closetohome Posted June 24, 2018 Posted June 24, 2018 This is my first time posting. I am a daily lurker, and have been for a very long time. It comforts me to read your stories. They do give me hope that one day I’ll be totally free of thinking and feeling for this married man. I am a married woman. He is my neighbour and he lives directly across the street. Our children are friends. I have been on this emotional rollercoaster for 2 1/2 years, and I’m praying that I am off it for good this time. I’m not sure if I’m ready to post my whole story. But I’ll get there, I’m sure. I just want all of you to know that I can relate to so many of you in so many ways. It’s eerie. But also comforting. Keep your heads up, you’re doing great.
Adotta Posted June 24, 2018 Posted June 24, 2018 (edited) Just be ready to hear some thing you may not agree with and some things you may not want to hear. The people who throw snark and insult can be hard to deal with, but just ignore them. I'm guilty of throwing a little anger around from time to time as well. People will tend to empathize with your husband. That's probably a good thing as your husband does deserve empathy right now, but it also means sometimes people will throw some hurtful words or sentiment your way. They are probably trying to prompt you to do what's right, but they can't resist throwing I few digs in. Let it roll off you and concentrate more on the substance of the posts. Even the acidic posts can be helpful in ways. Even if just to understand the pain of betrayal. Is the affair physical yet? You mention a husband. What's your relationship like with him and what was it like over the years? Do you respect him? Does he respect you? One thing I know is breaking this off in the truest sense will be near impossible with this guy around all the time. One of the most important steps in breaking these things is going no contact. Completely. Have you been in IC? Edited June 24, 2018 by Adotta
Poppy47 Posted June 24, 2018 Posted June 24, 2018 Hello, Adotta has it right. You can expect anything on this site. Some posters pop up occasionally and they can be very harsh indeed. Most people have the best will in the world and will give you their thoughts without the digs. You must surely know this from reading here a lot. If this site is not for you there is another which I have found does not have different forums and will not pass harsh judgements. It is call True Support and the mods might kick my bottom for mentioning it. Be very careful before you publish your whole story. Starting a thread can bring a storm upon your head... or not. Just depends on the day or the size of the moon. Best Wishes, Poppy.
Bittersweetie Posted June 24, 2018 Posted June 24, 2018 Hi close, I will say that often the posts that piss me off the most are the ones that are touching a nerve I need to examine. I guess keep that in mind when you do decide to share. You say your AP lives across the street and your children are friends? That is going to make ending things very, very difficult. Have you thought about moving? I know that sounds drastic but unfortunately there are consequences to having an affair.
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