jarob Posted June 10, 2018 Posted June 10, 2018 I appreciate anyone that would post on here to give me some tips and insight on what she is thinking! I have been talking to this girl casually for about a month. She is the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. I met her for the first time a month ago, when we were at the same party. After being instantly attracted to her personality, I decided to ask her out on a date. She said yes, and we had a great time together. We went on the date about three weeks ago. Since then, we have texted on and off. I recently visited her where she is from, and our time together went very well. She showed me where she grew up and I met her parents. We kissed multiple times, and planned the next time we could see each other. In talking to her, she brought up that she has had bad boyfriends in the past and we talked about what she and I both wanted out of a relationship. My concern is that she still has feelings for her ex boyfriend. Even though she said she would never get back with him and for him not to talk to her anymore, I think deep down she still has feelings. Our time together three days ago was really nice, but since then I haven't heard from her. Thinking of her, I bought flowers that will be delivered to her house tomorrow. Nothing too romantic and thirsty, but showing her she has value and something to make her smile. How should I play the next week or two out? I have been playing it cool and last night I sent her a couple funny memes and she sent me a meme back but I haven't heard from her since. I figure maybe she wants to take it slow since she got out of a relationship a couple months ago. Does anyone have an idea on why she's gone silent on me and what should I do next?
carhill Posted June 10, 2018 Posted June 10, 2018 Flowers were a common gesture when I was in Eastern Europe. Not so much here in the US. Often viewed on LS as over the top for anything other than a girlfriend or wife. If common in your culture, disregard. IMO, focus on the dates. Don't try to analyze what she's thinking or how she's feeling. What's the reason the next date is a week or two out? Distance? Schedules? IMO, better to press flesh than keyboards. I'd suggest calling her later this week to catch up. Not text, not e-mail. Voice. You've been on a date, you had a good time, you shared physical intimacy. You can pick up from things shared on the date, confirm the upcoming plans, flirt a little, etc. Nothing long-winded. Save that for a date. If she's gone dark totally, cool, leave it alone and continue to date other women.
d0nnivain Posted June 11, 2018 Posted June 11, 2018 See what happens after the flowers. Keep talking. Get together again when convenient.
Author jarob Posted June 11, 2018 Author Posted June 11, 2018 Flowers were a common gesture when I was in Eastern Europe. Not so much here in the US. Often viewed on LS as over the top for anything other than a girlfriend or wife. If common in your culture, disregard. IMO, focus on the dates. Don't try to analyze what she's thinking or how she's feeling. What's the reason the next date is a week or two out? Distance? Schedules? IMO, better to press flesh than keyboards. I'd suggest calling her later this week to catch up. Not text, not e-mail. Voice. You've been on a date, you had a good time, you shared physical intimacy. You can pick up from things shared on the date, confirm the upcoming plans, flirt a little, etc. Nothing long-winded. Save that for a date. If she's gone dark totally, cool, leave it alone and continue to date other women. That's a good idea. The reason it's going to be a week or two before the next date is because she lives 2 hours away currently. That will change next month when she moves back into my area for school. I'm confident she's into me, she told me I could visit her for the 4th of July weekend and spend a day or two together. It's good to take it slow anyway!
preraph Posted June 11, 2018 Posted June 11, 2018 You're wise to be on the lookout for her being still involved with one of her "bad men." She probably is hung up on one of them. All you can do is try to win her on your own merits. Since you now know she falls for ones who aren't good for her, i extra caution you not to do anything thirsty whatsoever, and the fact she's real good looking. Be very careful about that and make a point to analyze everything before you do it and see if she would reciprocate in kind or not and if the answer is "I don't know," it's too soon. Gifts are also obligation and lots of people run from that early in a relationship. Stop texting or whatever you're doing and call her on the phone and just listen to her and talk, don't stay on the phone forever, and then say good night. Good luck.
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