shyguy3543 Posted June 21, 2018 Posted June 21, 2018 Hey guys, First off, disclaimer: I've barely watched any Grey's Anatomy. My friend is obsessed with it and when I told her my situation, she was like "that sounds like something straight out of Grey's" so yeah. Anyway, at my part time job at an animal hospital, we just had a new vet student start her summer internship. From the get-go, like not even two minutes after meeting eachother, there was teasing and stuff and just kinda a flirty vibe between us (or at least that's the impression I get). At one point she asked when I'd be coming in again and I said it'd be a week and that I'm barely there these days. Her reply was "I guess I'll just have to mack on you extra hard then to make up for lost time." I kinda wonder if she meant more like bash on me instead since we've been teasing eachother so much. My co-workers seem to agree that we've been very flirty, and one of them was like "she's SO into you. You can see it in her eyes when she looks at you. She gives you a certain look... the same look I gave my husband when I was getting to know him" and I think I can see what she means. She does seem to follow me around more than other people too. Yesterday when I came in and she walked up to say good morning and whatnot, I think she may have even been blushing a bit? idk, probably just me being hopeful lol. What I've definitely noticed is she seems to kind of point her head down a bit and look up at me when she smiles? And that whenever she cracks a joke or something with multiple people around, I always catch her looking at me (getting waaaay too much into body language stuff here, but I've heard if someone looks to see your reaction after telling a story or joke, it could mean they're into you...I know that sounds absolutely ridiculous ) Yesterday during lunch break we sat together for some time outside and I helped her learn You Belong With Me by T-Swift on guitar lol. Before leaving work, she asked me to write down the chord progressions so she could practice it at home. I tossed my phone # on there too and said feel free to contact me if you've got any questions about the next parts of the song we haven't covered yet. My coworker, the girl who mentioned the thing about the look, said that was an awful idea and that I shouldn't have done anything like that yet and just see how things keep going. ughhh. No doubt I've got a crush on her. I have a first date coming up with another girl next week and I'm not really even excited about it, but when I took my dog in today for a quick vaccine shot, I was getting butterflies in my stomach at the thought of seeing this girl. She's gonna be there through August. Aside from what I've done so far, and saying "if you need someone to go to that bbq spot with you, let me know!" (in reference to a bbq place I LOVE and she's been meaning to try out), I'm not really sure what to do. If she's not into me and she's actually just teasing me for fun, I don't want to make things uncomfortable and/or get into trouble at work. My only idea at this point is wait until she finishes up in August and try getting in contact through Facebook and just keep doing what we're doing in the meantime. I don't think I can do much more... right?
MidwestUSA Posted June 21, 2018 Posted June 21, 2018 If this was Grey's, you'd have slept with her already, just sayin'! Your plan is fine; who knows what might happen this summer yet. Are you not allowed to date fellow employees/students/interns? For the record, I don't see a problem with having slipped her your phone number. It's all about guitar, right? 1
Lotsgoingon Posted June 21, 2018 Posted June 21, 2018 Ask her out ... That's the next step ... unless you are faculty and are banned from dating an intern, etc. Most universities don't necessarily ban teachers from dating students... as long as you are not in control of giving them a grade. Of course, in the real world you reputation will take a hit if you're much older than this intern. Ask her for coffee. That's safe ... go somewhere public ... you can get a better sense of her interest (and yours) over coffee ... like low pressure. The upside is that if the flirtation isn't there at coffee, that's fine ... You are just mentoring an intern. But you gotta give us background on the context ... are you a faculty member, etc? ... How much older than the intern are you? In my area one of the top surgeons at an institution recently married a woman much younger who was a worker at the same institution. Totally legit. The messiness is proceeding if the other person isn't really interested.
