ghoda088 Posted June 5, 2018 Posted June 5, 2018 (edited) Hello !! So me(23 years old male) and my gf dated for 6 years, we were the ideal couple for most of our friends.everything was great while we were in relationship we used to be there for eachother in every condition we were in college when we started dating we respected each other's privacy needs and dislikes. She used to say that I am the best thing that has happened to her and the way I stood beside her no one really does But as college ends we became post graduate she started making Excuses to stay away from me I asked her if it's the time for us to inform our parents so that we can take our relationship one step further to that she said yes but one day she called me and said not to contact her any more as her parents said no to our relationship later I found out that it was a lie she never asked her parents. I was heart broken at that time cried for months, she was out of States for 9 months where she made new male friends she started hanging out with them more than she did to me I told her to stay away if she can't commit to me as it distroys me mentally..during her stay in different state she called me and said it's all over b/w us. But she still maintined contact with me I thought she is also unable to live without me that's why she is in contact.so we talked daily afterwards she used to be rude on calls. She used to treat me as if it's my fault to love her. That continued for 4 months now I am again find my self trapped in her I check daily If she has messaged me or something but she doesn't she took that time while talking with me to get over me where as here I am feeling more and more attached with her..I love her alot we never had a serious fight i have done things for her that even her parents won't ever do cared for her like a baby of mine still she choosed to just go away hurts me alot i need help of you guys to either get over her or to make her realise how good our love is as she still confirms that she still loves me Edited June 5, 2018 by ghoda088
Chilli Posted June 5, 2018 Posted June 5, 2018 we couldn't go on the net asking strangers to help in this stuff when we were 23, you gotta help yourself a bit man . But the thing is , at that age , 6yrs, no way in hell it could last in this day and age l'm sorry to say. And even if you married her one of you two would've ran off sooner or later for sure. It's just too young you've had no other experiences so now she wants to party basically. l know it sounds hard but believe me, it's better now than in 20yrs time with kids and mortgages and a lifetime together, believe me, this way is much much easier . l hope in time you'll feel like opening yourself to new things in life and doing some living yourself, Leave her be it's no good and you really don't want her back now anyway. 1
Author ghoda088 Posted June 5, 2018 Author Posted June 5, 2018 we couldn't go on the net asking strangers to help in this stuff when we were 23, you gotta help yourself a bit man . But the thing is , at that age , 6yrs, no way in hell it could last in this day and age l'm sorry to say. And even if you married her one of you two would've ran off sooner or later for sure. It's just too young you've had no other experiences so now she wants to party basically. l know it sounds hard but believe me, it's better now than in 20yrs time with kids and mortgages and a lifetime together, believe me, this way is much much easier . l hope in time you'll feel like opening yourself to new things in life and doing some living yourself, Leave her be it's no good and you really don't want her back now anyway. Yes I know considering the age it sounds premature for us to commite to a serious relationship but maybe that was just it we really were serious towards the relationship it just she says she is not sure what she wants to do she says she can't imagine her future without me but can't really go against her family wish she is confused looking her suffering hurts me too
Chilli Posted June 5, 2018 Posted June 5, 2018 Sorry man but you gotta forget all the parent stuff l don't think it has anything to do with this. She's partying and mixing with other guys , and she's not really talking to ya and rude. All that stuff says it all l'm afraid . You have no choice sorry but you really need to just stay away from her and get over this in time, start living
Author ghoda088 Posted June 5, 2018 Author Posted June 5, 2018 Sorry man but you gotta forget all the parent stuff l don't think it has anything to do with this. She's partying and mixing with other guys , and she's not really talking to ya and rude. All that stuff says it all l'm afraid . You have no choice sorry but you really need to just stay away from her and get over this in time, start living Its sounds tough and a darker place but surely will try to get over her if thats what will make her happier for her and for me I will move on
GreenTea937 Posted June 5, 2018 Posted June 5, 2018 She's young and she wants to date before she settles. You seem like a nice guy but you need to do the same.
Author ghoda088 Posted June 5, 2018 Author Posted June 5, 2018 She's young and she wants to date before she settles. You seem like a nice guy but you need to do the same. Things has become a routine now she argues to me not to love her anymore and in evening she again apologies for her behavior she wants me to forget all that was between us but wants to keep me side by her I know the end result of it but as I love her alot i cant deny her wish to hangout so i kill my inner soul and talks with her with same happiness and same enthusiasm.
smackie9 Posted June 5, 2018 Posted June 5, 2018 She's using you as a ladder to hang onto you as she dips her toe in the pool. Kick her off for good. Go no contact. 2
Author ghoda088 Posted June 6, 2018 Author Posted June 6, 2018 She's using you as a ladder to hang onto you as she dips her toe in the pool. Kick her off for good. Go no contact. By looking at this situation from 3rd person view it seems like she is using me you are May be right always choosed not to even think about her being cheating or using me but I guess I was wrong
heavenonearth Posted June 6, 2018 Posted June 6, 2018 Hello !! So me(23 years old male) and my gf dated for 6 years, we were the ideal couple for most of our friends.everything was great while we were in relationship we used to be there for eachother in every condition we were in college when we started dating we respected each other's privacy needs and dislikes. She used to say that I am the best thing that has happened to her and the way I stood beside her no one really does But as college ends we became post graduate she started making Excuses to stay away from me I asked her if it's the time for us to inform our parents so that we can take our relationship one step further to that she said yes but one day she called me and said not to contact her any more as her parents said no to our relationship later I found out that it was a lie she never asked her parents. I was heart broken at that time cried for months, she was out of States for 9 months where she made new male friends she started hanging out with them more than she did to me I told her to stay away if she can't commit to me as it distroys me mentally..during her stay in different state she called me and said it's all over b/w us. But she still maintined contact with me I thought she is also unable to live without me that's why she is in contact.so we talked daily afterwards she used to be rude on calls. She used to treat me as if it's my fault to love her. That continued for 4 months now I am again find my self trapped in her I check daily If she has messaged me or something but she doesn't she took that time while talking with me to get over me where as here I am feeling more and more attached with her..I love her alot we never had a serious fight i have done things for her that even her parents won't ever do cared for her like a baby of mine still she choosed to just go away hurts me alot i need help of you guys to either get over her or to make her realise how good our love is as she still confirms that she still loves me I can't believe you are supposed to be a college graduate... have you tried writing actual sentences?
MaleIntuition Posted June 6, 2018 Posted June 6, 2018 I can't believe you are supposed to be a college graduate... have you tried writing actual sentences? Most likely OPs first language isn’t English. Anyway: She is using you. Easing her own guilt by staying in contact. You should go no contact, there are some guides under the break-up section of this forum.
heavenonearth Posted June 6, 2018 Posted June 6, 2018 Most likely OPs first language isn’t English. Anyway: She is using you. Easing her own guilt by staying in contact. You should go no contact, there are some guides under the break-up section of this forum. OP stated he is from the US, so I think English is his first language. Either way, OP, I find it hard to figure out what you're saying, but it seems this relationship is long over and it's best if you move on.
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