Sussmaus7 Posted June 11, 2018 Posted June 11, 2018 I notice my older married neighbour really checking me out when he leaves in his car.. I am interested (and in an open marriage) problem is he does NOTHING more than eye me and drives into his garage (sometimes drives into his garage and back out and circles me lol) how can I open up the dialogue or at least show him I'm VERY attracted in him if I only see him when he's driving? To be very clear I wouldn't touch anyone that isn't in an open marriage and I would need the wife to say they are actually open (I would never just go on a guys word). Though im in an open relationship.. ive never gone outside my marriage... so its new for me. I was going to try and get the info from his wife.. but his wife is very.. standoffish and not the friendliest of people.. I've tried to talk to her when I'm out walking my dog.. So befriending her and asking her will never happen. She is prob in her60s.. the doctors wife, prim, proper, very very reserved. I'm 35.. and though proper.. I am friendly and chatty.. she just scowl' s when I see her. ... any help would be appreciated .
Art_Critic Posted June 11, 2018 Posted June 11, 2018 Why would you assume they are in an open marriage ? most married people are not in an open marriage. I would go slowly with this.. 1
Author Sussmaus7 Posted June 11, 2018 Author Posted June 11, 2018 I have no clue if he is in an open relationship, def not assuming he is .. just want to get the conversation going so I can casually find out. .. which is hard as I only see him when he's driving. We have gardeners so he's never outside doing yard work. He has no pets. His kids are out of the house so I won't be seeing him at the park... very difficult to find out his relationship status if I'm unable to get more than a smile and a wave
Art_Critic Posted June 11, 2018 Posted June 11, 2018 As far as how you flirt.. flirting would only work if they were available, otherwise they will freeze you out and ignore you.
d0nnivain Posted June 11, 2018 Posted June 11, 2018 He likes what he sees. You have no info that he wants anything more than eye candy in the morning. If you insist on pushing this, you & your husband should invite him & his wife over for dinner. Do not announce that you have an open marriage. This isn't porn. You don't just go for it. Talk to them. Get to know them. Learn their positions on a variety of subjects. After a while if you get the sense that they share your values, then you can propose whatever it is that you seek. I think you would be better served assuming they are going to be horrified by your suggestion rather than receptive so I would tread very carefully & diplomatically before bringing it up. 1
Logo Posted June 11, 2018 Posted June 11, 2018 There’s a faster way to find out: Bake them a nice cake. Fill a bag with sex toys and go next door with your husband. When they open the door, offer them the cake. They’ll welcome you in. Put the bag righ on the coffee table. One of them will ask, “What’s that?” Proceed to open the bag and place each sex toy on the table. If you hear the question, “How do you take your coffee?” You’re good. If the wife walks to the door, opens it and shouts, “GET OUT, NOW!!” Start searching for a contractor to build a fence between your house and theirs. 1
PegNosePete Posted June 11, 2018 Posted June 11, 2018 he does NOTHING more than eye me and drives into his garage (sometimes drives into his garage and back out and circles me lol) how can I open up the dialogue or at least show him I'm VERY attracted in him if I only see him when he's driving? Make yourself approachable (ie. not in your car). If he is interested and available then he will stop and talk to you. You can talk to his wife later if it gets to that stage. If he doesn't stop to talk to you then you can safely assume he's just getting an eyeful and not interested or available to take it further.
stillafool Posted June 11, 2018 Posted June 11, 2018 From the sound of his wife's body language and her snobbish reaction to you OP I would say they are not in an open marriage. Truthfully, if you are just looking for some more strange on the side, I wouldn't mess with anyone who lives so close to your home. Surely, there are more attractive men around that would be wiling to have sex on the side with you. 1
kendahke Posted June 11, 2018 Posted June 11, 2018 I'd leave them alone before his wife spies you trying to entice her husband and starts making life really uncomfortable for you in your neighborhood.
preraph Posted June 11, 2018 Posted June 11, 2018 He's not in an open marriage. The huge vast majority of couples get married as a commitment and try to be faithful. He might tell you he is once he finds out you are just to have sex with you, but then you'll have a very angry woman on your hands right there on your block. Be smart. If you want hookups with open marriage people, you're only going to find them online. 2
PegNosePete Posted June 11, 2018 Posted June 11, 2018 I'd leave them alone before his wife spies you trying to entice her husband and starts making life really uncomfortable for you in your neighborhood. ... sounds like she's already noticed! Certainly noticed her husband checking out OP, anyway. 1
kendahke Posted June 11, 2018 Posted June 11, 2018 ... sounds like she's already noticed! Certainly noticed her husband checking out OP, anyway. Hopefully the rest of the neighborhood hasn't been alerted to OP's activities with her husband... hell hath no fury...
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