Will he be back AGAIN.. what do you think?

[hello731]

I posted below in june of last year .

 

 

Hey!

So... this is crazy story. My ex and i have been together for four years. We were never really compatbile and he kind of watned to break it off for months before he actually did and stayed for belief feelings would change and hope things would get better. He would act really careless and that made me essentially be really negative around him, as i usually am anyway. He hates my personality and how negative and unpleasent i was around him always. So he broke up with me after a wedding we went to where i was totally rude to him . He never really talked to me or communcated the severity of things and that was the probelm and why this relationship wasnt saved. He never really cared. I have been chasing him for two months now and i found out hes moved already after a month and a half to some girl whos really a downgrade. This guy is 26 with a 20 year old. He was telling me how he wants to focus on himself and not worry about a relationship . Meanwhile, he is rebounding.. he told me he lost feelings and he kinda just played me and led me on for some time. I feel like he faked his feelings a lot in the end. Ive been to some psychics and they have told me that he will be back..but i dont know .. this is damaged beyond repair. I have been really broken casue he was all i had and i dont really have my own friends anymore. So i sit and sulk at home alone. I feel very hurt. The thought of him with someone else intimately makes me want to throw up because we always had a lot of faithfulness. I really feel disappointed more than anything. Ive been going through a lot. Most days i feel really disgusted towards night time and think he is nasty. In the mornings i am the worst, waking up to him gone out of my life after four years is hard. and i have poinless conversation with people for no reason. he was the only person i had a connection with in my life as its really ahrd for me to be soical and connect to people because i have low self esteem. Im seeking some spirtutal healing help and therpay. My question is do you guys think hell be back?

 

 

 

so, He came back july 2 2017. he did the same exact thing again. but now we have no contact for a month and a half . last year we were in contact throughout the 2 month break. im really hurt. he broke up with me even worse than last time. idk why he always breaks up with me on May 1 and why im always having a miscarriage while this goes on. what is wrong with him? he said he came back cause he missed me and missed our connection and wanted to see if his feelings would come back but they didnt. he was so cold. he closed the door in my face he did so much messed up **** to me while breaking up. five years. does it mean anything to him? do you guys think hes done this time around? people keep telling me its a cycle and hell be back again. but its like what? he says he hates everything about me he cant marry me he doesnt love me enough. everything he said last time. another year of memories happened and its hard for me to forget all of this trauma.. its been five years.. how is he just ok and able to just see other people is he dead...I forgave him and tried to move on when he came back but it was very hard and then he started acting up again and saying he wants to see other people but we ended up trying to make it work.. that happened in october. during the break up he led me on to have sex but then he said its not happening he put his hands on me multiple times. its all very traumatizing. but I still feel conencted to him I dont know...what do you guys think.. will he be back? it has never been this long without any communication. I guess I want to just prepare myself .. it hurts to be strangers its crazy

[jjb117]

Just look at yourself. Seriously, not in a mean way but just look at what you just wrote.

 

From what I'm reading, you are hurting tremendously. Desperately trying to find solutions to unanswered questions. Almost reminding me of myself when I went through a breakup.

 

It's hard, i'm not going to lie to you. But there will be better days. I cannot stress this enough - your pain will not last. It will subside. For me, the pain came in waves. I would be fine in some days, and felt like crying almost all of the time in other days. It's just the healing process & this process takes time.

 

But look, you need to realize this is a toxic relationship. You already tried making it work, and it failed. Why would it be different this time around? It doesn't make sense for you to hold onto something that will end.

 

I know reading these words may hurt you, that your situation may be different. Why do I say this? Mainly because I felt this way too. But honestly you need to take the steps to heal. Block him. Forget what he thinks, you need to do it. Out of sight, out of mind.

 

Don't hold back the tears. Cry when you need to. You're human afterall - just make sure not to let this take over your life. You are young, in the prime of your life. It took me a long time to realize this but no advice can ever save me from the pain I was going through - it was I who needed to make a conscious decision to move on. For myself, my happiness, for my own sake. It took a while, but now i'm here. I survived. I feel better than ever. This will be you someday. Trust me.