Soldier301 Posted June 7, 2018 Posted June 7, 2018 (edited) Hi all, I am new here so please bare with me. I found this forum and I though this might be a good place where I can let me feelings out and vent about the heartbreak I have just suffered. So I guess I should just start at the beginning. I met this girl through Tinder about 6 months back. When I met her, she seemed so different from other girls. Needless to say we really clicked. She has been divorced for a year now when we got together, but was just out of relationship with another guy which I really don't know how long it was, but it couldn't have been that long. But the weird part was this guy lived in Washington State and We live in IL. She was a traveling nurse tech at the time and studying to get her nursing degree. When I met her she was in her final year of nursing school, but took a break because of stuff for her kid and am going back her in August. Because of her break from school she lost her position as Nurse Tech. She wanted to take the CNA course which was 8 weeks so she can go back to work immediately so I encouraged her and supported her. I agreed to watch her kids for her in the evening why she goes to school. Well she finished the course and got licensed and got a job at place. After two weeks of working there she dumped me out of nowhere. (More on this in minute). She had a lot of drama when we first got together especially w/ her ex husband and I even helped her get through with some it as well. Anyhow, She has ADD and can be all over the place sometimes, but I fully accepted her as is. Well once things were getting into how a normal relationship was and it wasn't all just passion anymore. She left me. Needless to say this crushed me and left me confused. because just two weeks prior she was calling me the best and everything leading up to the night she broke up with me she seemed to be committed to me. Said I love you all the time and what not. Not sure how feeling can just change like that. Ok, well she gives me this spiel she just wants to be single and than tells me she is not ready for relationship. She said she feels she has given too much of herself to be in a relationship. Than She goes even further and tells me she was tired of doing everything. I didn't know where this came from because I was sure as hell doing above and beyond what a lot of guys would do. Well fast forward about two weeks and I find out she jumps right into another relationship. This crushed me even further. So my curiosity got the best of me. We had a phone plan together and I just looked up all the numbers she called while we were together. There was this one number in particular that was a the same number and was talking to for a long time. Her is the kicker it is a Kansas City area code. That is 5 hours a away. I traced the number back two weeks prior till she broke up with me. Right when she started her new job. I confronted her about this and than she tried to turn it around on me and said I was cruel and finally she said yea I am seeing someone and told me not to contact her again. She never admitted that she was talking to him while we were together. I am really shocked how this relationship can even be maintained. He lives in Kansas City. It blows my mind. I really have all kinds of emotions going on right now. I am not sure how to process them all. I really fell for this girl hard and she seemed the same toward me. I just dong get. I have a couple of questions for the good of the discussion 1) Do you consider this cheating? and 2) How do you think she even hooked up with this guy. I mean she never been around KC while we were together. I know the last one is impossible to answer, but would love to hear everyone's theories. Thanks all for taking the time to read this. I feel better letting this out. I will get through this, but it hurts like hell. I truly think this is the worse pain in the world. Edited June 7, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
Marc878 Posted June 7, 2018 Posted June 7, 2018 And you're crushed? I get it but man you don't want this crazy drama queen around. Be thankful 1
babysacay Posted June 7, 2018 Posted June 7, 2018 1) Do you consider this cheating? and 2) How do you think she even hooked up with this guy. I mean she never been around KC while we were together. I know the last one is impossible to answer, but would love to hear everyone's theories. Thanks all for taking the time to read this. I feel better letting this out. I will get through this, but it hurts like hell. I truly think this is the worse pain in the world. If I were in your shoes, I think I might feel betrayed by emotional unfaithfulness. Like was stated above, maybe he doesn't live in KC. Or maybe she was using a dating app that allows you to look for people outside the local area. But either way doesn't matter because she made it clear the relationship with you is over; I know from past experience that thinking about why or how or when isn't helpful in healing, as I have been cheated on once before. And it's hard not to think about those things because it hurts really bad. But we're here for you
Author Soldier301 Posted June 7, 2018 Author Posted June 7, 2018 He does live in KC. Every weekend she off she goes there and her friend told me. It just doesn’t make any sesnse.
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