HumanMachine Posted June 4, 2018 Posted June 4, 2018 I recently watched Netflix’s ‘Evil Genius’ and found Marjorie Diehl-Armstrong scarily reminiscent of my ex. The manipulative behaviour, the way she’d switch when she didn’t get her way & and the way she was NEVER wrong are just a few points which I could relate to my ex. It wasn’t her psychopathic behaviour or mental/physical abuse which ended the relationship, she cheated on me and told me the day after. I haven’t spoken to her since. She’s been out of my life for two months now (this doesn’t seem long, however for such an intense relationship..), and my life is so much better. Sleep, social life, work life, fitness have all had massive improvements. However stupidly I still miss her. I’m not entirely sure what I miss about her, I’d just like to see her again. Fortunately I have a mental block which stops me from even typing her name, let alone contacting her. I know time is the healer but is that always the case? Should I go for counselling as I was involved in such an abusive relationship?
Beachead Posted June 6, 2018 Posted June 6, 2018 (edited) I recently watched Netflix’s ‘Evil Genius’ and found Marjorie Diehl-Armstrong scarily reminiscent of my ex. The manipulative behaviour, the way she’d switch when she didn’t get her way & and the way she was NEVER wrong are just a few points which I could relate to my ex. It wasn’t her psychopathic behaviour or mental/physical abuse which ended the relationship, she cheated on me and told me the day after. I haven’t spoken to her since. She’s been out of my life for two months now (this doesn’t seem long, however for such an intense relationship..), and my life is so much better. Sleep, social life, work life, fitness have all had massive improvements. However stupidly I still miss her. I’m not entirely sure what I miss about her, I’d just like to see her again. Fortunately I have a mental block which stops me from even typing her name, let alone contacting her. I know time is the healer but is that always the case? Should I go for counselling as I was involved in such an abusive relationship? I would say time heals but it may not heal you all the way. Some wounds may be too deep and scars do remain. But if you are feeling improvements already, then that's a great sign. For you, I believe 2 months ago is likely when you began to truly heal even though you two may have broken up before then (I assume). Means it's still fresh. Makes sense why you miss her. Because of this, a more accurate estimate of your state of mind would be several months from now. Perhaps January after getting through the holidays. Also, the mental block you have is an indication that you are currently not 100%. Continue to work on yourself and give counselling a try. It wouldn't hurt to dig in there and see what's up. - Beach Edited June 6, 2018 by Beachead 1
DrReplyInRhymes Posted June 6, 2018 Posted June 6, 2018 You're doing well, your life is going great, do keep up the good work. Don't punish yourself for loving someone and continue to forum lurk. If you really truly loved her, it won't go away anytime soon, But time will eventually bring healing and with a new woman you'll swoon! 1
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