Frazzle Posted June 14, 2018 Posted June 14, 2018 I have a coworker who compliments me a lot, often on my physical appearance. It could just be friendly but I'm not sure. When I wore a suit, she said that I look nice. She's told me that my haircuts look nice. Once, when we had lunch together, she asked me if another female coworker were friends outside of work. I am pretty close with this other coworker because we are neighbors so I think that's why she asked that. Are these just innocent compliments or is it more flirty? Or does this just mean that she is attracted to me?
preraph Posted June 14, 2018 Posted June 14, 2018 There's no reason to think she's anything more than being friendly at work to stay on the good side of coworkers, but she could be interested. I mean, just because someone has a conversation with you doesn't mean they're interested, even little compliments like that. Those are "safe" compliments. Someone schmoozing at work would do that. Someone just social who likes lots of acquaintances would do that. I do that. I talk to this newish guy at work all the time, but I'm not after him. We have a good laugh. I sent him gluten free recipes when he was diagnosed celiac. He's gregarious and social in his own way, talkative, and so am I, so we banter. It doesn't mean either of us is after the other. 1
loverboy69 Posted June 14, 2018 Posted June 14, 2018 I have a coworker who compliments me a lot, often on my physical appearance. It could just be friendly but I'm not sure. When I wore a suit, she said that I look nice. She's told me that my haircuts look nice. Once, when we had lunch together, she asked me if another female coworker were friends outside of work. I am pretty close with this other coworker because we are neighbors so I think that's why she asked that. Are these just innocent compliments or is it more flirty? Or does this just mean that she is attracted to me? When it comes to attraction remember these three things: a) It's not what she does it's what she doesn't do. b) It's not what she says it's what she doesn't say. c) It's not how she treats you it's how she treats you differently than everyone else. 1
justwhoiam Posted June 14, 2018 Posted June 14, 2018 She might be interested or just being friendly, depending on her personality and background. I'd say it's the latter, without further information or clues.
OnlyHonesty Posted June 14, 2018 Posted June 14, 2018 Look at her body language around you to find out. Words aren't the best indicator.
Lotsgoingon Posted June 14, 2018 Posted June 14, 2018 The question is not whether she is interested ... The question is whether you are interested. If you're interested, she's given you enough good feedback to talk to her more and find out more about her ... and see if there is any spark there. I'll note: when i dress up at work, lots of women colleagues give me compliments ... and I am sure none of them is flirting ... One potential tell is that she asked you if you were dating the other woman. But are you interested? ... That's the question ... If you are, ask her to lunch again ... see what the energy is like ...
mortensorchid Posted June 14, 2018 Posted June 14, 2018 I think she is if she is complimenting you on your appearance. Then again does she for others as well? She could just be being friendly.
coolheadal Posted June 14, 2018 Posted June 14, 2018 I have a coworker who compliments me a lot, often on my physical appearance. It could just be friendly but I'm not sure. When I wore a suit, she said that I look nice. She's told me that my haircuts look nice. Once, when we had lunch together, she asked me if another female coworker were friends outside of work. I am pretty close with this other coworker because we are neighbors so I think that's why she asked that. Are these just innocent compliments or is it more flirty? Or does this just mean that she is attracted to me? My friend you have it easy, there you have a woman who's keen on you. Why ask us, you have answer already. Ask her out and enjoy that time. She's really into you more than you think. She just asked a question to see if you were seeing the other co-worker. Don't waste any more time my friend. Make sure before you ask her out, that's she's 100% available. Pop this into your head, say there is a new movie out call anything you can think of, then say is your bf or husband going to take you to see it? See what you get back for answer? She might say no I don't have anyone right now. If you get that answer then you move in and say would you like me to take you out and go see that movie? If she said yes? Then you aced it! Don't forget to get her unopened rose to put a smile on her face when it opens-up. True happiness when it does. Anyway you need to know were you stand with her before you ask her out this way you don't loose it or get hurt in the process. We men tend to forget this one trait? Are they single and free or not? That's the question?
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