BritishBullDog123 Posted June 10, 2018 Posted June 10, 2018 Hey people I really need your advice as my judgement is clouded with emotion. Currently I'm missing my ex girlfriend hell of a lot. I split with her 6 months ago and was fine until recently. The sudden sensation of missing her hit me like a tonne of bricks. During the first couple of weeks after the split we matched on Tinder again. We spoke a shortly and about a week later she messaged me saying 'I miss you' to which I did not respond (regretting that now) the reason I didn't respond was due to the nature of why I split up with her. Fast forward 6 months. I started to miss her terribly and on that night I added her on Snapchat. She accepted and we caught up briefly. I managed to find out where she lived and I sent her some gifts along with a note saying I missed her to and that I love her along with my phone number. She messaged my phone, confused as the note wasn't what I had written. Anyway, one of the last things she said was something along the lines of 'a bit random after 6 months, I don't know what to say'... I then replied with an explanation to why it was so long and she didn't reply. About a week later I had some drinks and got myself drunk and sent her a message on Snapchat saying 'not going to reply no?' which again was ignored. Now she's kept me on her Snapchat, hasn't blocked me or anything. I'm wondering do I write a 'love letter' so to speak explaining my feelings and letting her know I love her and want her back? Please help with this decision. Thank you for reading.
d0nnivain Posted June 10, 2018 Posted June 10, 2018 Nostalgia & loneliness are not good reasons to reconcile when you had valid reasons to break up & the issues that broke you apart have not been resolved. You have been broken up for 6 months. You have made overtures hinting at reconciliation but she has evaded them. She's not interested. One more attempt won't change that. Long, rambling love letters are rarely well received. They have way more potential to go bad. I would not send such a missive 1
Author BritishBullDog123 Posted June 10, 2018 Author Posted June 10, 2018 Nostalgia & loneliness are not good reasons to reconcile when you had valid reasons to break up & the issues that broke you apart have not been resolved. You have been broken up for 6 months. You have made overtures hinting at reconciliation but she has evaded them. She's not interested. One more attempt won't change that. Long, rambling love letters are rarely well received. They have way more potential to go bad. I would not send such a missive Thanks for your input, it's really appreciated. I hate feeling this way, I mean like you said. 6 months and out of no where. Was fine until a week ago. A big part of me right now wants her back and no idea why I'm feeling this way.
preraph Posted June 10, 2018 Posted June 10, 2018 You taking your best shot, and now it's time to walk away cleanly with your dignity intact. If she had any residual interest, she would have responded positively instead of negatively. You can't make someone love you and want to be with you. It's time for you to stop all social media contact with her and refocus on new people and having fun socially. Don't torture yourself by looking at her social media. Good luck.
SpecialJ Posted June 10, 2018 Posted June 10, 2018 Why did you break up with her? Have those reasons changed? You can't win someone back with a love letter. You need to rebuild trust, communication, see each other in person and work towards understanding and fixing what truly went wrong if you both want it. It's hard and takes time. But are you giving into loneliness or is there a compelling reason to try again that will yield different results than last time?
Mac0908 Posted June 10, 2018 Posted June 10, 2018 (edited) First of all you need to specify why you guys broke up in the first place. Chances are it's something pretty bad and that's why you kept it private. Also, you don't just go 6 months without someone and then terribly miss them. You either just got out of something else, OR you've hit a brick wall of dead end dates and can't take it anymore. Don't worry though, I've been there. We all have. That being said, sending gifts to her house??? Come on, man. Even in my most inexperienced days as a teen I wasn't that naive. How old are you? I pray you're relatively young as it seems you have a lot to learn. Do NOT. I repeat do NOT send her any kind of beta male "Love letter". This will turn her off even more than she already has been by your recent chasing of her. Only thing remaining that you can do is go no contact, increase your value, and let her come to you. Then you can go from there. You've already messed things up too much unfortunately and she has lost attraction which is why she did not respond. Btw, did I mention not to send that letter? Edited June 10, 2018 by Mac0908
Beachead Posted June 10, 2018 Posted June 10, 2018 Hey people I really need your advice as my judgement is clouded with emotion. Currently I'm missing my ex girlfriend hell of a lot. I split with her 6 months ago and was fine until recently. The sudden sensation of missing her hit me like a tonne of bricks. During the first couple of weeks after the split we matched on Tinder again. We spoke a shortly and about a week later she messaged me saying 'I miss you' to which I did not respond (regretting that now) the reason I didn't respond was due to the nature of why I split up with her. Fast forward 6 months. I started to miss her terribly and on that night I added her on Snapchat. She accepted and we caught up briefly. I managed to find out where she lived and I sent her some gifts along with a note saying I missed her to and that I love her along with my phone number. She messaged my phone, confused as the note wasn't what I had written. Anyway, one of the last things she said was something along the lines of 'a bit random after 6 months, I don't know what to say'... I then replied with an explanation to why it was so long and she didn't reply. About a week later I had some drinks and got myself drunk and sent her a message on Snapchat saying 'not going to reply no?' which again was ignored. Now she's kept me on her Snapchat, hasn't blocked me or anything. I'm wondering do I write a 'love letter' so to speak explaining my feelings and letting her know I love her and want her back? Please help with this decision. Thank you for reading. OP, mind telling us why you ended it? Also, do not send that love letter. Nothing will come out of it. - Beach
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