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(Possible wishful thinking) Seems she’s implying something? UPDATE: She asked me out

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Sgthaytham Established Member

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It's rare but some times the other sex does ask the guy out on the date first! Don't say no! Say YES! Enjoy and have fun, for her get her a small un-open yellow rose.. If you see a purple rose get it, because those are rare in some areas.. Red one is okay but everyone gets that one.. Be different.. Put a smile on her face hide the rose behind your back or in your jacket. Say this is for you! Be creative my friend! I wish you the best of luck! :)

 

I like the flower idea. It’s unlucky that the market was yesterday, I could’ve got one then. There aren’t many flower shops in the area...

 

 

Seems like we’re going to cook a meal together, which’ll Be fun!

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I like the flower idea. It’s unlucky that the market was yesterday, I could’ve got one then. There aren’t many flower shops in the area...

 

 

Seems like we’re going to cook a meal together, which’ll Be fun!

 

Does she like flowers?

 

If I ever got my girlfriend flowers, she would be extremely weirded out.

 

Don't paint every girl the same way.

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Things went really well last night. She came over this time and we cooked a meal together.

 

We then spent the rest of the time in my room.

 

She opened up to me that she’s really timid, that it often makes her seems cold, and that she’s truly because she’s into me and is afraid to be hurt.

 

This afternoon she sent me a message thanking me for last night and that she enjoyed the time together.

 

Maybe she’s starting to open up with me and possibly even trusts me to an extent...

 

I know I’ve got to take it slow with her, and I’m willing to.

 

 

Thoughts?

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Things went really well last night. She came over this time and we cooked a meal together.

 

We then spent the rest of the time in my room.

 

She opened up to me that she’s really timid, that it often makes her seems cold, and that she’s truly because she’s into me and is afraid to be hurt.

 

This afternoon she sent me a message thanking me for last night and that she enjoyed the time together.

 

Maybe she’s starting to open up with me and possibly even trusts me to an extent...

 

I know I’ve got to take it slow with her, and I’m willing to.

 

 

Thoughts?

 

Time will tell. Pressuring or pushing would not be advisable. Cool, calm and a bit aloof. If it's there great if it's not that's fine too

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She likes your attention but doesn't like you.

sorry but maybe 5% of the women out there are really that scared and if they are they have no business trying to date.

 

every woman, and i mean EVERY woman who gave me any type of excuse that meant "taking it slow", after a month of me taking it slow either ghosted me and literally started banging some dude who treated them like crap or gave me the token sex then dropped me for some other dude they started banging immediately.

Who also treated them like crap.

 

doesn't matter which one this woman is, she is not ready/does not want to date you.

 

go find a woman who is ready to date and stop wasting your time.

 

Pro-tip when women have been this way with me now I just tell them to let me know when they are ready to date and if i'm single "cool" but for now we should just be friends.

 

Half disappeared because they didn't want to date me or be friends they just wanted a chump to be a BF without benefits.

 

The other half were all of a sudden no longer "scared" and dated me.

 

go figure.

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She's broken....move on....seriously. Don't pick those who are going to be difficult to date. Give her the friendship card and date someone else. I know there are a lot of guys out there think if they don't stick it out and try to make it work, it will be lost opportunity...well it is lost opportunity, but lost to dating someone else who really has np wanting things to progress into a serious relationship.

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She likes your attention but doesn't like you.

sorry but maybe 5% of the women out there are really that scared and if they are they have no business trying to date.

 

every woman, and i mean EVERY woman who gave me any type of excuse that meant "taking it slow", after a month of me taking it slow either ghosted me and literally started banging some dude who treated them like crap or gave me the token sex then dropped me for some other dude they started banging immediately.

Who also treated them like crap.

 

doesn't matter which one this woman is, she is not ready/does not want to date you.

 

go find a woman who is ready to date and stop wasting your time.

 

Pro-tip when women have been this way with me now I just tell them to let me know when they are ready to date and if i'm single "cool" but for now we should just be friends.

 

Half disappeared because they didn't want to date me or be friends they just wanted a chump to be a BF without benefits.

 

The other half were all of a sudden no longer "scared" and dated me.

 

go figure.

 

I agree. Someone either likes you or doesn't like you in that way.

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basil67 Established Member

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I'm with Smackie. Someone who's afraid to be hurt isn't strong enough to take the risks involved in starting a relationship.

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She likes your attention but doesn't like you.

sorry but maybe 5% of the women out there are really that scared and if they are they have no business trying to date.

 

every woman, and i mean EVERY woman who gave me any type of excuse that meant "taking it slow", after a month of me taking it slow either ghosted me and literally started banging some dude who treated them like crap or gave me the token sex then dropped me for some other dude they started banging immediately.

Who also treated them like crap.

 

doesn't matter which one this woman is, she is not ready/does not want to date you.

 

go find a woman who is ready to date and stop wasting your time.

 

Pro-tip when women have been this way with me now I just tell them to let me know when they are ready to date and if i'm single "cool" but for now we should just be friends.

 

Half disappeared because they didn't want to date me or be friends they just wanted a chump to be a BF without benefits.

 

The other half were all of a sudden no longer "scared" and dated me.

 

go figure.

 

Yeah, I'd second this. She's scared, she goes cold, she stops communicating.... It all points in the same direction. She doesn't want to get closer, and will most probably be banging someone else, if she isn't already.

 

Always take her distance as a sign of low interest, and disappear. Regard yourself as single and if she comes back showing interest, you can show her interest also if you are still single. But beware that she's in a loop and will always go cold again. Better to go for a woman who is consistent, or have Miss hot/cold in your life for fun but nothing more. Such a person isn't a sound emotional investment.

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We've all been hurt--why is she so precious?

 

There are absolutely no guarantees in this life about not ever being hurt. You live, you learn, you try, sometimes you succeed, sometimes you get hurt.

 

Toss her back into the box and find a woman who is ready for relationship. This one is not ready or interested in what you want... and that is cool, except she doesn't get girlfriend perks for being a slow-plodding friend on a glacial tangent.

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Sgthaytham Established Member

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Funny how these things end up...

 

Spoke to her a little bit today and she’s asked when we can next meet.

 

 

 

Not many girls like this out there, and to think you guys thought I should put her on the back burner...

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I think she likes you and is just really awkward and inexperienced. How old are you guys? I think you should give her a chance as long as she keeps on opening up more. And you should try for the kiss soon to make sure that the physical chemistry is really there :)

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Funny how these things end up...

 

Spoke to her a little bit today and she’s asked when we can next meet.

 

 

 

Not many girls like this out there, and to think you guys thought I should put her on the back burner...

 

Some times, the people on this forum are incorrect, which is fine. Every person is different, and we don't know this woman at all.

 

With that being said, you are talking to a bunch of people, some with a lot of experience dating.

 

This woman, if it were me, I'd probably have already nexted. She doesn't seem to have it all together yet, and do you want to live with this sense of "not knowing" or her disappearing for weeks for things like "studying?"

 

I went to a top university studying math. I took a week to study for my finals.

 

She just seems disingenuous to me.

 

When I started on this forum, I was STUBBORN. Everyone was wrong, and I knew better.

 

Sometimes, we just need to learn from feeling the pain firsthand. I would say that's how it is with love and dating as well.

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I think she likes you and is just really awkward and inexperienced. How old are you guys? I think you should give her a chance as long as she keeps on opening up more. And you should try for the kiss soon to make sure that the physical chemistry is really there :)

 

I’m 23, she’s 20.

 

Well yeah, she’s inexperience - she’s never once had a relationship, and I’m pretty sure she’s never been on a date either.

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