ItSNotMe1 Posted June 3, 2018 Posted June 3, 2018 She is a friend of a friend (let's call it this way). We chatted a bit,flirted and she soon messaged me after we got home from the party we were at. Chatted for a few days and then she simply didnt respond to my message. Weekend comes, she shoots me a message to go out with her and I do. It was a bit awkward as she was pretty silent the whole time but whatever. I got home and we chat a bit so I ask her if she's up for going out next weekend and she says she cant make it and after few more messages she again doesnt respond. I do my best to just forget about it. After 2 weeks she shoots me a message to come to a place where she's at,but I'm out with my friends and tell her that I cant leave them so she should come to the place where I am at. Soon she arrives there and we have a great time out. Our friends went home and we went dancing and at the end of the night as we were dancing, she looks me in the eyes, smiles and kisses me. So we kiss a bit and I take her home, and she makes sure I arrived home good and again we chat for a few days and she simply stops responding. Next day I run into our mutual friend and she starts teasing me about what happened last night, so I guess her friend told her all about it, and mentions something in the line of me and her friend being together. I figure out she probably isnt really chatty type so as the saturday came I asked her if she'd like to go out with me,she says we should meet out as she allready has plans with her friends, so I go out with my friends and we come to the same place. She seems distant and uninterested the whole time so I just go away as I dont want to be a burden. 2 days ago I go to a bar and there she is, we say hi to each other but I go to sit at a different table across the room with my friends and she is turned with her back to me, she hasnt really looked at me the whole evening. I understand that she most likely isnt interested in me from this, but I wonder if anybody can clarify what happened here? Thank you and sorry if it's long.
introverted1 Posted June 3, 2018 Posted June 3, 2018 Why don't you ask her on a proper date? You'll have your answer soon enough.
carhill Posted June 3, 2018 Posted June 3, 2018 Why don't you ask her on a proper date? You'll have your answer soon enough. Hard to know these days but it appears the OP did ask the lady out: I ask her if she's up for going out next weekend and she says she cant make it and after few more messages she again doesnt respond. I do my best to just forget about it. She declined. Subsequent contact found her apparently disinterested. OP, welcome to LS and I'd call this a dry hole. As a caution, I'd suggest not playing into female 'friends' games. Women are experts at playing with men using group-think. Most of the time the winning move is not to play. Of course a guy wants that soft sweet smelling thing so they tend to grasp at any opportunity to get it. Resist and ask ladies out on proper dates presuming that is the custom in your culture. 1
preraph Posted June 3, 2018 Posted June 3, 2018 Could be a number of things. First of all, she is very interested in spending time with her friends. Although she invited you to join, she wasn't going to let you or any man take her away from her friends because this was their night. So she probably hoped you'd just become one of the gang and be fine with that. Probably she's more social than you and by now has realized you're a good guy but not going to fit into her world, so yes, not overly interested anymore but being social, isn't going to just terminate the friendship.
rightondude Posted June 3, 2018 Posted June 3, 2018 I understand that she most likely isnt interested in me from this, but I wonder if anybody can clarify what happened here? Nope. No one will ever be able to clarify it. You'll never know if it is was something you did, how you smell, if you moved too quick, too slow, too clingy, not acting interested enough ... You'll never know. Also, it could be indicative of something off with her. But again, you'll never really know if you could have done anything different and have it matter. Good luck, just be the best you you can be and don't sweat it. You'll be over her in a week.
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