Funny bunny Posted June 18, 2018 Posted June 18, 2018 Yesterday I had the most dignified breakup ever. I did not beg, tried to talk it out but did not push it. I told him I loved him as we were saying goodbye and I was feeling very calm. He gave me some belongings I had at his house and we both wished each other happiness. He seemed sad saying goodbye. We had some differences about spirituality/premarital sex and in addition to this I would get insecure sometimes when things were going so great because I would suddenly feel fear of loss. My insecurities scared him away. Today is my first day NC and I called a few counseling therapy offices and at church someone prayed for me. All I can do is learn from this experience. Now I just don’t know what to do with myself. I’m dreading tomorrow Monday and the normal week routine. How are you guys doing today? How is NC going? I can’t believe I’m never going to see him again but that’s his choice.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 18, 2018 Posted June 18, 2018 It will take time to adjust to this new phase of your life. At first, it will feel overwhelming. But as you get more and used to not having him around, you will find other outlets and support that will help ease the transition. It will begin to feel less daunting. Finding a good therapist is a great idea. Having someone to vent to who can also provide you some coping strategies is a healthy step in the healing process, and also to address whatever underlying issues you want to resolve before embarking on a relationship again. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 18, 2018 Posted June 18, 2018 Keep yourself busy You will be OK. Post here. Call a friend. Go for a walk. Do anything other than call him.
Author Funny bunny Posted June 18, 2018 Author Posted June 18, 2018 It will take time to adjust to this new phase of your life. At first, it will feel overwhelming. But as you get more and used to not having him around, you will find other outlets and support that will help ease the transition. It will begin to feel less daunting. Finding a good therapist is a great idea. Having someone to vent to who can also provide you some coping strategies is a healthy step in the healing process, and also to address whatever underlying issues you want to resolve before embarking on a relationship again. My family discouraged me from going to counseling :/ but I’ll go anyway. I can’t help but feel that he made a mistake and we could have worked it out with a few conversations but he didn’t love me enough to do this so I must keep going. I loved him the best I could. That’s all I could do. Freaking jerk
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