Veronica73 Posted June 27, 2018 Posted June 27, 2018 I mean should I tell him not to put another woman in such a situation? NO!! DO NOT EVER contact him again. Yuck. He's a complete weirdo so stay as far away as possible. And frankly, I don't think most women who weren't up for NSA sex would have ever responded to him again after the first date. And it's not like he would listen anyway. Stay away.
mortensorchid Posted June 28, 2018 Posted June 28, 2018 After reading a few more comments and details, I can tell you that this guy was not only not interested in you but he was one of those players. Some of them get you interested at least somewhat then drop you like a hot potato. They are just stroking their egos.
Versacehottie Posted June 28, 2018 Posted June 28, 2018 Glad you learned something from all of this. I'm just jumping in now but yeah why would you have wanted this guy to contact you after the first time? He told you to your face a bunch of negatives he saw in you which is awful and no thanks, why would you want to try to overcome them?!@?!! I think there is a big danger in stalking someone's social media before a date or before you are a couple. You can often make a story up in your head about what it means (positive or negative). Meaning people are probably dismissive of people they maybe shouldn't be and overly accepting of people they shouldn't be (looks like he loves his family:sick:). Social media is in effect a marketing tool. People show you what they want you to see--it is never the full or an accurate story. The part I want to know about is how on the first date do you discover that his past gf's are trashy? Was that from prior social media stalking or did you guys discuss ex's--which is another no-no TBH I think if he divulged that info to you and you deduced that they were trashy it's safe to say that is his type. There are guys who actually prefer trashy because even if it is they don't see that quality in the girl (they see a family background that may be more similar to their own; the racy or tacky thing they like; it seems shocking but people like what they like). Actually as someone with stuff to offer compared to these past gf's and that you felt like you were better than what he had before, the fact that he liked those type of girls when you are not like that, I'm wondering why that wasn't an automatic turnoff to you about him? I would think it would be. Anyway you can't want a bf so bad that you would put up with the stuff after the FIRST date. The second date was BEYOND
rightondude Posted June 28, 2018 Posted June 28, 2018 this dude (and the married lady) sounded freeky deeky! TBH I was actually hoping your story had a different ending.
GreenTea937 Posted June 28, 2018 Posted June 28, 2018 Please forget about him. Sexual attraction isnt enough in a relationship. He might put on an act to reel in women by showing off how loving he is towards his family .. Remember a man who really cares about his family wont try so hard to flaunt it. He wont have to put on the act. A lot of men act all nice and sensitive to reel women in thinking thats what women want. Its an act. PUA handbook.
kendahke Posted June 28, 2018 Posted June 28, 2018 So I need some advice. I went on a date with a man and he was really physically attracted to me. However, a couple of things did not click. Overall, his taste is for motorcycles and he works in film and likes sports bars. I am a bit more into cultural events, travel, meeting new people, workong out and sushi places. Hit all that aside, he kept saying how “sweet” and “wholesome, clean cut, beautiful,positive and SUPER smart” I was compared to his exes who were more loose living (sleeping around, drugs, etc). He also said I was a bit out of his age range (I mean he’s 2 years older than me) but we could still “have fun”. Well, I was non responsive to that because I feel I am more valuable than some booty call. However,despite strong sexual chemistry I said goodnight with a simple hug and sent a courtesy text thanking him for a nice evening. Why do men compliment and seem to admire my qualities but then do not call again? Because saying "I'll call you" is the same as saying "Hey, how are you doing/how's it going?" as a greeting to a stranger. You don't really want a long dissertation on how they are doing or how it's going, you were just being nice and acknowledging them. From what you've written in this initial post (and I haven't read through the thread), he sounds like he was incrementally and imperceptibly backing up, but remaining nice to you. IOW: he really wasn't interested, he was being nice.
