jarob Posted June 26, 2018 Posted June 26, 2018 Hey everyone, Long story short, I was really into this girl and felt she was into me as well. After our second date(kiss and deep talks) and after I gave her flowers, she told me she's not ready for a relationship due to the fact she got dumped by her boyfriend a couple months ago and still has feelings for him. She told me something along the lines of "You're really sweet and I'd probably be with you if I didn't have feelings for my ex.' She said she needed space. That was about 2 weeks ago, and I haven't reached out or anything. I'm moving forward because you can't wait on things like this- but will she ever reach out to me? Like I said, she hasn't reached out to me in 2 weeks and I'm wondering if I will ever talk to this girl again!
HumanMachine Posted June 26, 2018 Posted June 26, 2018 You’ve acted correctly mate, only time will tell. Try not to think of it and focus on yourself.
d0nnivain Posted June 26, 2018 Posted June 26, 2018 She won't reach out. You sound like a great guy & a sweet BF but if she was truly into you, she would not have needed "space". She would have been thrilled to move forward with you. Being hung up on her EX was a white lie designed to soften the blow of the rejection. While being rejected sucks, there are some positive take aways here. 1). You are able to have deep talks with a woman you like. 2). You pick kind people to date. 3). It was clean break so you really shouldn't be wondering. She didn't ghost. 4). You recognize when things are over & behave appropriately by backing off. 1
HiCrunchy Posted June 26, 2018 Posted June 26, 2018 She is in love with someone else. She isn't coming back. And if she does, it won't be for a while.
OldSoulB Posted June 26, 2018 Posted June 26, 2018 Forgetting about her is the right thing to do. One of the taboos of relationships is trying to get with someone who still has feelings towards their ex's. Be glad she was at least honest and upfront with such a thing. It'd be a real nightmare if she didn't divulge that to you and she went on and had a relationship with you while she still had such feelings. Absolutely stay away from her.
SevenCity Posted June 26, 2018 Posted June 26, 2018 She is in love with someone else. She isn't coming back. And if she does, it won't be for a while. And if she does, know you were not her first choice and she will eventually leave you. Delete her number and if she calls demote her to sex toy. 1
dumbass2 Posted June 26, 2018 Posted June 26, 2018 She may reach out again, but remember what she has told you and that those feelings won't just go away in a few weeks or months. Sounds like she wants another chance with her ex and he may give it to her at some point. Best to move on and not be in contact at all. Bad timing with this one but at least she told you. May also be that she decided that you are not what she is really looking for and this was a easy way to let you down. Remember that how you feel and what you think is not always the same as the other person.
ElKay Posted June 26, 2018 Posted June 26, 2018 Whether she's not into you or is truly still into her ex, regardless, she doesn't want to continue the relationship/interactions with you. Count yourself lucky that she didn't wait longer to let you know! Breath in, breath out and you'll meet someone great someday.
MissBee Posted June 28, 2018 Posted June 28, 2018 Hey everyone, Long story short, I was really into this girl and felt she was into me as well. After our second date(kiss and deep talks) and after I gave her flowers, she told me she's not ready for a relationship due to the fact she got dumped by her boyfriend a couple months ago and still has feelings for him. She told me something along the lines of "You're really sweet and I'd probably be with you if I didn't have feelings for my ex.' She said she needed space. That was about 2 weeks ago, and I haven't reached out or anything. I'm moving forward because you can't wait on things like this- but will she ever reach out to me? Like I said, she hasn't reached out to me in 2 weeks and I'm wondering if I will ever talk to this girl again! It's hard to say, but odds are, probably not. But you only went out twice. In my experience, no matter how nice someone is, if I've only seen them twice, I really don't know them, and am just not gonna be that invested in either position. If I had been out with someone twice and was still hung up on my ex, chances are, I'm not invested enough to follow back up. Likewise, if i were you and someone I only went on two dates with said they weren't over their ex, it may be a tad disappointing, but they're still mostly a stranger who barely made it out the gate, so I would move on as there wasn't much invested here to begin with. Be grateful this happened after two dates and not 2 months into being more invested.
Lotsgoingon Posted June 29, 2018 Posted June 29, 2018 Literally you want to hear her words the way you would hear a salesman at a store say, "We don't sell that item here." She just matter of factly told you that she was not available for dating because she is still emotionally entangled with her ex. She's being really honest and helpful ... the worst situations in when someone does NOT tell you they are still in love with the ex. Take the compliment she gave ... so you showed some social skill and kindness ... you were fun to be around. Take that compliment and run with it, soak in the compliment and feel good about yourself ... for the next women you approach. 1
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