Not sure if I'm being ghosted or if something bad happened while she was in Mexico?

[Jasonntot]

edited. oh ok

[Jasonntot]

Here's a crazy update.

 

Finally heard from her this morning.

 

She said she was upset that I didn't contact her sooner between her trips so she assumed I had broken up with her so she got involved with a 57 year old wealthy Mexican man. He took her fishing and swimming in the ocean and while swimming she lost her left foot from a shark attack. She just got back to the US for medical care. I would call BS except that she sent me a photo of her with no foot and asked if I could bring her some Rose' wine to her house and potentially meet her parents.

 

So yeah. Sometimes crazy things happen. WTF.

 

Uh..yeah...She's not the one, mate.

[carhill]

Oh, my.....

[RoosterFrame]

Haha, of course I said no. But one hell of a story, amiright?

 

I actually talked to some of my friends who are professional animators about animating a short piece I'm writing about this insanity. They're excited.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

Here's a crazy update.

 

Finally heard from her this morning.

 

She said she was upset that I didn't contact her sooner between her trips so she assumed I had broken up with her so she got involved with a 57 year old wealthy Mexican man. He took her fishing and swimming in the ocean and while swimming she lost her left foot from a shark attack. She just got back to the US for medical care. I would call BS except that she sent me a photo of her with no foot and asked if I could bring her some Rose' wine to her house and potentially meet her parents.

 

So yeah. Sometimes crazy things happen. WTF.

 

What!? I assume you've already Googled shark attack photos (and Mexican news outlets) to see if you can find the photo she sent you and/or ascertain the validity of this tale.

[SunnyWeather]

Haha, of course I said no. But one hell of a story, amiright?

 

I actually talked to some of my friends who are professional animators about animating a short piece I'm writing about this insanity. They're excited.

 

That's harsh. What is wrong with you?

 

You weren't exclusive, you both were seeing other people, but like you said, you really liked her. It sounds like she felt the same.

 

How do you think you would be if you lost your left foot? Making fun of her with your friends is pure douche buggery. You were here saying how you were worried (and rightly so, it turns out). Then you find out a tragedy happened and you blow her off and make her the butt of your jokes?

 

Sure, asking you to meet her parents was a bit over the top, but if you really liked her (like you said in your post) you wouldn't make such a big deal about her expressing her feelings in a moment of vulnerability.

[RoosterFrame]

I was kidding. I declined the offer and wished her well in recovery.

 

It is an insane story.

 

No, I haven't Googled Mexican news outlets. Don't think I need to confirm anything at this point.

[SunnyWeather]

I was kidding. I declined the offer and wished her well in recovery.

 

It is an insane story.

 

No, I haven't Googled Mexican news outlets. Don't think I need to confirm anything at this point.

 

so, you don't believe her? why the sudden change in feelings, and the ease in not pursuing her anymore?

[RoosterFrame]

Of course I believe her.

 

The sudden change in feelings? Are you kidding? She basically revealed that she's not mentally or emotionally stable.

 

I could totally write an essay about everything wrong with this picture. I definitely don't have any ill-will toward her and really do wish her well, but that kind of behavior isn't really something I'm excited to sign up for.

[carhill]

Yup, continue on with the other lady and now you have a tale to tell your grandchildren about the one who swam with Jaws.

[SunnyWeather]

Of course I believe her.

 

The sudden change in feelings? Are you kidding? She basically revealed that she's not mentally or emotionally stable.

 

I could totally write an essay about everything wrong with this picture. I definitely don't have any ill-will toward her and really do wish her well, but that kind of behavior isn't really something I'm excited to sign up for.

 

what kind of behavior? jeez, you're calling her mentally and emotionally unstable after she loses her left foot? and asked you to come over?

 

meeting her parents is really something you could've talked with her about and how you felt about it probably being too soon, etc. You clearly were not looking for a real relationship, which is OK, but to make this out that she did something so horribly wrong and warrants you to laugh it off shows there was/is a shallowness toward her.

 

what's unstable is laughing about it with your friends.

[RoosterFrame]

You're completely entitled to your opinion but I disagree completely, @Sunnyweather.