coolheadal Posted June 28, 2018 Posted June 28, 2018 So I need some advice. I went on a date with a man and he was really physically attracted to me. However, a couple of things did not click. Overall, his taste is for motorcycles and he works in film and likes sports bars. I am a bit more into cultural events, travel, meeting new people, workong out and sushi places. Hit all that aside, he kept saying how “sweet” and “wholesome, clean cut, beautiful,positive and SUPER smart” I was compared to his exes who were more loose living (sleeping around, drugs, etc). He also said I was a bit out of his age range (I mean he’s 2 years older than me) but we could still “have fun”. Well, I was non responsive to that because I feel I am more valuable than some booty call. However,despite strong sexual chemistry I said goodnight with a simple hug and sent a courtesy text thanking him for a nice evening. Why do men compliment and seem to admire my qualities but then do not call again? Where did you meet guy from or how do you know him? He might as well wanted a booty call from you. Age doesn't matter. That's just excuse. Your out of his age range then why did he go on a date with you. You all of that smart, you might be too smart for him and you might not do what his ex's did who weren't like you. You were out of his league he won't bother with you again.
anduina Posted June 28, 2018 Posted June 28, 2018 It sounds like he was looking for a hookup and when you didn't respond, he gave up. He might contact again in the future after he's let you stew for awhile to soften you up towards having sex. If you're looking for more than a hookup, don't let guys like this live rent free in your mind. An attractive woman won't have problems finding plenty of interesting guys.
phineas Posted June 29, 2018 Posted June 29, 2018 It sounds like he was looking for a hookup and when you didn't respond, he gave up. He might contact again in the future after he's let you stew for awhile to soften you up towards having sex. If you're looking for more than a hookup, don't let guys like this live rent free in your mind. An attractive woman won't have problems finding plenty of interesting guys. As a guy, this. if he's a legit "bro" in the film industry his age range is probably 10yrs younger. He likes his women fast and fun but he'd hook up with you because you are attractive. women sleep with attractive poor men even though they want to lock down a rich guy. so don't worry about this guy op. on a side note, guys, see the power of not chasing a woman? Slow your role gents. 1
rightondude Posted June 29, 2018 Posted June 29, 2018 on a side note, guys, see the power of not chasing a woman? Slow your role gents. Seriously! this dude has this woman chasing him while he's out with his married "friend" ... nearly getting into a whoops accidental are you cool with this threesome. Sure that's the first time that's happened!
Pink86 Posted June 29, 2018 Posted June 29, 2018 Same thing happened to me with a guy. He flirted and then I never heard from him. Hes playing mind games. Who beings up exes on a first date? Strike 1 first off. He told you that youre not his type but will sleep with you if you’re willing. What a creep! He did you a favor not calling you back love trust me.
Author Coral Evan Posted July 2, 2018 Author Posted July 2, 2018 @Anduina: true that there are interesting men out there and true that guys like this have no right to live rent free in your mind. For me a lot of it was also convenience because he lives close and my schedule is tight. Anyway I am dating and trying to meet a nice man. I guess playing hard to get does work cuz in the looks department I can't say he is particularly what society would consider a "hottie" but it's probably the bad boy indifferent vibe that attracts women before they find out the truth about these men. In fact I wonder if the indifferent vibe is not an act players put on hoping to attract women.
Andy_K Posted July 2, 2018 Posted July 2, 2018 @hippiechick3: I thought after seeing how devoted he is to family on his social media that maybe he just lacked dating skills but was a decent person inside. Boy was I wrong. I should've listened to you. I admit it. If a guy flirts with you and you find yourself feeling super strong attraction/chemistry, he does NOT lack dating skills. You already knew the two of you had nothing in common and you didn't want to be a booty call, yet it sounds like you might've slept with him anyway if he didn't up the ante and try his luck with a threesome. 2
stillafool Posted July 2, 2018 Posted July 2, 2018 It sounds like this guy has so many different women he could care less. OP you shouldn't have given this guy another thought much less devote time to a thread about him.
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