Lagoon1212 Posted June 17, 2018 Posted June 17, 2018 As the title says I used to work with this younger guy three years ago. We were both in college at the time and worked at the restaurant. I just graduated but he still works at the same place and goes to school. During this three years we stayed in touch (He texted me few times a year but never asked me out). Every time he texts me he would say something like: " i don't want your bf to get upset" (he had no idea if I had a bf or not since we never discussed this as coworkers). Recently, he actually asked me on a date. I kind of agreed but explained that I am really busy now and suggested to meet him in two weeks. The problem is he is really much younger, 7 years to be exact. I am 30 (I took a break from college, changed my major but eventually finished it) and he is 23/24. I recently broke up with my bf (5 months ago) and I feel like I am ready to date again, just I am way too old for him. I am not even sure if he knows my age (another thing we never discussed when we worked together). Should I just cancel this date?
d0nnivain Posted June 17, 2018 Posted June 17, 2018 I'm 5 years older than my husband. My mom was 5 years older than my dad. Age matters when one person is under 21 or when you are at different life stages. Since you graduated, the life stage thing may be an issue with this guy. How close to graduation is he? Since he asked, do go on the date with him. If you let yourself you may be pleasantly surprised. In the meantime since you required this two weeks for whatever reason, keep in touch with him so he knows you are interested. 1
Author Lagoon1212 Posted June 17, 2018 Author Posted June 17, 2018 I'm 5 years older than my husband. My mom was 5 years older than my dad. Age matters when one person is under 21 or when you are at different life stages. Since you graduated, the life stage thing may be an issue with this guy. How close to graduation is he? Since he asked, do go on the date with him. If you let yourself you may be pleasantly surprised. In the meantime since you required this two weeks for whatever reason, keep in touch with him so he knows you are interested. He is close to graduation as well (well, one more year to go) but he is really not that interested in school and education. His dad has a company and he is planning on taking it over eventually or at least get involved in family business (well that was his plan when he was 21). As I said, I haven't seen him in 3 years. I guess I should give it a try. I am just self-conscious about that age difference. 1
Chilli Posted June 17, 2018 Posted June 17, 2018 As a guy that was 23 once haha, l'd say if it's anything serious your after then forget it. It could last a year , or 5 , but in the end he'll want someone younger and he'll also be in such a different time space than you right now and for a long time yet. Believe me l was living with an absolutely gorgeous girl at 23 , a few years younger than me but even having her, it was still almost impossible to not wonder off , so many around at that age, temptation was just effg everywhere. But if she was older , l wouldn't have had a hope in hell of sticking with it in the end l'm sorry to say. 1
stillafool Posted June 17, 2018 Posted June 17, 2018 My husband is 7 years younger than me and we've been married 21 years come 6/23/18. We've been so happy and most people never notice a difference in our age. He calls me beautiful everyday. Go for it if you like him OP. I've always dated younger. 2
smackie9 Posted June 17, 2018 Posted June 17, 2018 (edited) My husband is 6 years younger than me...he just turned 20 when we started dating. Here we are still together over 28 years later...... I dated younger.....dating someone my age vs younger, was no different. Edited June 17, 2018 by smackie9 3
thefooloftheyear Posted June 17, 2018 Posted June 17, 2018 The age gap is no big deal, but...... I can't think of a 7 year period in my entire life as radically different when I was 23 vs 30...23 I was a part time student staying out all night, screwing around, getting in trouble, etc. 30, I was married a homeowner x2, running my own company, etc..Night and day difference...So many things happened over a short span of time.. If you are on those same tracks, then I would see some major incompatibilities, if not, then why not..?? Thinking as myself and most of my friends at 23, none of us would see a 30 year old woman as realistic relationship material over the long haul...My feeling is that a woman at that age would probably want marriage and kids right away and I wouldn't want that at that point in life..What do you think he sees in it? besides the obvious... TFY
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