Destini Posted June 26, 2018 Posted June 26, 2018 My friend has made a few post on here about her boyfriend and him still entertaining his ex. Now it has gotten to the point where she now believes he plans on proposing to her and no one can seem to talk her out of it if that is what he really plans on doing right now she’s just making assumptions. I’m sure you guys may or may not know the story. He shared a post on Facebook of a picture of a guy and a girl standing looking at fireworks and it said “How I want to be for the 4th of July” He captioned it and said “7 days .” And now she assumes he’s gonna propose when just a month ago and even before that he was still making sexual advances at his ex who he ended things with when she found out he was messing around with my best friend on the side. From what my friend told me he ended things with his ex it In a pretty rude way too. She saw the picture my friend tagged him in of him and her, confronted him about it and in the beginning he lied and said they were just friends. He ignored her for days, but eventually told her to never call or text him again and that he was done with her and he told her to stop messaging his girl (my bestfriend) when she messaged her asking for the truth about them. My best friend was pretty rude about it as well. She laughed at how his ex was crying to him about how he could do that to her knowing she experienced a lot of her first, sexually, with him. My friend was with him the whole time the altercation between them had went down. I’ve been trying to let my best friend know he isn’t for her because of how they started dating and because of what he has done with his ex and probably still does with other girls but she doesn’t listen. They have been in Memphis living with his biological mom since May, before that they were playing hosue at her moms house in Chicago and now he may or not be planning to propose and neither one are ready for that and she’s only 18 and he’s 23, 24 in December. Any advice?
d0nnivain Posted June 26, 2018 Posted June 26, 2018 Are you really Destini's friend using her account or are you Destini asking the same Q in another way? The guy is too old for you. He doesn't love you. He loves his EX. he has a limited to no future because he's still living with his mommy. Do not marry him. 3
coolheadal Posted June 26, 2018 Posted June 26, 2018 Are you really Destini's friend using her account or are you Destini asking the same Q in another way? The guy is too old for you. He doesn't love you. He loves his EX. he has a limited to no future because he's still living with his mommy. Do not marry him. See you already figured out who's this is.. But I agree with you as well do not marry him!
smackie9 Posted June 26, 2018 Posted June 26, 2018 I'm agreeing with everyone here, don't marry him....hell no!
Author Destini Posted June 26, 2018 Author Posted June 26, 2018 Are you really Destini's friend using her account or are you Destini asking the same Q in another way? The guy is too old for you. He doesn't love you. He loves his EX. he has a limited to no future because he's still living with his mommy. Do not marry him. You say he still loves his ex but somehow the post he has been sharing have been for me. He shared a picture of a pregnant woman and it said “one day in my future” he shared a quote saying “happily ever after doesn’t happen effortlessly relationships need working on.” A girl made a post with videos and pictures of her boyfriend treating her on a date night at s arcade place, he bought her things and they had dinner and she was saying how her boyfriend was the best and she loved him because of that, he shared that as well. The 4th of July post he shared and him saying “7 days” just proves he plans on doing something special for me, maybe even a proposal. He shared my post about going to a Luau party and he commented on my posT about wanting to go to sky zone by saying he’ll go with me. With all of that, his ex is the last thing on his mind.
stillafool Posted June 26, 2018 Posted June 26, 2018 You say he still loves his ex but somehow the post he has been sharing have been for me. He shared a picture of a pregnant woman and it said “one day in my future” he shared a quote saying “happily ever after doesn’t happen effortlessly relationships need working on.” A girl made a post with videos and pictures of her boyfriend treating her on a date night at s arcade place, he bought her things and they had dinner and she was saying how her boyfriend was the best and she loved him because of that, he shared that as well. The 4th of July post he shared and him saying “7 days” just proves he plans on doing something special for me, maybe even a proposal. He shared my post about going to a Luau party and he commented on my posT about wanting to go to sky zone by saying he’ll go with me. With all of that, his ex is the last thing on his mind. Okay if you believe what you wrote why are you worried and on here talking about it? 1
act00 Posted June 27, 2018 Posted June 27, 2018 You...or your "friend"...are in a bad situation that will not change, and the answers will not change no matter the persona or the different take on the story...the guy is a jerk...end it now...seek a housing situation that works, sever the bills, and get out. No one is going to EVER say this relationship is okay, and I don't care how many personas get taken on, and how many ways you present the picture...the dude is screwing around on you, and lying, all the while portraying monogamy and buying nice gifts and using nice words...he's still a jerk...you have to sever this relationship now.
d0nnivain Posted June 27, 2018 Posted June 27, 2018 You say he still loves his ex but somehow the post he has been sharing have been for me. He shared a picture of a pregnant woman and it said “one day in my future” he shared a quote saying “happily ever after doesn’t happen effortlessly relationships need working on.” A girl made a post with videos and pictures of her boyfriend treating her on a date night at s arcade place, he bought her things and they had dinner and she was saying how her boyfriend was the best and she loved him because of that, he shared that as well. The 4th of July post he shared and him saying “7 days” just proves he plans on doing something special for me, maybe even a proposal. He shared my post about going to a Luau party and he commented on my posT about wanting to go to sky zone by saying he’ll go with me. With all of that, his ex is the last thing on his mind. Ok fine he loves you now (after the EX repeatedly rejected him he has come around to you, his second choice). But what does that get you? Do you really want to be knocked up by a guy who can't even provide for himself? How do you think he's going to support you or a kid? He won't. He's going to leave you alone with no child support. He lives with his mommy for heaven's sake. Wake up Destini. You are 18. You have your whole future ahead of you. Get some skills at JobCorps. Get a job. Make some money. Cherish your independence. Then when you have your financial feet under you, go find a good stable faithful man who is your equal. At 18 you are already more mature then your useless lazy BF who is sponging off his mommy. Don't throw away your life on him. He's not worth it.
kendahke Posted June 27, 2018 Posted June 27, 2018 Any advice? Yes. Let her crash and burn. You can't tell her anything anyway, so let her go off and do what she's going to do. She's an adult. She'll have to pull up her big girl pants and deal with it if this guy doesn't come through on the 4th. But you're right--what he did to get with your friend is what he's going to do to your friend given the chance. She just doesn't believe that he would do that to her and won't until he does to it to her. Just tell her "I told you so".
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