Author lawin789 Posted June 18, 2018 Author Posted June 18, 2018 (edited) Maybe you have misunderstood me? I barely think any jealousy is adorable. In my own example that i gave, i discontinued things with a guy who acted insecure & jealous. And other guys in my life that have acted jealous, it's a turn-off & usually a deal breaker--actually can't think of a time where it hasn't been. Just helping the OP, sift through possibilities, as my general stance is that she needs more information--after all, it's been one date. Think she is control of herself enough that she won't get sucked in, if he continues insecure and jealous behavior. Personally, i feel most people ARE capable of that and should let experience and self-reliance guide them rather than FEAR. Sure, might he become more jealous, of course. Will she be able to handle it, yes, if she wants to. Out of posters that have posted with similar issues over time, she seems more capable than most and certainly not sucked in to his b.s. And the general gist of my posts, is that while she owes it to herself to find out more about him, that his thought processes and seemingly having an inferiority complex will prove too much--that's how I see it leaning. But there is no reason she can't find out more to feel sure about whatever decision she takes--she is not in danger That is sooooooo sweet of you!! I really appreciate it!! UPDATE: I sent him the picture today after I got back from the cruise and he totally liked it. Said jokingly that jealousy officially subsided. I can't tell for sure by some more texts I got from him since but I think he's changed his attitude a little bit - more sharing now. Well, everyone reacts differently with others and tbh I think most people deserve the benefit of the doubt. I've been trying not to be so dismissive like I used to be and more open to new people I get to meet. It's not totally his fault if he was mistreated or insecure if it's within a normal range, there might be some parts that are his but it's not always a 100% one person's fault. I'd like to give it a try and see how things are going for now. And if he acts outside of the norm, then I'll have to stop this. Anyways, I really appreciate everyone's time and input on this. Edited June 18, 2018 by lawin789 1
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