Rhythm28 Posted August 31, 2005 Posted August 31, 2005 Went out to an after-work party yesterday and my ex was there. She also works at the same place. We went out about 6 years ago and it kinda ended bad. We don't even talk to this day. She went back to her abusive boyfriend and now lives with him but still manages to try and get my attention at work and eyeballs me all the time. I just ignore it. So at the party I catch her looking at me quite a bit. She goes to the jukebox and plays a song from a concert we went to see. The song comes on and she starts looking at me again. A few minutes later she walks by me, touches my arm and asks if I want something to drink. I say yeah but blow her off by not looking at her nor paying much attention to her. Well I had been drinking quite a bit myself and I was drunk, lonely, and horny so I put the moves on her and she rejected me. OK fine. I then told her to quit looking at me at work the way she does and she just drove off. The bad part is that a few people from work saw the exchange and I'm sure it's gonna be the topic of water cooler discussions for days to come. I plan on apologizing to her as soon as possible. Just because a woman gives you "signals" doesn't means she wants to go home with you, I know that. I was out of line and I can only blame alcohol so much. As much as I had been drinking, I knew what I was doing. Any advice on how to give this thing some damage-control? It's gonna be awkward at work because I re-opened a can of worms that I should have kept closed.
Art_Critic Posted August 31, 2005 Posted August 31, 2005 Since you didn't talk to her before the "incident" I would follow her lead entirely. If she speaks to you then apologize but if she brushes you off then totally leave her alone. It seems like a no harm no foul situation where you can just do nothing and still not affect the outcome...
Candy Cane Posted August 31, 2005 Posted August 31, 2005 Just forget about it. If people mention it, just laugh it off. Don't even comment. I'd not say anything to her either. It sounds like she was coming on to you...maybe she just changed her mind....but she got what she wanted and that was your attention. Maybe if you see her at work, smile. Smile and go your own way. That'll teach her.
Tahretoy Posted September 1, 2005 Posted September 1, 2005 Everything fades with time. Perhaps your drama will be entertaining for a while, but most people are too busy thinking about themselves to be worried about you. Forget about it lesson learned.
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