix it It does take a long time to heal, what I tend to do...and don't laugh at the methapor or think I am oversimplifying, cause I am, but for a weird reason it seems to work for me. Have you ever tried (or suceeded) giving up smoking? if you have, you'll know what I mean, else try to imagine... when you get the bad cravings and the only way can escape them is to think of something else or even better do something else to take your attention away otherwise you feel like you are going to die without having that cigarette and is all you can think of. Well, I tend to do the same when the pain and thoughts of ex come my way .... told you not to laugh... you can sink and wallow and the more you think about it the more painful it gets, or just switch to something else straight away. I found that the more time goes by, the less they just pop into your mind, and less time you think of them, less pain you feel... and before you know it, pain gets less and your thoughts of them are lighter and shorter by the month. And if you think this is the silliest thing you ever heard it probably is, trying to cheer you up a bit as well
Author Beachgrl486 Posted September 1, 2005 Author Posted September 1, 2005 no. I do not think it is crazy or silly. I think you made a great point. I appreciate it. I agree with you
JS17 Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 I actually use this too and find it very helpful....usually. Today it's just been overwhelming. Some days it's just easier to give in
FataMorgana Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 I actually use this too and find it very helpful....usually. thanks girls. I'm glad I posted now, I felt really silly writing my previous post...but now so glad to share. Today it's just been overwhelming. Some days it's just easier to give in Yes you are right, as I said I had one of those on Tuesday as well (cause I saw them as well), I almost wrote a post very similar with the one beachgirl did, but in the end I just had a drink, watched some tennis, read some posts on LS .. and woke up much better the next day... starting applying those rules very early in the morning, went for a run... and is all just back to normal. wishing the same for you both by tomorrow.... now I'd better get on with doing some work
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