Do women give second chances if...

[Babeindawoods]

Hi Rocker,

 

Why were you going after an older woman? I'm personally curious about this phenomenon because I've had quite a few younger men go after me... what ended up happening in each case was that they ended up leaving me for younger women...

 

I noticed that when I dated younger men, even just a couple years younger... all of the sudden they would start getting a bunch of attention from women who were much younger than themselves and definitely way younger than me.

 

Of course that ended up making me feel terrible about myself.

 

Perhaps the woman had experienced something similar and was trying to show you that she could get other men. Maybe she was wary of the age difference and was trying to pretend like she didnt care in order to **** test you in a way...

 

So... while on these dates with this woman, did you receive attention from other women?

 

Did this woman post any pictures of the two of you on any kind of social media?

 

Do the women you're dating now know this blonde woman or have they seen pictures of her somehow?

 

Again, I'm interested based on my own personal experiences. But perhaps I can help you understand what this woman was thinking.

 

I agree with the poster who complimented your writing style, by the way...

 

You definitely have a way with words

[Rocker71]

You didn't ruin anything. You were just dealing with the wrong woman for relationship goals.

 

She sounds more like a good-time girl.

 

Yea. I think she's just not the one for me. I'm not sure if she's a good-time girl because I don't know her past having dinner.

 

She probably waited 4 days to respond because you took 14 days to continue contacting her in the first place?

 

Like I said, In 9 months, I can count on one hand the times she initiated a text or phone call. I was trying to give her a chance to reach out to me instead of me almost always being the one to reach out first.

 

QUOTE=DrReplyInRhymes;7587443]Women will always give second chances for the man they truly love or want something from.

When a woman stops giving you chances, you know it's time to move on regardless of how you feel about it!

 

I know this. I have moved on physically. I am active in talking to other women. I am spending time with other women and getting tail from 2 others who aren't bad looking. I cannot understand why my brain is stuck on this one though.

 

Hi Rocker,

 

Why were you going after an older woman? I'm personally curious about this phenomenon because I've had quite a few younger men go after me... what ended up happening in each case was that they ended up leaving me for younger women...

 

I noticed that when I dated younger men, even just a couple years younger... all of the sudden they would start getting a bunch of attention from women who were much younger than themselves and definitely way younger than me.

 

Of course that ended up making me feel terrible about myself.

 

Perhaps the woman had experienced something similar and was trying to show you that she could get other men. Maybe she was wary of the age difference and was trying to pretend like she didnt care in order to **** test you in a way...

 

So... while on these dates with this woman, did you receive attention from other women?

 

Did this woman post any pictures of the two of you on any kind of social media?

 

Do the women you're dating now know this blonde woman or have they seen pictures of her somehow?

 

Again, I'm interested based on my own personal experiences. But perhaps I can help you understand what this woman was thinking.

 

I agree with the poster who complimented your writing style, by the way...

 

You definitely have a way with words

 

I seen her drive by me at work, my previous job, and I noticed her. Maybe 3 weeks after that she drove up to me and stopped and we talked for about 2 hours. Both of us flirting with each other. Thats how it started. She was 49, I was 46. Three years age difference.

 

She drove up to me a couple more times at work and we talked and flirted, she complaiined about her live in boyfriend being a jerk. I got her number and texted her a week later. We made the first date a few days after, first thurs of June last year.

 

I went for the kiss and got it. She said she usually didn't give the kiss until the 3rd date. But on the second date we kissed passionately.

 

I have always liked women a little older than me. Don't know why.

 

She gets a ton of attention out in public. Shes blond (hair color), cute, wears tight jeans, high heels, she knows how to dress at 50.

 

Me, I'm always told I look 10yrs younger than my age. I do get my share of female attention. I have no problem talking/flirting with women, even younger than me.

 

We never took any pics of us when we were together but on our 5th date in Dec. She showed me a pic of her and another dude at a hockey game. She said she went out with this guy twice but he gave her drama. I lost my composure, but tried to hide it, and got jealous and told her I was liking her and she said she had to pick her daughter up. Which was BS.

 

like I said we're only 3 years difference. But I do like being in a relationship as opposed to always dating around. Dating around is a lot of work but it is kinda fun.

 

I Don't know why I'm attracted to slightly older women. I can take care of myself very well. She owns her own home, although in a moble home park. But she lives paycheck to paycheck.

 

When I'm with her we get along so well. I feel totally comfortable with her. We have a similar sense of humor. Never any trouble or awkwardness with conversation or anything. I cannot understand why I froze up when it's time to flirt or escalate.

 

Maybe it's my imagination but, even if she were to give me another chance, I'd feel like I would be her fallback, or that she's settling for me cuz no one else panned out. On the other hand if she were to give me another chance she could feel like it was a mistake for her to not pursue me harder earlier.

 

Thanks again for helping me to sort this out and not making fun.

 

I can't understand why dating other women doesn't erase her from my mind, even though I've done way more with these women than I've done with her.

Edited June 26, 2018 by Rocker71

[Rocker71]

Hi Rocker,

 

Why were you going after an older woman? I'm personally curious about this phenomenon because I've had quite a few younger men go after me... what ended up happening in each case was that they ended up leaving me for younger women...

 

I noticed that when I dated younger men, even just a couple years younger... all of the sudden they would start getting a bunch of attention from women who were much younger than themselves and definitely way younger than me.

 

Of course that ended up making me feel terrible about myself.

 

Perhaps the woman had experienced something similar and was trying to show you that she could get other men. Maybe she was wary of the age difference and was trying to pretend like she didnt care in order to **** test you in a way...

 

So... while on these dates with this woman, did you receive attention from other women?

 

 

Do the women you're dating now know this blonde woman or have they seen pictures of her somehow?

 

I agree with the poster who complimented your writing style, by the way...

 

You definitely have a way with words

 

Thank you.

 

I'm not sure if I received attention from other wimen while on dates with her simply because my attention was on her whenever we were together.

 

I am seeing one other woman from the same park as her but I'm sure they don't know eachother.

Neither of the others know her I'm sure.

 

I'm not into older women because I feel I lack something. It's been my experience they appreciate the attention and company more than a younger women would. Younger women are more fickle and easily distracted. While an older woman gives me more attention.

 

 

But...this one is different.

 

Being 47, I'll date a woman maybe to 54 and if she doesn't have the grandma look.

 

Being realistic, we've only been out to dinners and a walk & talk on the pier. I don't know how she is on her own. I really don't know her personality too well. I don't know if she's a raging b**** or anything like that.

 

She lives with her daughters 17 & 24. She's always saying how her daughter's boyfriends give them roses and gifts and how romantic they are but when I do it she seemed to not like it.

 

Oh well... Every woman is slightly different...

[littleblackheart]

She drove up to me a couple more times at work and we talked and flirted, she complaiined about her live in boyfriend being a jerk.

 

Hmmmm. I'm pretty hopeless at spotting those 'red flags' everyone keeps talking about but, even to me, this sounds like very bad news from the start.

 

I can't understand why dating other women doesn't erase her from my mind, even though I've done way more with these women than I've done with her.

 

That's not her. That's your brain (and maybe a little bit your ego?) processing the dissonance. She said she was inexperienced and you took her at her word, when all signs point to the fact that she quite clearly knew what she was doing (imo).

 

No harm was done, chapter closed.