 

You left out the part about how she told me she was trying to get back at me for not contacting her sooner between her travels so she slept with a 57 yo Mexican millionaire.

 

Get back at me? For not contacting her sooner? Sooner as in she was in town 3 days and I contacted her on the second day instead of the first. That's fine if she did that on her own volition, but as a means to get back at me for basically nothing? And then asking me to look past all that and come meet her parents and bring her wine? That doesn't seem odd to you? It's bizarre to me.

 

Also, I didn't say I laughed about with all my friends. I did say it is a great story because it's so far out of the norm. Haven't you read books or gone to the movies? I don't know if I'll do an animated piece about it but if I did, so what? Art is based on real life's inspirations.

Edited June 4, 2018 by RoosterFrame

[Purrrfect]

I call total BS on the shark attack.

 

Wish her well and move on.

 

A couple years ago a guy ghosted me after the 3rd Date . He contacted a month later with a ridiculous story. Do me out we were both fans of a really funny comedian he was supposed to take me the following weekend but he disappeared.

 

It’s incredibly childish to ghost when you can’t even be honest with someone.

Edited June 5, 2018 by Purrrfect
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[DontBreakEven]

I call total BS on the shark attack.

 

Wish her well and move on.

 

A couple years ago a guy ghosted me after the 3rd Date . He contacted a month later with a ridiculous story. Do me out we were both fans of a really funny comedian he was supposed to take me the following weekend but he disappeared.

 

It’s incredibly childish to ghost when you can’t even be honest with someone.

 

Wait what happened?

 

He ghosted you came back with a ridiculous story a month later then what? Your have a typo or something but are you saying he then asked you out again and you agree and he disappeared again?

[act00]

On meeting the parents -- It sounds to me like this was pretty much in jest. It sounds like her parents are staples in the household right now, helping her with her recovery, so meeting them...if the OP were to stop by as a friend or even consider continuing dating...the parents would just be there...it can't be avoided.

 

Let's remember, if this story is real, this woman lost a pretty important appendage and mobility is restricted. She can barely deal with basic activities of daily living and probably lost her ability to drive, at least until she gets medical clearance. She has a lot of appointments, probably further surgery to look forward to, getting fitted for a prosthesis, and physical therapy, and she needs help, and she's lucky to have parents who can be around to assist, so the whole commentary about "meet the parents?" Well yeah, they're kind of around now, and a fixture. I don't find the commentary that bizarre...if the story is true.

[newheart]

Here's a crazy update.

 

Finally heard from her this morning.

 

She said she was upset that I didn't contact her sooner between her trips so she assumed I had broken up with her so she got involved with a 57 year old wealthy Mexican man. He took her fishing and swimming in the ocean and while swimming she lost her left foot from a shark attack. She just got back to the US for medical care. I would call BS except that she sent me a photo of her with no foot and asked if I could bring her some Rose' wine to her house and potentially meet her parents.

 

So yeah. Sometimes crazy things happen. WTF.

 

This is just about one of the craziest things I've read on here. Initially, I missed the part about the photographic evidence. I mean, if this is real, I feel terrible for her ... but damn!

[ExpatInItaly]

You're completely entitled to your opinion but I disagree completely, @Sunnyweather.

 

You left out the part about how she told me she was trying to get back at me for not contacting her sooner between her travels so she slept with a 57 yo Mexican millionaire.

 

Get back at me? For not contacting her sooner? Sooner as in she was in town 3 days and I contacted her on the second day instead of the first. That's fine if she did that on her own volition, but as a means to get back at me for basically nothing? And then asking me to look past all that and come meet her parents and bring her wine? That doesn't seem odd to you? It's bizarre to me.

 

I'm with you on this one, OP.

 

I am guessing this older Mexican gent is the real reason she went to Mexico in the first place - in other words, this getaway with him was already planned and she wanted to keep that under her hat.

 

Fair enough, seeing as how she wasn't your girlfriend and free to do whatever she wanted. But to try to claim she thought you'd broken up with her, when she hadn't bothered talking to you about that first? Horse manure. She's backpedaling now that she's home and there are no more holidays with Mexican millionaires lined up.

 

You're very wise to stay away.