bad24 Posted June 4, 2018 Posted June 4, 2018 Hi guys, I have been a previous LS user but forgot my username etc. So decided to restart up and ask for some more advice! So earlier this year I started a new job, new routes etc. Nothing new about what to expect. Now on my journeys I started seeing, someone, who to me, was drop dead gorgeous. Say I started in January, by April I had seen her a fair few times 5 or 6 and generally just didnt do anything. Im sure she noticed me as we had traded glances, she had stood next to me etc multiple times so enough to know thst i am alive. Come early May and I muster up the courage to go speak to her once we get off the bus. She was friendly, receptive and also mentioned how she noticed me multiple times - so mutual we shared a few jokes. We got on our next bus and she happily came sat next to me and I found out she doesnt live too far from me and she also opened up abit more about her family etc. Name work etc usual details. So far so good id say, generally nice convo. Anyway, as I got chatting i forgot to get off at my stop and end up getting off the next stop but was all good and well we said bye, exchanged smiles and said we will see tomorrow. So we see eachother the second time few weeks later. This time she comes upto me taps me and we start talking on the way to the stop. We catch up she asks how works going and general conversation. I do the usual we chat we laugh sit on the next bus together and this timr i ask for her number or snapchat to stay in contsct. She kindly refuses. I shrug it off like nothing and we carry on chatting - stilll friendly, sociable and nothing awkward. By then we get off the bus together usual jokes and then say bye and she says see you tomorrow. Our third convo was again on the bus home - she was sitting away from me with someone inbetween once they had gone i asked her to move over but she doesnt have to if she wants - as expected she did. she asked how my day was we spoke more about our families had some laughs and then it was my stop and i tell her its time fot me to go. Now her reaction was like thst of what already? I played it cool - considering she didnt give me her number which is understandable and it was the same see you tomorrow (keep in mind sometimes we go a week or so before bumping into eachother). Can you see where my confusion lies???? Is she just being friendly to a guy shes seen on the bus or is there more to it or am I missing a trick. I wouldnt have expected her to csrry on talking to me, come upto me and tap or even sit by me if shes not interested. Keep in mind this is on buses alone, i dont work with her or anything. But then again she didnt give her number - whether im justifyimg it or not she doesnt look the type to do that but from previous experience if a girls interested she would give her numbrr but iv also had girls who are interested not give their details - usually shy. I am kinda and not kinda fussed meaning if shes not interested im not going to be hugely pained and my life wont crazily change. Iv never really had this before - usually its clear for me the position the other person is ie. Interested or not. Pretty stumped here. Advice - im leaning on just carrying on as i am really. She did say she will be leaving work soon to take time out to study.
smackie9 Posted June 4, 2018 Posted June 4, 2018 (edited) Just because a girl interacts with you or is friendly, doesn't mean she has a romantic interest towards you. She rejected your advances for a date, but likes having you as someone to socialize with during a boring bus ride. There is nothing to be confused about. Seriously, a girl can't simply chat with a guy without it being of sexual interest? It's unfair to us gals you know. We like to socialize too. I always found it to be a pain in the butt, when they assumed I wanted them. Edited June 4, 2018 by smackie9 1
alphamale Posted June 4, 2018 Posted June 4, 2018 But then again she didnt give her number that pretty much says it all
Author bad24 Posted June 4, 2018 Author Posted June 4, 2018 The whole point of me asking is to find out whether she has or not. Otherwise this isnt something im going to be investing time, money and effort in. Allow the socialising on bus rides id rather catch up with sleep. Cue the title - new interest which means clearly im interested if thats not mutual than so be it. Seriously why does it have to always be sexual? Guys arent always out for sex cut us some slack. My intention and sole purpose for writing this post which you clearly missed is that i have interest and am wanting to know whether she has or not. I work in a pretty mixed environment, so female colleagues and socialising isnt an issue here. What im wanting to know is if this is worth pursuing or wrapping up. This being here in the dating sectiion is to get advice in regards to that, seriously cant ask for advice without the feminist army coming out, honestly. Just because a girl interacts with you or is friendly, doesn't mean she has a romantic interest towards you. She rejected your advances for a date, but likes having you as someone to socialize with during a boring bus ride. There is nothing to be confused about. Seriously, a girl can't simply chat with a guy without it being of sexual interest? It's unfair to us gals you know. We like to socialize too. I always found it to be a pain in the butt, when they assumed I wanted them.
Author bad24 Posted June 4, 2018 Author Posted June 4, 2018 that pretty much says it all See here, think i just needed 3rd party validation to accept this!
smackie9 Posted June 4, 2018 Posted June 4, 2018 My advice: here's a rule of thumb....if you get any answer other than a YES, it's a no. We get many on here that get upset or confused, because they get a maybe, or I'm not sure, maybe later, or she keeps flirting or whatever and then nothing happens. I suspect some of these girls simply like the company or just do it for the attention, either way it's still a no. I hope you meet someone the does say YES! 1
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