MidwestUSA Posted June 21, 2018 Posted June 21, 2018 Ask her out ... That's the next step ... unless you are faculty and are banned from dating an intern, etc. Most universities don't necessarily ban teachers from dating students... as long as you are not in control of giving them a grade. Of course, in the real world you reputation will take a hit if you're much older than this intern. Ask her for coffee. That's safe ... go somewhere public ... you can get a better sense of her interest (and yours) over coffee ... like low pressure. The upside is that if the flirtation isn't there at coffee, that's fine ... You are just mentoring an intern. But you gotta give us background on the context ... are you a faculty member, etc? ... How much older than the intern are you? In my area one of the top surgeons at an institution recently married a woman much younger who was a worker at the same institution. Totally legit. The messiness is proceeding if the other person isn't really interested. I gathered that he works at an animal hospital (vet tech perhaps?) and she is a student doing an internship. The only messiness I could see is if they date and it doesn't work out, or he asks her out and she laughs in his face. I wouldn't think this employer would have any restrictions on dating (I can't imagine my own vet imposing such rules) but I've heard of wackier things. It is quite the 'old fashioned' way of meeting someone, after all.
Author shyguy3543 Posted June 21, 2018 Author Posted June 21, 2018 If this was Grey's, you'd have slept with her already, just sayin'! Your plan is fine; who knows what might happen this summer yet. Are you not allowed to date fellow employees/students/interns? For the record, I don't see a problem with having slipped her your phone number. It's all about guitar, right? Haha! Based on the bit I did see of it, you've got a point. And yep, you nailed it in your other reply. I'm a licensed tech part-time (working as an RN full time) and she's a vet student. I'm 99% sure there's no rule against dating in the workplace there, but it's a pretty small hospital. If I make a more definite move and it's rejected, we'd have that awkwardness around us when we see eachother every few minutes. Honestly, she seems like the kind of girl who'd just laugh it off and say "no thanks" and be cool about it if she weren't interested, but on the off chance she's not, I don't want to risk it. Plus, the doctor she's been assigned to shadow would hate me lol. Ask her out ... That's the next step ... unless you are faculty and are banned from dating an intern, etc. Most universities don't necessarily ban teachers from dating students... as long as you are not in control of giving them a grade. Of course, in the real world you reputation will take a hit if you're much older than this intern. Ask her for coffee. That's safe ... go somewhere public ... you can get a better sense of her interest (and yours) over coffee ... like low pressure. The upside is that if the flirtation isn't there at coffee, that's fine ... You are just mentoring an intern. But you gotta give us background on the context ... are you a faculty member, etc? ... How much older than the intern are you? In my area one of the top surgeons at an institution recently married a woman much younger who was a worker at the same institution. Totally legit. The messiness is proceeding if the other person isn't really interested. Last time we worked together she asked how old I am. I'm 30. I asked her and she said almost 24. So there's a slight age gap. Nothing crazy, but yea. I'm not faculty, luckily. That'd be even trickier! I'm a licensed vet tech, so basically an animal nurse, and she's a vet student. Maybe I'll try the coffee meetup idea. I'm thinking I should wait though if I do that since I just slid her my number to "answer guitar-related questions" lol. Btw, no call or text for guitar questions or anything else yet.
Author shyguy3543 Posted June 21, 2018 Author Posted June 21, 2018 btw, going to work there again next Friday. Co-worker is throwing some sort of party after work. Not sure if she's gonna be invited, but if she is, I'll be a happy guy!
preraph Posted June 21, 2018 Posted June 21, 2018 Two little things. Blushing doesn't mean someone likes you. In this case, she was probably blushing because the coworkers are telling her how much you like her and she's embarrassed or telling her you know she likes you and embarrassed. Two, nothing wrong the way you gave her your number. Keep those other coworkers out of this. Stop talking to them about it. It could scare her off if they seem to think you're an item when you're not. She's friendly and you have things in common, a great foundation. Now, what you may not know yet is if she already might have a boyfriend or someone she's chasing. So calm down but stay in contact. See if she texts you in the next week or not. If you get a chance to give her more guitar lessons, go somewhere private and do it so you can ask her out. Good luck.
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